WHERE MY EXPERTS AT? STUCK ON THIS ONE..

[Anonymous]

I met a girl through a mutal friend. Since I met her she was on my mind and i mentioned i wanted to see her again..she seemed kind of guarded like 'why im no one special' to which i just replied awe..and left it alone..later that day she said she was working and wanted to have a few drinks while she worked(shes allowed to do this in her profession) and asked if i would pick her up and drive her truck home spend the night and get my car in the morning..im not sure if she plans on using me as a DD or shes interested but i was down to find out..she got out of work at four in the morning and she was extremly flirtatious but tipsy so i didnt read into it too much..she started opening up to me about where she was at in life goals things of that nature all good signs..got back to her house we layed down together but she said her head was spinning and we ended up watching a lil tv and joking around but she fell asleep pretty quick. Her kids were in her bed we slept together on the couch she could of just left me on the couch and went upstairs but she didnt.. In the morning since she wasnt tipsy i figured thatd be where id figure out where her head was at..similar energy level though she told me to text her and we parted ways..i texted her later that day me: hey had a good time scooping you from work and hanging out for a little bit, hopefully we could do something agian soon. her: def me too! me: im about to take a nap but its just not the same without your hair in my face i guess i got use to that real quick lol. her: awww..next day she hits me up around 7..her: hey what are you doing. me: having dinner with a couple of buddies, ill be free in a little while though and i dont have much else planned if you wanted to do something(assuming if she wants to know what im up to thats where she was getting at)....no reply...so after two hours i tell her i just got home and she could let me know depending on what she had going on and she texted me back right away saying she was at the movies with her sister and im like cool..3 hours later at around 12 30 am she texts me..her: hey are you awake. me: yeah whats up. her: just getting home about to hop in the shower my kids wanted to stay at their grandmas what are you doing? me: just hanging out kind of being a night owl but i do want my arms around you to be blunt about it lol. her: oh really?? me: mhm..now i expected the invite it seemed like all the signs were leading up to that but she texted me less then twenty minutes later and said she was falling asleep and said goodnight to which i just replied good night but i couldnt figure out why she didnt follow through with anything and i thought maybe she was looking for me to be more agressive and i screwed up..but i didnt let it bother me and i left it alone..two nights later she texts me..her: hi, me: hey hows your night: her: good you? send me a pic lol me: send you a pic? lol ok but i get one too! lol we talked for a few and i thought ok im still in it..she asked why i like her so much and i told her i wasnt over thinking it but it felt good being with her and i wanted to do that more.. i asked what she was up to that weekend and suggested maybe we could do something to which she replied..that would be nice i joked around saying we should take her truck to which she got pretty deep on me and explained how its not a toy the last boyfriend she had wrecked three of her vehicles shes scared to lose what she worked for and she doesnt take things for granted and even though she makes six figures a year and drives a sixty thousand dollar truck shes not the stuck up type and she would rather be in my car because guys never take her anywhere to which i replied that i understood where she was coming from i was sorry to hear things were like that and told her id be honored to which she said good! the next day she hit me up again but it was just small talk..the weekend rolled around i didnt hear from her but i texted her on sunday saying hey my weeks tied up with school and work but i just found my self thinking about how i wanted to take you out, dinner next weekend? no reply...next night i hit her up asking her how her night was...no reply....i give it a week of radio silence and text her..me: hey im dissapointed you went ghost, just for the record..her: hey im sorry ive been crazy busy this week havent even had time to look at my emails! hows your day going..me: ohh welcome back its ok just work..and i initiated trying to make plans agian..her: so what are our plans lol..me: you know what? theirs a show in a few weeks i was thinking of grabbing tickets for but im not trying to wait that long to see you lol so just in the meantime i figured id keep it simple and we could find an interesting spot to do dinner maybe a couple drinks..her: Cool! me: ok we'll set up that game plan..her: ok ..next day she texts me.. her: hi.. me: hey just getting into class how was your day..back n forth small talk so once again me: what you up to this weekend..her: im not sure might work saturday, you? me: im off so i figured id see what your up to and maybe we could work something out..no reply...i texted her later that evening asking her how her night was...nothing...two days later i hit her up again to which she replied and we talked back n forth a little bit....so i intiated again with trying to ger her out by saying.. me: so like i was saying if your up to it their was this place i kind of wanted to check out this weekend and i thought what better of a way to show you a good time lol.. no reply..weekends here..nothing...sooo i know shes not talking to another guy...and i feel like im playing this wrong..shes giving me the IOIS but i feel like shes looking for something from me or shes putting me through a shit test and shes either the guarded type or shes not sure of me...im almost going on week three with this and im about to either give up or go for all or nothing because if somethings gonna happen it needs to happen quick..shes definitly not afraid to speak her mind...she did mention at one point that shes going through a mid life crisis kind of feeling because she feels stuck in life ect ect..shes also 28 im 23..i could leave it alone or go for another approach if its not to late..just looking on in opinion in how to interprete this..i followed all the rules, i think? hm wheres my inner PUA usually i can read the situation and respond accordingly but not on this one..

 

[trashKENNUT]

dontneed1,

Possible mid life crisis, a lot of past trauma, like her ex boyfriend and the truck, her kids, her work, and probably you can name anything. But then, you were somewhat drown with her lifestories via phone and text. something that can be easily avoided, although i would not say it's easy, because it's subtle.

Every guy will sometimes drown with women's lifestories. and trust me, they not just telling you.


Anyway leave the ball in her court, if she text, make it she text more than usual, and be neutral, and don't reschedule anything.

Zac

 

[Franco]

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[Tyme2k]

That was the hardest post/wall of text I ever read. Try to make it easier to read, paragraphs, line break for text convos, etc..

OK so I feel like you fell into the trap of chasing pretty quick. You had a good frame in your responses to her dumb "why do you like me" questions, but I feel you were incongruent with your actions later. You kept texiting her every day for a meet conveying you were not busy,"I have nothing to do"

She is your only option which seems to be of course your biggest mistake. Correct me if i'm wrong..

Your investment in this is HUGE compared to hers and seh likes to keep you on the hook. I'll bet she is doing this to multiple other guys and it helps validate her ego.

Now you need to flip the investment and get her chasing you, stop texting her and when she texts you and tries to initiate text convos(which you should be avoiding anyway) you either want to not text her back or send short answers like she was. See below your investment vs hers:

me: you know what? theirs a show in a few weeks i was thinking of grabbing tickets for but im not trying to wait that long to see you lol so just in the meantime i figured id keep it simple and we could find an interesting spot to do dinner maybe a couple drinks..
her: Cool!

me: ok we'll set up that game plan..
her: ok

Then she goes on to NOT REPLY to you asking with another long winded text. For her to gain attraction you will have to use this tactic. When she asks you questions/initiates use short responses or none at all. Then game OTHER girls. Girls sense this even via text I do it ALL the time. You will see her ramp up the investment and text you more often. If you ignore her and do't hear from her in a couple days send her a text but don't ask a question. Make a statement, my usual is "Hey u, been a great week, hope you're doing well." "Hey silly girl, just saw xxx made me think of u, hope ur doing good."

So in a nutshell:

Stop texting her, when you do keep it short, 1-2 words.
Game other girls and get more options, don't initiate until you have atleast two others.
Do not chase
Lower your investment

I'd like to add if it's late and she asks you what you're doing again, keep the investment short, but GET TO HER PLACE. You had the in and didn't capitalize, this I believe was the turning point.

 

[Anonymous]

Thanks for the insight..