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bullet444,
Chase actually summarize it all in his article, but if you want what the guys discuss in the past. Checkout my very old post. "Getting Girls Back".
Getting Girls Back
Zac
bullet444 said:
Chase actually summarize it all in his article, but if you want what the guys discuss in the past. Checkout my very old post. "Getting Girls Back".
Getting Girls Back
Zac
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From what iv read over my time looking at GC content i think the general consensus
is to just move on go meet more women
Improve your fundamental etc.
and by the time you have done that your ex might want you back but you have probably met 100 girls which are 10 times better than her (probably not 100 just for example sake)
To sum it up the best way to get her back is by not trying to get her back
is to just move on go meet more women
Improve your fundamental etc.
and by the time you have done that your ex might want you back but you have probably met 100 girls which are 10 times better than her (probably not 100 just for example sake)
To sum it up the best way to get her back is by not trying to get her back
Im not looking into how to get an ex to comeback, there are plenty of advice and articles out there. I am actually looking for " real life stories" of someone getting their ex as it seems that there really isnt that many out there. It kinda tells me that all the advice thats is out there is not really effective and better off to just move on.
Thats all
Thats all
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bullet444,
It's not that it is not effective.
I can tell you that whatever we discuss there is no BS. It's really gold nuggets and if you take Chase's article, it will help and improve your chances. But yea, you probably right. It is not really effective 100% only because girls do move on.
Really do take some time and read our stuff. I cannot convince anybody that Girlschase is the real deal. but it's the closest to perfection as you can get in the market right now if you looking for dating advice.
Zac
bullet444 said:
It's not that it is not effective.
I can tell you that whatever we discuss there is no BS. It's really gold nuggets and if you take Chase's article, it will help and improve your chances. But yea, you probably right. It is not really effective 100% only because girls do move on.
Really do take some time and read our stuff. I cannot convince anybody that Girlschase is the real deal. but it's the closest to perfection as you can get in the market right now if you looking for dating advice.
Zac
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Zac,
What the bullet444 is saying is true. We did have that discussion a long time ago about how to get a girl back, but I actually was unable to get the girl back that I had in mind during that discussion. Likewise, most guys fail to get girls back in situations like mine as well.
On GC, we don't promote guys go after girls they lost. We CAN tell you, "here is your BEST shot at getting this girl back, but know that the odds are never in your favor." (Hunger Games anyone?)
There are success stories, but what most guys don't realize is that their success usually has a LOT less to do with what they did AFTER the fact and a lot more to do with how badly they screwed up before things went south. If you screwed up pretty badly, your chances of getting a girl back are uber slim. And if she's already at the point where she basically doesn't want to see you, then it PROBABLY means you screwed up THAT badly.
- Franco
What the bullet444 is saying is true. We did have that discussion a long time ago about how to get a girl back, but I actually was unable to get the girl back that I had in mind during that discussion. Likewise, most guys fail to get girls back in situations like mine as well.
On GC, we don't promote guys go after girls they lost. We CAN tell you, "here is your BEST shot at getting this girl back, but know that the odds are never in your favor." (Hunger Games anyone?)
There are success stories, but what most guys don't realize is that their success usually has a LOT less to do with what they did AFTER the fact and a lot more to do with how badly they screwed up before things went south. If you screwed up pretty badly, your chances of getting a girl back are uber slim. And if she's already at the point where she basically doesn't want to see you, then it PROBABLY means you screwed up THAT badly.
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Franco,
Well... i don't want people to not use the stuff here and just label "this doesn't work". but you explain it the rest. so it's good. that's the feeling i got.
Zac
Well... i don't want people to not use the stuff here and just label "this doesn't work". but you explain it the rest. so it's good. that's the feeling i got.
Zac
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I got my ex back after 5 months.
She broke up with me, for ambiguous reasons. I tried getting her back for about 4 days then went into "f*ck it" mode. Complete no contact. I worked out, dated, and it was also my first semester of law school. I was busy...but naturally so, I wasn't doing it to get over her. Maybe for the first week not talking to her I forced myself to the gym. Once I started sleeping with other girls it was rather easy to not call, though I didn't completely forget about her.
5 months later she called me randomly, came over. I was significantly more muscular as I had basically been a gym rat since the break up. I had slept with at least 10 girls since the break up. I had been through a "break up"...since the break up. I was different. Me and my ex hooked up that night she came over and we started dating again. But I didn't commit to a relationship with her. I had found girls "better" than her...at least better for me. Girls who were more freaky, more traveled, more...interesting.
So I got my ex back but we didn't restart a relationship, just sex. She has moved to New York since then. This was 2 years ago. I haven't heard from her in 6 months.
She broke up with me, for ambiguous reasons. I tried getting her back for about 4 days then went into "f*ck it" mode. Complete no contact. I worked out, dated, and it was also my first semester of law school. I was busy...but naturally so, I wasn't doing it to get over her. Maybe for the first week not talking to her I forced myself to the gym. Once I started sleeping with other girls it was rather easy to not call, though I didn't completely forget about her.
5 months later she called me randomly, came over. I was significantly more muscular as I had basically been a gym rat since the break up. I had slept with at least 10 girls since the break up. I had been through a "break up"...since the break up. I was different. Me and my ex hooked up that night she came over and we started dating again. But I didn't commit to a relationship with her. I had found girls "better" than her...at least better for me. Girls who were more freaky, more traveled, more...interesting.
So I got my ex back but we didn't restart a relationship, just sex. She has moved to New York since then. This was 2 years ago. I haven't heard from her in 6 months.
Back when I first started learning this stuff I split with my girlfriend of 6 months, I wanted to stay friends so we met a couple of times slept with her and we almost started dating again until I told her something had changed for the better that used to annoy her. At that point she got really angry with me for not being like that when we were together and she didn't talk to me, then got a new boyfriend.
I would see certain 'Statuses' on MSN that were clearly targeted at me, i.e. 'Never been happier than I am right now'.
After about 4 months I bumped into her and we talked briefly, at that point I also decided she had moved on and decided to move on. 2 months later she messaged me on MSN, we talked for a bit before she asked to meet up. We dated for 2 years after that splitting up while I was traveling, before briefly getting back when I returned but she never seemed to recover from me being able to leave her for a year.
The advice I've read is, break contact, but occasionally have a moment where you see something that reminds you of them and text her (i.e. "Hey just saw 'x' reminded me of how we used to 'y'! Hope you're doing great. Don't ask for a reply, don't expect a reply, don't try to arrange anything. If she contacts you, be aloof, you're just being friendly, you can remind her of the fun you had if it fits with the conversation but don't ask to meet up, don't let her think you want her back, end the conversation first. It has to be her wanting to get you back, she has to feel like you're over her but still friends with her, if she feels that and she wants you back, she'll try to meet up with you.
It also won't hurt to be dating, having fun and improve yourself in someway.
I would see certain 'Statuses' on MSN that were clearly targeted at me, i.e. 'Never been happier than I am right now'.
After about 4 months I bumped into her and we talked briefly, at that point I also decided she had moved on and decided to move on. 2 months later she messaged me on MSN, we talked for a bit before she asked to meet up. We dated for 2 years after that splitting up while I was traveling, before briefly getting back when I returned but she never seemed to recover from me being able to leave her for a year.
The advice I've read is, break contact, but occasionally have a moment where you see something that reminds you of them and text her (i.e. "Hey just saw 'x' reminded me of how we used to 'y'! Hope you're doing great. Don't ask for a reply, don't expect a reply, don't try to arrange anything. If she contacts you, be aloof, you're just being friendly, you can remind her of the fun you had if it fits with the conversation but don't ask to meet up, don't let her think you want her back, end the conversation first. It has to be her wanting to get you back, she has to feel like you're over her but still friends with her, if she feels that and she wants you back, she'll try to meet up with you.
It also won't hurt to be dating, having fun and improve yourself in someway.
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Due to the emotions that are involved it seems really complex and difficult, but the answer is pretty simple.
My ex that I was with for ~9 years would love to have me back, even after I begged her profusely not the end the relationship.
Basically:
1. I marked her off my list of sexual options
2. Then I went and improved myself
Every so often she'll send me a text at 2 or 3 in the morning asking to come over.
J.J.
My ex that I was with for ~9 years would love to have me back, even after I begged her profusely not the end the relationship.
Basically:
1. I marked her off my list of sexual options
2. Then I went and improved myself
Every so often she'll send me a text at 2 or 3 in the morning asking to come over.
J.J.