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Why do girls share their past experiences?

LoverOfWomen

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I was on a date with this girl and she was talking about her past experiences with men. She mentioned this funny story of this guy who wanted to get with her but she caught him in an elevator making out with another girl.

Also this particular girl would say how this guy asked her cousin for oral sex and she said he was a player.
She then turned to me and said "do you talk to girls?"
I believe this meant she wanted me to share similar stories.....The problem is I didn't have none. So i just casually mentioned how I had this girlfriend and we broke up some months ago. I kept it vague as I wanted to keep her thinking.

I have a few questions:

Why would she share these stories with me?
Is this her way of saying I'm not a slut therefore I'm not easy to get?
 

foggy

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There's a real possibility you're in the boyfriend zone. Girls start telling stories like that to guys they want to date.
 

Big Daddy

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It's a test. She's testing how you handle situations like this. And if it's a sexual story, etc how comfortable you are talking about it. And if it's a bad sexual frame, if you submit to her frame or not (you're doomed if you do).

Meaning, if she says that this guy wanted to be sucked off and pose it as a negative thing ("he's just a player!") and you submit to it, then you are signaling that you are not comfortable being sexual, and that she would probably be judged hard if she ever did something like that with you and she also loses respect because you submitted to her even if slightly.

She didn't necessarily wanted/needed to hear a story of your own. It's great if you do, but you can address it without stories. You want to disarm her frames by making it look like she's this weird person if she doesn't agree if you ("who the hell doesn't like to get a blow job?"):

Her: He's such a player!
You: Why would you say that? God, I think you are the first person I meet who doesn't like oral sex!
Her: No, it's not that! Is that he does that to every girl!
You: Ha, I mean, who are we to judge peoples innate desire to seek sexual pleasure? Be honest with me now: if you knew that nobody would ever know about your sexual escapes and you would never be judged by it... wouldn't you do it too? ;)
Her: Well... probably, I guess...
You: Really? ;) Tell me the most interesting thing you'd do...

(For the life of me I can remember the article in which Chase goes deep on this one, but start by looking the most recent articles he wrote about frame control.)

Whenever she throw these weird-ass questions or comments or whatever, just ignore that fuck out of it and try to steer it in something sexual related to her, and how you wouldn't judge her for gargling your cock in a dark alley in 5 minutes from now.
 
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