Hello guys,
Just wanted an opinion on a sticking point I'm tackling these days: neediness in friendship.
Before this let me say, I moved to paris a while back.
The only person I knew was my girlfriend, whom I broke up with soon after I arrived.
I've started dating another girl right away and banging some girls here and there in the meantime.
I'm quite advanced when it comes to women.
BUT, on friendship, I'm struggling a bit.
What I'm noticing is that each time I talk to a dude I'd be interested in befriending, I feel like I used to feel when talking to women at first.
My facial expressions are completely out of control and I feel fucking needy.
Like ' oh my god, I must befriend this guy'.
Even though I'm sure improving my body language would help, I think the reason I still don't have a lot of friends here is that I'm not approaching enough of them.
I've found a few friends of course, but the one who was more willing to go out with me, I'm not really enthusiastic about.
I feel like, If I have to force myself to go out with a friend, I'd rather put that time into finding a new one. ( lowering standards is ok, but only to a certain extent)
I get very disappointed whenever a friend I'm trying to make in the gym doesn't give me attention, while with girls I absolutely don't feel that way.
This is because with girls, I have more abundance.
One says no? You talk to another one in the street, subway, or any other places.
With friends, i don't feel you can really do this.
So my question is: where do you find cool, ambitious people?
I play golf, and the golf club is a great place to meet ambitious men ( though not necessarily young). But here in Paris I can't afford it yet, so a place I'm left with is the gym ( a very good place where men are still quite ambitious - he gym requires consistency. The ambitious man's main quality). But then? what else?
Where do you suggest to find ambitious men to befriend?
I've tried meetups and have no intention of giving it up, but for the moment, what I found is a lot of nerds with no social skills.
Open to your suggestions
NoLimits
Just wanted an opinion on a sticking point I'm tackling these days: neediness in friendship.
Before this let me say, I moved to paris a while back.
The only person I knew was my girlfriend, whom I broke up with soon after I arrived.
I've started dating another girl right away and banging some girls here and there in the meantime.
I'm quite advanced when it comes to women.
BUT, on friendship, I'm struggling a bit.
What I'm noticing is that each time I talk to a dude I'd be interested in befriending, I feel like I used to feel when talking to women at first.
My facial expressions are completely out of control and I feel fucking needy.
Like ' oh my god, I must befriend this guy'.
Even though I'm sure improving my body language would help, I think the reason I still don't have a lot of friends here is that I'm not approaching enough of them.
I've found a few friends of course, but the one who was more willing to go out with me, I'm not really enthusiastic about.
I feel like, If I have to force myself to go out with a friend, I'd rather put that time into finding a new one. ( lowering standards is ok, but only to a certain extent)
I get very disappointed whenever a friend I'm trying to make in the gym doesn't give me attention, while with girls I absolutely don't feel that way.
This is because with girls, I have more abundance.
One says no? You talk to another one in the street, subway, or any other places.
With friends, i don't feel you can really do this.
So my question is: where do you find cool, ambitious people?
I play golf, and the golf club is a great place to meet ambitious men ( though not necessarily young). But here in Paris I can't afford it yet, so a place I'm left with is the gym ( a very good place where men are still quite ambitious - he gym requires consistency. The ambitious man's main quality). But then? what else?
Where do you suggest to find ambitious men to befriend?
I've tried meetups and have no intention of giving it up, but for the moment, what I found is a lot of nerds with no social skills.
Open to your suggestions
NoLimits