When timing sucks...

[Doncorleone]

So of course as luck has it I came across this girl at college with 5 days left to the semester. She was in a class with a friend of mine who showed me her social media accounts and I was impressed with her looks and overall sense of maturity. I took advice from Chase's book and reached out to her via Facebook the next morning saying my friend mentiomed this really attractive girl in his class (which was her) and I'd like to meet for a bite to eat or a cup of coffee. She replied back early that afternoon and apologized that she's super busy with finals (which is very possible) and didn't have time now to meet up, but wanted to stay in touch over the summer and meet up when we got back in the fall. I replied back a little while later saying I could understand she was bust and wanted to stay in touch as well, and looked forward to hanging out in the fall. Now my question is... Where do I go from here? Do I give it a few days and message her again? What do I say? Do I let it go and consider it a loss? Thoughts would be appreciated!!

 

[andersen09]

She would've made time if she met a guy she highly valued. Work on displaying yourself as someone that she won't run into often.

 

[Doncorleone]

Thanks, that's what I was thinking as well. Any recommendations of how to give off that vibe?

 

[Fuck This]

Thanks, that's what I was thinking as well. Any recommendations of how to give off that vibe?

You only give off that vibe if that is truly how you are living and perceive your value. You have places to go and things to do? Your free time is yours to pursue your interests and passions, and an interesting woman is welcome to join you if she can keep up. The question isn't "hey would you like to do X that I would do to spend time with you", but "I'm doing Y and you qualify to join me on this limited time engagement."

Now truthfully Finals is not the time to try to start a relationship of any type. I would have proposed a Finals Finished celebratory drink/lunch/coffee.

"Hey I'm done with Finals on Thursday afternoon and you can help me celebrate. When is your last Final?"

Below is your attitude, not a direct quote.

Not "Would you like to?'" not "will you?" but, "I'm giving you this opportunity, are you going to take it before it's gone?"

 

[andersen09]

Thanks, that's what I was thinking as well. Any recommendations of how to give off that vibe?

You only give off that vibe if that is truly how you are living and perceive your value. You have places to go and things to do? Your free time is yours to pursue your interests and passions, and an interesting woman is welcome to join you if she can keep up. The question isn't "hey would you like to do X that I would do to spend time with you", but "I'm doing Y and you qualify to join me on this limited time engagement."

Now truthfully Finals is not the time to try to start a relationship of any type. I would have proposed a Finals Finished celebratory drink/lunch/coffee.

"Hey I'm done with Finals on Thursday afternoon and you can help me celebrate. When is your last Final?"

Below is your attitude, not a direct quote.

Not "Would you like to?'" not "will you?" but, "I'm giving you this opportunity, are you going to take it before it's gone?"

This. Your vibe comes from real time. Just like confidence comes from accomplishments.
Vibe is something you can't fake. And even if you do, it lacks consistency in the long run.

 

[Doncorleone]

Thanks for the posts on here. Definitely learned a lot from this and found ways I need to improve...