Where and How To Meet New Girls

[TheVale]

Hello everyone! I've got a little bit of a problem.
I've been single for years, and I obviusly want to meet new girls in order to find a girlfriend. The problem is that almost all of my friends are in a relationship, thus they have no interest in hanging out in pick-up places as the disco, where it would be easy meet a girl. I would have to go alone, and I don't like the option at all. It is also difficult for me to pick up during day game: I'm nineteen and all the girls of my age or a couple years younger are super-cooncerned with reputation, so that the only option to meet new girls during day game is to join a social circle in which you now some people. But this hardly ever happens.
I seriously don't know what to do. I'm not that bad with girls either, I'm just inexpirenced. Also, I've noticed that the girls in my social circle often make statements that mean something like: "Look at our boyfriends, if they managed to get a girlfriend, of on earth is it possible that you are single? Wake up, boy!"
I just need to have the possibility to meet new girls, but how?

Thanks for your help.

 

[Adam101]

Hey TheVale, your best bet is going to be to learn the art of cold approach. I empathize with how you feel, as I used to think that if I didn't click with someone in class or get a formal friend introduction then I had no chance of meeting a cute girl. However, when you learn cold approach and make it a habit you start to see how many opportunities there really are. Best of all they are opportunities that you make rather than wait for. It's not even something that has to be mastered. The simple act of doing it will open up many new avenues for you.

Even though you don't like the idea of going out alone I still highly recommend it. I know it can be scary and intimidating at first but in the long run it will make you so much more versatile and flexible. Plus it will serve as an overall confidence booster which will augment the rest of your game many times over. You will also avoid using your friend or group as a social crutch and excuse not to make approaches. There's also the fact that you won't always have a buddy by you for motivation every time a cute girl crosses your path. For social proof reasons I used to think going out with a group was better but these days I almost see it as a hinderance since I become subject to group drama and whatever their whims are VS having full control over my situation and being able to focus on the task at hand IE meeting pretty new girls.

But if going stag isn't an option perhaps you could still convince your guy friends to go out with the purpose of helping you meet someone. You might need to provide a little incentive but I find that a lot of guys, if you can get them into a party hardy mode, become all about helping to get their bro laid.

Others here may disagree with me on this one because it goes against the principle of "don't take dating advice from women" but you might be surprised at how willing some of your female friends / friends girlfriends will be willing to help if you're up front about it. Girls enjoy playing matchmaker and like going out with a guy friend cause they can still get dolled up and feel good without having to worry about comparisons to and judgments from their friends. A word of caution though, unless you have a history with certain types of women a female friend will point towards girls who are so-so & definitely not as or more attractive than them. So don't let them compromise your standards if you go this route.

Hope at least some of that helps and best of luck!

 

[TheVale]

Thank you! The difficoult part is actually doing it...

 

[Zoro]

Like Adam said, there are cute girls to meet everywhere. Yes, certain places more than others. Health food stores, beaches, parks, concerts, bookstores,etc.

What I've found to be a good way to meet new women is looking at something you like to do and join a group or take classes in that subject. For instance, I like to dance, so I go to salsa and tango classes which typically have cute girls there. Also once you got some moves you can take them to the dance club.

Meetup.com is a great place to start, there are lots of different groups from cooking to language learning.

But honestly try to start seeing everywhere as an opportunity to meet women. Go about your day, living your life, balls deep in your projects and you'll find that women pop up like out of a toaster. Go butter some bread

 

[TheVale]

Ahahah thank you

 

[Bboy100]

Also, try Online dating. Keep in mind its a lot different from both Social Circle and cold approach in that its all about your pictures and not so much about what you say/how you behave. But its definitely a very good venue for meeting women.

 

[TheVale]

Yeah, yesterday I got Tinder, and I'm giving it a try. Still no matches, though

 

[Bboy100]

You need better pictures. On Tinder, your pictures can't be just "average" or "above average". They have to be exceptional. I'm a relatively good looking guy and I had online dating accounts for 2 yrs. I got 0 dates. Then one day, I got my photos done professionally. This was around last Christmas. Since then, I've lost count of how many dates I've gotten. But its easily over 20.

I'm not saying they necessarily have to be done professionally, but they have to be really solid. You can't be halfassing them even a little bit. Or it will kill your success.

Good news is, once you have your pics handled, it takes almost no skill to get a girl out. You just have to start a conversation, ask her a few questions about herself then ask her out. It takes no "game" so to speak.

 

[TheVale]

You're right, my pictures aren't that great. I'll ask someone to shoot me some. Ah, since I play the guitar, do you think I should upload some pics of me on stage or I shold keep it for me and play it as an "interest jolly" to use later?

 

[Bboy100]

The guitar thing could make a good pic. Especially if you have an actual audience in it. It would definitely achieve at least a little bit of Social proof for you. Having said that, I don't play an instrument, so I've never tested anything like that out. So my answer is: it would probably make a good pic, but idk

I can't find the study atm, but a while back, OkCupid did an analysis of a bunch of its members to see what kind of pics got the best responses. The results were:

1. A good portrait picture of yourself not smiling and looking down and away worked best.
2. Pics with animals, particularly dogs got more responses
3. Ab shots worked well for men below age 30.

https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-m ... lenty-fish
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Check that article out. It's super long and most of it isn't relevant to Tinder. But the stuff it says about profile pics is still very useful. Its mostly what I base my pics off of.

 

[Adam101]

All the above being said, something like Tinder in my view is better as a supplement to your dating life rather than using it as your primary tool. If you "match" with someone via walking by and being attracted to them, by approaching the girl at least she has to deal with you as a living, breathing person. With Tinder you're judged on one highly manipulated moment captured in time which makes it a particularly rough uphill struggle without the right pic mix. The environment favors women heavily so all of them have their pickiness magnified ten fold. Definitely add it to your arsenal, but I still think you will learn a lot more by focusing on cold approach and subsequently reap the rewards.

 

[TheVale]

Bboy. thanks for the wonderful link.
Adam, I never thought to use it as my primary option. It's just a nice distraction that could bring some (or a lot of) fun.

 

[onlyshallow]

My personal favorite really is any college campus, especially the library. Girls are hot, cool and smarter than club girls. Also, there's absolutely no competition and no reasons to be anxious as everybody is focusing on what they're doing. + you get extra points for the boldness of trying your luck during the day, when done correctly. Really wish you luck man!

 

[Bboy100]

My personal favorite really is any college campus, especially the library

Onlyshallow,

I've actually been wanting to do this. But I'm unsure of a socially calibrated way to go about it- I feel like the library is a place where girls are usually doing something of relative importance. Like, they're actually studying or preparing for something. It's not like a coffee shop or the street where they could just "hanging out". Also, being loud (voice fundamental) isn't what people would expect in a library. Do you just grab your balls and approach girls anyways? Or do you have a certain method which is more socially calibrated then just walking up and starting a conversation?

Along the same lines, I've been looking to approach girls @ the gym in my college campus. Same story- they're actually doing something of relative importance to them and I feel like approaches would be less welcome than normal circumstances. Any socially calibrated ways to approach?