When should you stop confident presistance?

[Ross]

I just dont know what to do you with my mixed feelings. You see i really like you(list of stuff she loves about me, no negative anything). And ussualy when i'm in the " not looking for a guy mode" someone pulls me out of it and i get into a relationship. But with you its thats not happening... and i dont get why, because i really missed you during my trip, and i want to be with you. but something is holding me back. I think its because of what happend with my ex-boyfriend.. I went on a exchange trip for 5 months. When i came back he was kissing a other girl infront of my face and then went on vacation with her. But we were talking about living together and stuff. (i tried to change subjects dont wanna talk about ex's). I just cant believe i mis judged someone in that way.. and i think thats why im so resistant towards my own feelings now. I want too but something is telling me is shoudent.

How are you responding to this? You're probably going to have to address and dispel these hung-up feelings before being able to fully escalate with her. Relate with her and allow her to feel at ease with you. Remember to disqualify yourself as a boyfriend, and don't put too much pressure on thinking out and planning what will happen between the two of you. After that, she won't have nearly as many hang-ups about sleeping with you.