Why do I want to move slow with these types of girls?

[Verisimilitude]

Since finding GC, my view on women has drastically changed. I see girls as cute and silly now, and see them as sexual creatures who want passion. I've come a long way. And yet...

For some unknown reason, I feel differently around certain types of girls. There's a particular girl that I'm thinking of right now, but its girls like her in general. So while the example is one girl, its really a bigger example of those types of girls in general. Ok got that out of the way.

I have no idea why I'm really into this girl. She's not a perfect 10. She's not even really my type. But while I'll think of other girls like, "Man, I really want to fuck her", I'll think of her like, "Man, I really want to date her". I've shut down and wanted to only be fuck buddies with girl who are prettier than her. Its not about looks. Its almost like its in my DNA. She's the sweet, quiet type of girl. Big eyes and long brown hair. I can tell she has a crush on me. She's stolen glances at me, and gone out of her way to talk to me. And while with most girls like her I'd say, "Ok show me what you got" or, "I can't wait to get you in bed", I just can't do that with her. I know its not the right way, but for some reason I can't get past it. I've actually kept her at arm's length because I know I'm not gonna be the best seducer I can with her and I'm gonna mess it up.

For some reason, girls like that, the really sweet quiet nice girls I just can't help myself. Most of them bore me, but there's that one type (I don't even know why) that drives me crazzzzzzyyyyy. It's happened to me in high school, and its happened at least twice before in college. So frustrating!

I really think the only thing to do is to just press on with this girl. Meet her in public (I've never seen her out partying), and go through my regular process. In fact, I think I need to do this. Right now its an areas where I am lacking. It'll be a challenge, and a new area to conquer.

 

[Thedoctor]

I really think the only thing to do is to just press on with this girl. Meet her in public (I've never seen her out partying), and go through my regular process. In fact, I think I need to do this. Right now its an areas where I am lacking. It'll be a challenge, and a new area to conquer.

X,

You already know what you need to do!

I think every guy out there has his "unicorn" type. You know, the type of girl he views as being a little more rare and puts her on pedestal. She's different for all of us, so just take comfort in knowing one man's unicorn is another man's dime a dozen.

-Doc

 

[Marty]

XC, I am the same as you in this respect. Actually, there is a girl like that sitting out at her desk opposite my office right now. I am going to tell you what happens if you keep ignoring her and never do anything because you're worried you're gonna mess up—especially if she sees that you do do things with other girls. She now looks at me with hatred in her eyes and never speaks to me. Be warned -Marty

 

[Franco]

xcrunner,

I'll keep this short and to the point: don't change a damned thing about your approach.

Be flirty, move fast, take her to bed, and sweep her off her feet. As a matter of fact, these girls are often the easiest to bed because their partner counts are so low. Their resistance is usually extremely token and easy to handle if you don't show any signs of a lack of confidence. Why is that? Because every other guy has exactly the same thoughts you are now right now. So be the outlier in the crowd of nice guys -- take her to bed and rock her world.

- Franco

 

[Verisimilitude]

Great responses. I definitely know what I need to do. I gotta first communicate interest through approach, then follow my process. Its good to hear that it can be done. I just wish I knew why I felt like this. Its weird. She's not even my "type". The other important thing is, I'm thinking too much about her when I've got nothing currently. I need to shut that shit down.