Why do I make girls nervous???

[Dimes]

I notice in class, hallways and during lunch.

They act nervous around me. For example, in class I see girls look at me for a peek. Ok at first I didn't notice this stuff but now I see it almost every time. It's starting to make me uncomfortable/nervous.

It's getting to the point where I see these girls taking peeks in class and I kinda tense up. I hate being watched like that.

I just want to go back to the days where I didn't notice this stuff. A lot of these girls are not my type but it still makes uncomfortable that they do this.


Any advice?

 

[Smith]

smile at them. It's the best way to disarm people. Even if you don't like their attention, it doesn't hurt to be friendly. Better to have friends than enemies.

 

[Glitch]

It's a good sign, you're becoming more observant to surrounding people. Personally I find it is a very valuable skill not just in terms of social calibration.

Also if girls are taking to quick peek, just take it as a compliment. As Smith mentioned give them a playful smile, it will help with developing eye contact and your sexy/playful smile if you use this as a training excercise to see what reactions you can get from girls. I still use this as an excercise.

Note: Don't really try to be like me if you can help it. I suffer from a chronic disorder of bastard face even at resting mode, when it comes to concentration it can look like I will tear you to pieces if you approach me. So when I give them a little grin it sets points in my favour, girls then become much more reciprocating to any approaching etc.

So DO SMILE

Glitch

 

[Doctor]

Think of a time when you knew exactly what you needed to do, you have done it a million times before and there is no way it could go wrong. Maybe the last time you put your trousers on.

Now think of a time where you had no idea what you were supposed to do, it might have been your first time doing it and you were dreading the fact that it could all go horribly wrong. Perhaps this was your first driving lesson.

Which time did you feel more nervous?

Nervousness usually comes from being unsure about something or not feeling fully in control.

If girls are nervous about you then it's probably because they are unsure of you, or unsure of your intentions. A certain amount of nervousness can be a good thing as girls will find this exciting however, too much will start to ring alarm bells and make them want to get out of there.

Girls will act nervous around strong attractive guys because they will be unsure if he likes them and is going to lead them to a sexual encounter or not however girls will also be nervous around a creepy guy because they don't know if he is going to bash them on the head and drag them back to his troll lair.

It can be hard to tell which type of nervous a girl is feeling but there are a few clues to look for. Generally if she is very skittish, eyes darting all over the place, looking for a way out, you can say it's the bad type. If she is stumbling over her words trying to perfect what she is saying next so she doesn't get it wrong then it's likely the good type.

Hope this helps you assess your situation better.

 

[Dimes]

I'm a pretty stylish guy in my school. I think that probably boosts my attractiveness up. I don't dress preppy but more urban/cool/street.

I don't think it's normal. I don't see girls being nervous around my guy friends.


For example, I walk into the library and I see girls fidgeting when I walk by. I don't think that they think I'm a creep (I'm skinny but stylish) and I think I'm good looking but not enough for these amount girls to fidget around me.

I try not to stare at these girls but I'll try to smile at some next time it happens.

For example, I sit at a table talking to my friends and I notice a cute girl fidgeting across another table. I mean I can't smile at her because then she will turn her her head really fast.


You see my problem?