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This one was pretty unique for me, so wanted to have it here.
It all began yesterday night, when I just decided to go out in the city in the middle of the rain after midnight, to walk around and do approaches. I really wasn't feeling it but wanted to go for the habit, and in the end I did get some numbers. One of them, a girl I approached telling her I love her whole vibe, because she was wearing some kind of pink dress with a black coat with a hoodie in the middle of the rain, felt quite into me. I learned she was from Finland and in the city only for the weekend visiting a friend from her country. The friend was there with her when I approached by the way, but she was fairly cool as well. We exchanged numbers fast because they were grabbing an uber to get home, and then she told me to call her, because she has no internet here. I did, we talked for a bit, can't say I understood a lot with noise, and her kinda drunk talking, but she felt interested.
For the next day, aka today, I had another date planned in the evening. I went there, brought the girl all the way home, but then when I went for the kiss, she pushed me away, said she finds me attractive but is not in a period of her life that she wants to connect with people. Anyway this is another story, but I mention it, because due to this date I wasn't sure whether I will even be free to text the other girl and meet. I decided to send her a text early in the evening, saying I hope she enjoyed her day and asking for her plans. She said she was going for dinner with her friend and then maybe out and asked for mine. I said I was meeting friends, didn't want to mention the other date, and that I may go out later.
After the end of the date, I sent her a text asking what she is up to. At the same time I went to a club I had won free entrance. Quite old crowd, and although I don't like very young crowds either this was a bit too much for me, but the entrance was free, and the girl that was organising told me I could get my friends in for free as well. So as this Finish girl texted me they just finished dinner and headed to the bar, I told her to come by with her friend and I can get them both in. As I was waiting for the response I was also thinking what to do, because this place was not very promising seduction wise, few older women that could be available, although I feel I noticed a bunch of them checking me out. I was thinking of maybe going somewhere else, but then the Finish girl called and said they were coming in a bit.
Before they arrived I talked just momentarily with some girls around and also danced a bit to get in the mood, and as they came another funny thing happened. The girl that was organising the event came up to me and told me that if my friends have come, she can bring us to a lounge with a free champagne included, since I had won it anyway. I just asked the girls, of course they agreed, and we went to a lounge behind the DJ like VIPs and after a while they also brought a champagne bottle with fire, and I was thinking wow that is cool, but also too much.
I mean I felt it looked like I just booked a table with a champagne for these random girls I met in the street and it felt strange to me. I could feel they were not the crazy party types of going to bottle service tables or anything, they were well educated gals, both above 30, and although they did enjoy the whole vibe as I was serving them the champagne I could feel a: "What's up with this guy?".
After a bit, I was sitting opposite to them with the table in the middle, so I just told them to come there and sit together at the same couch to be able to talk a bit better. They complied, and I was on the left, the girl I liked in the middle, and her friend on the right. My girl was a bit drunk already, and her friend started asking me a bunch of questions about how I booked the table, who I know, etc. I told her the full truth, that I won the contest and they just told me now I could use the table, and a small lie of my friends that I met before going to another club.
The vibe was good in general, I was probably not the most comfortable because I wasn't really used to handling a situation were you just take two girls randomly in a lounge with bottle service, and in a bit we all stood up and started dancing.
My girl was going crazy quite a bit, but damn I liked her moves and I told her, and she also pretty quickly started grinding on me, taking my hands and putting them on her belly from behind. She told me she loves dancing and has done ballet and this is nothing, so I was like I can't wait to see the rest. As we were on the dance floor I also tried to keep some contact with her friend, because I knew she would be crucial. My girl also asked me my age, and I had them both guess, they said a bit older as I usually get, and when they learned the real one my half drunk girl told me there is a big age gap and I am too young and she is old, to which I remained quite unreactive and responded I like her energy anyway. And after just a bit, she came back telling me she doesn't care about age, to which I said I don't either.
We stayed there for some time dancing, them together, and also me with my girl. At some point they went to the toilet so I walked down to the normal dance floor in the middle of the club and started dancing there, they came back and we kept dancing for a bit and afterwards we went and sat back at out table. During this whole process I was kinda letting my girl's friend lead quite a bit, because I felt that this would be the best regarding building her trust and showing I respect her. I also told her at some point she feels like the older responsible sister that takes care of her friend, and she laughed and told me they in fact take turns.
When we sat down again, my quite drunk by now girl, had hurt her foot while dancing, so she was kinda resting her legs on my lap, and I was giving a small massage. At some point she asked me to kiss the point she was feeling pain, I did, and then I asked her to kiss my cheek, because I was feeling pain there, and not only she did that, but she also went down towards my neck and tongue kissed it for few seconds, firing me up. She also randomly told me she has to tell me now she hasn't shaved lately, to which I said I don't care. There were some other things happening, they met another guy from their country randomly and talked to him for a bit, while I remained chilling back at the table, then we danced a bit more, and eventually we agreed with my girl's friend to leave and go somewhere else.
Now I wasn't sure where to take them, I kinda mentioned my place in passing in the middle of everything, but didn't really focus on it, because my girl looked like she really wanted more partying, and the other one was also like either we go to another bar or home. So we took an uber, went to an area with bars close by, and during this whole period I was holding hands with my girl, hugging, being close, we even gave a short kiss in the cab, as she was constantly resting her face on mine, basically rubbing it, she even asked me to tell her how to say I like you in my language, and she said it back to me.
As we arrived at the bar area, I proposed a karaoke, they didn't like it, so I then I proposed two other bars I know with free entrance around, and we decided to go to the closest one. Now this bar we ended up going is full of guys, really, I think I just realised today that I had a girl I liked with me how many guys hit on her, and were even running their hands on her whenever they could. The place was packed, so it was fairly straightforward to just have close contact with someone. But honestly I wasn't really fazed by all that, probably because I could feel that my girl liked me.
Every time another guy was making moves I was simply chilling back, and maybe I was subtly holding her hand behind her back, or stroking her back a bit, but in general, she was the one coming back to me to talk, dance, grind and generally stay close. The one time I got more proactive was when she wanted to go to the bar to order drinks, but as she was drunk already, one guy was basically holding her from behind, leading her through the crowd towards the toilets I assumed, so I was like ok I can let her do anything and come back, but this is getting too much, I am not letting a random guy lead her around and maybe even eventually have sex with her in the toilet. Now it is quite possible this wouldn't have happened, but I simply didn't want to remain passive as she was moving further away from me and her friend with random dudes around her, so I went there in front of her, basically stayed close, put my hands on her waist, and it was pretty straightforward that she focused on me again since we had some history, and the other guy almost immediately took his hands off and I didn't even notice where he disappeared. I kept talking to her for a bit, she even said some random stuff from how I am too skinny for her or how she is too sexual, to which I still remained quite unreactive, and brought her back to her friend.
Regarding her friend, in this second bar, I interacted even more with her, we both agreed how weird this place is with all the guys literally jumping on every woman they see, and even rolled our eyes together on some strange attempts of conversation some guys made towards her and my girl. We had created a bit of a vibe that we are on the same team, and most of the other people here are weirdos on the hunt, and that's when I spontaneously also told her that I really like her friend. It was genuine, and she told me yeah not only you, and I told her that I know , but I am saying it to her because I want her approval. Not for my desires, these I have and they are real, but because I want her as a friend to know how I feel. And I believe this shifted something in her permanently. She immediately said that I am a kind guy, and then when i mentioned that my girl said I am too skinny for her, her friend was like: Nah, you are pretty charming.
Eventually what happened is after a bunch of more dancing, grinding, slight kissing, and very sensual close contact with my girl, the friend wanted to go at some point, but she was fully fine with leaving us together. The issue was that my girl was pretty drunk and attached to the friend. We were leaving the bar and they were talking to each other in their language and her friend even told me that she was saying to her she is free to go with this god tonight. At that moment I was talking and holding my girl very close, telling her that I love her energy and I want to spend some more time with her. She was saying no and that she has to go sleep to her friends place, so I was telling her I have a pretty comfy bed, I'll take her and let her sleep and nothing else. During that time the friend called an uber to her place, I called one to mine, but my girl kept looking for her friend.
There maybe I could have lied. I feel if I had told her that her friend just left, and we are left together, I could have taken her home, and if not tonight, maybe escalated next morning. But her friend was just on the other side of the road waiting for her uber. I mentioned that to my girl, she went there, and when the uber came, even though i tried to tell her again and pull her to come with me to my uber that was few meters further away and go back to my place, she kept insisting going with her friend. A friend that was perfectly fine with her coming with me until the very end when she eventually hugged me, told me it was a great time, and jumped in her uber.
To conclude it was quite interesting, I think I handled the friend pretty well at least, and maybe I should have played it more sneaky to get the pull back home, since I knew that this girl liked me, and we would have enjoyed ourselves for sure. It is a bit painful, not so much for the time spent in this interaction, but because I really feel that there was a spark between us even from the first meeting, this kind of chemistry that you simply feel bad not leading all the way to intimacy.
I am also pretty sure that there are a number of things that happened during these interactions that I could do better or differently but don't even realise, for example, how do you get a fairly drunk girl that clearly likes you to decide to commit to going back home with you, so any comments or insights are always welcome.
It all began yesterday night, when I just decided to go out in the city in the middle of the rain after midnight, to walk around and do approaches. I really wasn't feeling it but wanted to go for the habit, and in the end I did get some numbers. One of them, a girl I approached telling her I love her whole vibe, because she was wearing some kind of pink dress with a black coat with a hoodie in the middle of the rain, felt quite into me. I learned she was from Finland and in the city only for the weekend visiting a friend from her country. The friend was there with her when I approached by the way, but she was fairly cool as well. We exchanged numbers fast because they were grabbing an uber to get home, and then she told me to call her, because she has no internet here. I did, we talked for a bit, can't say I understood a lot with noise, and her kinda drunk talking, but she felt interested.
For the next day, aka today, I had another date planned in the evening. I went there, brought the girl all the way home, but then when I went for the kiss, she pushed me away, said she finds me attractive but is not in a period of her life that she wants to connect with people. Anyway this is another story, but I mention it, because due to this date I wasn't sure whether I will even be free to text the other girl and meet. I decided to send her a text early in the evening, saying I hope she enjoyed her day and asking for her plans. She said she was going for dinner with her friend and then maybe out and asked for mine. I said I was meeting friends, didn't want to mention the other date, and that I may go out later.
After the end of the date, I sent her a text asking what she is up to. At the same time I went to a club I had won free entrance. Quite old crowd, and although I don't like very young crowds either this was a bit too much for me, but the entrance was free, and the girl that was organising told me I could get my friends in for free as well. So as this Finish girl texted me they just finished dinner and headed to the bar, I told her to come by with her friend and I can get them both in. As I was waiting for the response I was also thinking what to do, because this place was not very promising seduction wise, few older women that could be available, although I feel I noticed a bunch of them checking me out. I was thinking of maybe going somewhere else, but then the Finish girl called and said they were coming in a bit.
Before they arrived I talked just momentarily with some girls around and also danced a bit to get in the mood, and as they came another funny thing happened. The girl that was organising the event came up to me and told me that if my friends have come, she can bring us to a lounge with a free champagne included, since I had won it anyway. I just asked the girls, of course they agreed, and we went to a lounge behind the DJ like VIPs and after a while they also brought a champagne bottle with fire, and I was thinking wow that is cool, but also too much.
I mean I felt it looked like I just booked a table with a champagne for these random girls I met in the street and it felt strange to me. I could feel they were not the crazy party types of going to bottle service tables or anything, they were well educated gals, both above 30, and although they did enjoy the whole vibe as I was serving them the champagne I could feel a: "What's up with this guy?".
After a bit, I was sitting opposite to them with the table in the middle, so I just told them to come there and sit together at the same couch to be able to talk a bit better. They complied, and I was on the left, the girl I liked in the middle, and her friend on the right. My girl was a bit drunk already, and her friend started asking me a bunch of questions about how I booked the table, who I know, etc. I told her the full truth, that I won the contest and they just told me now I could use the table, and a small lie of my friends that I met before going to another club.
The vibe was good in general, I was probably not the most comfortable because I wasn't really used to handling a situation were you just take two girls randomly in a lounge with bottle service, and in a bit we all stood up and started dancing.
My girl was going crazy quite a bit, but damn I liked her moves and I told her, and she also pretty quickly started grinding on me, taking my hands and putting them on her belly from behind. She told me she loves dancing and has done ballet and this is nothing, so I was like I can't wait to see the rest. As we were on the dance floor I also tried to keep some contact with her friend, because I knew she would be crucial. My girl also asked me my age, and I had them both guess, they said a bit older as I usually get, and when they learned the real one my half drunk girl told me there is a big age gap and I am too young and she is old, to which I remained quite unreactive and responded I like her energy anyway. And after just a bit, she came back telling me she doesn't care about age, to which I said I don't either.
We stayed there for some time dancing, them together, and also me with my girl. At some point they went to the toilet so I walked down to the normal dance floor in the middle of the club and started dancing there, they came back and we kept dancing for a bit and afterwards we went and sat back at out table. During this whole process I was kinda letting my girl's friend lead quite a bit, because I felt that this would be the best regarding building her trust and showing I respect her. I also told her at some point she feels like the older responsible sister that takes care of her friend, and she laughed and told me they in fact take turns.
When we sat down again, my quite drunk by now girl, had hurt her foot while dancing, so she was kinda resting her legs on my lap, and I was giving a small massage. At some point she asked me to kiss the point she was feeling pain, I did, and then I asked her to kiss my cheek, because I was feeling pain there, and not only she did that, but she also went down towards my neck and tongue kissed it for few seconds, firing me up. She also randomly told me she has to tell me now she hasn't shaved lately, to which I said I don't care. There were some other things happening, they met another guy from their country randomly and talked to him for a bit, while I remained chilling back at the table, then we danced a bit more, and eventually we agreed with my girl's friend to leave and go somewhere else.
Now I wasn't sure where to take them, I kinda mentioned my place in passing in the middle of everything, but didn't really focus on it, because my girl looked like she really wanted more partying, and the other one was also like either we go to another bar or home. So we took an uber, went to an area with bars close by, and during this whole period I was holding hands with my girl, hugging, being close, we even gave a short kiss in the cab, as she was constantly resting her face on mine, basically rubbing it, she even asked me to tell her how to say I like you in my language, and she said it back to me.
As we arrived at the bar area, I proposed a karaoke, they didn't like it, so I then I proposed two other bars I know with free entrance around, and we decided to go to the closest one. Now this bar we ended up going is full of guys, really, I think I just realised today that I had a girl I liked with me how many guys hit on her, and were even running their hands on her whenever they could. The place was packed, so it was fairly straightforward to just have close contact with someone. But honestly I wasn't really fazed by all that, probably because I could feel that my girl liked me.
Every time another guy was making moves I was simply chilling back, and maybe I was subtly holding her hand behind her back, or stroking her back a bit, but in general, she was the one coming back to me to talk, dance, grind and generally stay close. The one time I got more proactive was when she wanted to go to the bar to order drinks, but as she was drunk already, one guy was basically holding her from behind, leading her through the crowd towards the toilets I assumed, so I was like ok I can let her do anything and come back, but this is getting too much, I am not letting a random guy lead her around and maybe even eventually have sex with her in the toilet. Now it is quite possible this wouldn't have happened, but I simply didn't want to remain passive as she was moving further away from me and her friend with random dudes around her, so I went there in front of her, basically stayed close, put my hands on her waist, and it was pretty straightforward that she focused on me again since we had some history, and the other guy almost immediately took his hands off and I didn't even notice where he disappeared. I kept talking to her for a bit, she even said some random stuff from how I am too skinny for her or how she is too sexual, to which I still remained quite unreactive, and brought her back to her friend.
Regarding her friend, in this second bar, I interacted even more with her, we both agreed how weird this place is with all the guys literally jumping on every woman they see, and even rolled our eyes together on some strange attempts of conversation some guys made towards her and my girl. We had created a bit of a vibe that we are on the same team, and most of the other people here are weirdos on the hunt, and that's when I spontaneously also told her that I really like her friend. It was genuine, and she told me yeah not only you, and I told her that I know , but I am saying it to her because I want her approval. Not for my desires, these I have and they are real, but because I want her as a friend to know how I feel. And I believe this shifted something in her permanently. She immediately said that I am a kind guy, and then when i mentioned that my girl said I am too skinny for her, her friend was like: Nah, you are pretty charming.
Eventually what happened is after a bunch of more dancing, grinding, slight kissing, and very sensual close contact with my girl, the friend wanted to go at some point, but she was fully fine with leaving us together. The issue was that my girl was pretty drunk and attached to the friend. We were leaving the bar and they were talking to each other in their language and her friend even told me that she was saying to her she is free to go with this god tonight. At that moment I was talking and holding my girl very close, telling her that I love her energy and I want to spend some more time with her. She was saying no and that she has to go sleep to her friends place, so I was telling her I have a pretty comfy bed, I'll take her and let her sleep and nothing else. During that time the friend called an uber to her place, I called one to mine, but my girl kept looking for her friend.
There maybe I could have lied. I feel if I had told her that her friend just left, and we are left together, I could have taken her home, and if not tonight, maybe escalated next morning. But her friend was just on the other side of the road waiting for her uber. I mentioned that to my girl, she went there, and when the uber came, even though i tried to tell her again and pull her to come with me to my uber that was few meters further away and go back to my place, she kept insisting going with her friend. A friend that was perfectly fine with her coming with me until the very end when she eventually hugged me, told me it was a great time, and jumped in her uber.
To conclude it was quite interesting, I think I handled the friend pretty well at least, and maybe I should have played it more sneaky to get the pull back home, since I knew that this girl liked me, and we would have enjoyed ourselves for sure. It is a bit painful, not so much for the time spent in this interaction, but because I really feel that there was a spark between us even from the first meeting, this kind of chemistry that you simply feel bad not leading all the way to intimacy.
I am also pretty sure that there are a number of things that happened during these interactions that I could do better or differently but don't even realise, for example, how do you get a fairly drunk girl that clearly likes you to decide to commit to going back home with you, so any comments or insights are always welcome.
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