When your tease doesn't land

[gameboy]

Does that mean anything?

I've starting to include more teasing recently in my flirtations.

With one of the girls, the one I was on a date with, it worked great. She laughed at every single one of them, and laughed hard. With two other girls, whom I had opened on the beach and who seemed receptive, my teases fell flat. They just looked to the side or reacted neutral, neither laughed nor seemed offended. Maybe a little bit offended, but I couldn't tell for sure. I understand that girls might be scared if they were offended to show that to a complete stranger. But they seemed willing to keep talking to me afterward.

Can you deduce anything from that? For example, that she's not attracted, or not in a flirty mood? Or are my teases just shit? I don't think they are, because with the girl on the date they worked.

 

[iceberg slim]

Hard to say. For me, when I'm feeling good and naturally flowing, my teases tend to be good. When I'm kind of nervous and "trying" to tease a girl it's more likely to be clunky and kind of off if not downright cringe. Also, I tend to tease better when I am legitimately interested in the girl as opposed mildly interested and kind of forcing it. So are you authentically teasing her from a place of feeling good and expressing your genuine interest, or are you nervously "gaming" her with a tease? I'd bet the nonverbals in the former are excellent (which constitute over 90% of what creates attraction), whereas those in the latter are not great. Also, whether or not you're warmed up probably plays a big role too. And yes, the girl herself is a factor--whether she likes you, is in a social mood etc.

 

[KnownUniverse]

The best way to know is by closing.

 

[TomInHo]

Girl on the date was attracted to you. I mean she dressed up for you and met you for a date so she was obviously more invested

Other two girls. . . who knows?

Only thing you can take from that was teasing didn't work on them and they probably needed a different approach

If something is not working in an interaction don't be afraid to drop it and still try to push things forward