Socializing Why do seducers get picked on with amog, fights, disrespect....

[Skills]

So in the case of leveling up and having people respect you enough to be your own person. Sigma etc. Do we just calibrate to the challenges, or let them strengthen us. I'm pretty sure I'm on the edge of Middle-High in perception, but this stuff pisses me off, not that I show it. I'm very cool and suave. But does this get better? lol How do we improve faster? I'm very ambitious, and I need to be able to calibrate quickly while not losing my sexual edge, integrity and character

You will get used to it, and yes calibrate accordingly...... It is annoying and it does pisses you off initially then you just get used to it... Or like i do, sometimes walk away...

 

[DakenMarquis]

Thanks for the response @Skills Any articles on here, books or other resources/things you recommend that can reduce the learning curve?

 

[Skills]

Thanks for the response @Skills Any articles on here, books or other resources/things you recommend that can reduce the learning curve?

the fountainhead by ayn rand

 

[DarkKnight]

I think my biggest advantage in this is that I started off as a fighter in my life. So when I am being a lover and I get challenged, I can switch real fast and people get the hint. I am more of a fighter than a lot of these wannabe amogs. And no this does not mean things will escalate, rather it acts like a deterrent. I am the United States of Pickup with warheads lol. Ofcourse I also know to switch back. In normal interactions as well when people get testy, I know how to do this. By the way when I describe this people visualize brutal or very overt behavior, this is not needed at all. Rather fast and piercing only a little bit under the radar. I believe it gives gut feelings to others that my niceness is a cloak, which in honestly it is.

I rarely get challenged these days by the way. I wonder if this is due to aging or due to nonverbals.

Do we just calibrate to the challenges, or let them strengthen us. I'm pretty sure I'm on the edge of Middle-High in perception, but this stuff pisses me off, not that I show it. I'm very cool and suave. But does this get better?

We calibrate and let it strengthen us and yes it does get better because we get experiences which we handle ideally or reflected on which will make us respond better and know how to respond in the future. Because a lot of nervousness people experience is due to not knowing how to handle it.

Just absorb it and make it part of your operating system. And it is not meant to be easy, otherwise everyone would do this.

Also I notice that a lot of puas get really obsessed with doing things socially as if they are not true to themselves when they solve things in another way than verbal skills. It is good to use multiple styles guys, for me not everything is pickup.

Learn to fight, it will make you more bold and lets you take more social freedom in ways you would not believr. Doesnt mean you need to use it, just will give you better frame and social freedom

 

[DakenMarquis]

the fountainhead by ayn rand

nice, have read it! Great book Roark and Wynand really were the ones that had the most inspiring characteristics

 

[DakenMarquis]

I think my biggest advantage in this is that I started off as a fighter in my life. So when I am being a lover and I get challenged, I can switch real fast and people get the hint. I am more of a fighter than a lot of these wannabe amogs. And no this does not mean things will escalate, rather it acts like a deterrent. I am the United States of Pickup with warheads lol. Ofcourse I also know to switch back. In normal interactions as well when people get testy, I know how to do this. By the way when I describe this people visualize brutal or very overt behavior, this is not needed at all. Rather fast and piercing only a little bit under the radar. I believe it gives gut feelings to others that my niceness is a cloak, which in honestly it is.

I rarely get challenged these days by the way. I wonder if this is due to aging or due to nonverbals.


We calibrate and let it strengthen us and yes it does get better because we get experiences which we handle ideally or reflected on which will make us respond better and know how to respond in the future. Because a lot of nervousness people experience is due to not knowing how to handle it.

Just absorb it and make it part of your operating system. And it is not meant to be easy, otherwise everyone would do this.

Also I notice that a lot of puas get really obsessed with doing things socially as if they are not true to themselves when they solve things in another way than verbal skills. It is good to use multiple styles guys, for me not everything is pickup.

Learn to fight, it will make you more bold and lets you take more social freedom in ways you would not believr. Doesnt mean you need to use it, just will give you better frame and social freedom

Thanks for the feedback @DarkKnight ! I've done some combat sports and you're spot on. I'll keep an eye on my reaction and performance wrt to calibration in the moment. Always looking for recommended articles (esp on GC) and dope book recs like @Skills was kind enough to answer with. You guys rock