Why do so few guys understand girls?

[Corsica]

I'm amazed when I look around and realize just how few guys seem to have any idea what girls are looking for in guys. One friend's wife is leaving him and he told me she doesn't have any problems with him, she just doesn't want to be married so he thinks she's crazy. That's just one. Basically every guy seems to have no idea what is going on and are either alone or their girls are always annoyed or mad at them.

Why, if getting together with girls is essential to the survival of the species, is it that the natural state of men is to not understand women at all? I don't get it.

 

[Skid]

Hey dude ,

Its not really expected or needed for you to be able to logically reason or understand what women are attracted too (women often can't tell you themselves until you mention it then they agree). The whole issue is that many men grow up not acting like men due pressures created by society focused on gender equality and extreme feminism. Men are shamed upon for acting like men and so they act according to how society tells them ie : don't be aggressive and dominant , because that's going against women's rights!

And then they get all confused then their wives start leaving them because they did what everyone wanted them too do and now she can't possibly be aroused by her partner because he isn't a man.Obviously that's not the only issue it CAN certainly be an issue where you can't provide for her or give companionship which she needs for a traditional monogamous relationship but the most common reason now days is that guys become wusses or are wusses and their women can't be attracted to them. I've encountered this so many times in in pick-up. I have had people try to shame me for hitting on girls and some guys let it get to them and they start thinking ITS NOT OK to hit on girls and show sexual intent when really its natural and has been happening since the start of humanity. Because of the whole men are the aggressors and women are submissive for some reason crazy feminists rationalize that their role is "inferior /less important" when in reality its just a role men are generally better at some things than women and women are better than men in other areas.

Obviously you don't need to walk around and hit on girls in daygame or nightgame - you just have to not be ashamed being a man and possessing the traits that are masculine. And then have reference experience to show that yes despite the social conditioning and the extremist feminazis : girls that are attracted to you respond really well to you when you do this ie. they look at you with really big eyes and smile they go all dreamy etc. An issue that can hinder this learning curve is when you are less socially calibrated you can't tell which girls are interested in you and which ones are you so you try being masculine to a bunch of girls that don't think your their type or whatever they reject you and then you go "oh this doesn't work". When really there are other things in play.

There is definitely a huge learning learning curve towards managing relationships but only because of this societal up bringing . If we were all brought up to be masculine and super macho then this probably would not be an issue at all. But we aren't, so things like the pickup community exist as a method of teaching masculinity logically.

Skid