The real reason I am doing indirect is that a few months ago , I started having panic attacks , they became so severe .... I didn't leave my home for a month ( 90% of the time )
But , something inside me changed ... I wanted to achieve more in my life but didn't want to stress myself anymore to avoid panic .
And by changing my lifestyle , I am actually able to reduce it a lot .
That's the main reason that I am actually doing exposure therapy to a lot of shit .
You see , approach anxiety is such a baby when you have had panic attacks .
I do induce intent , depending on the situation , and the quality of the chick .
But , I open indirect .
Hope you guys understand my situation .
Spyce .
Note : I have already consulted with doctor . And have been doing a lot to change my lifestyle .
Because, panick attacks came cuz I was not living the life I wanted to live for a long ass time . So , there was always this inner turmoil that i had and then the bubble burst . With me paying the price. And also due to having compulsions.
Anyways , I don't wanna derail my own thread . Lol .
Note 2: I am going to climb my way to the top inspite of the b.s. I face .
I just never wanted to share the issues I was facing cuz it's a seduction forum .
How about complimenting on an article that she's wearing but isolating it from her completely?
For ex: Instead of saying, you look great in those boots. Say, I like your boots. Those studs on them make them look badass. (You're complimenting her shoes, not her). It's a form of direct cos she was the one who chose it but still it makes you a bit mysterious since she can't discern whether you complimented her or her boots.
After you say this, based on her reaction, you can change it to direct or just leave it at that. So, after you say this, if she reacts positively, you say:
Are you also badass?
If she responds in a neutral tone, say something like:
I'm always amazed how designers think when they design something like that. They must be really creative. (You still didn't get rejected).
Suppose she reacts negatively just saying thank you without making eye contact or doesn't pay you attention, don't look at her. Just keep looking at those boots as you slowly walk away. This way you didn't give her any attention. You liked the boots, you "expressed" your thoughts about it and you left. No rejection.
Pick one article and have a story for it like this. Write down what you can come up for it. It's a form of "improv". As you start doing this, rejections slowly stop becoming personal. I have a story for everything you can think of, a bag, scarf, dress, jewelery etc. This also makes you quick witted over time. You can go on and on once you have mastered this. On a good day, I can make a story of just a ring she's wearing and talk about it for 5 mins straight weaving history, astrology, psychology, movies, relationships etc etc. Doesn't matter whether it's interesting or not.
In the beginning, you may find it hard to come up with things on the fly. So, just stick to basics like:
"I like your boots"
+ve response: you must be very mindful of your fashion (you can use this for any article she's wearing)
neutral response: I like how they design (again, you can use it for any article)
-ve response: Interesting.. (while looking at the article and slowly walking away) (again you can use it for any article)
P.S: On a side-note, with all the things you're going through, you're doing an amazing job. Not everyone are brave enough to face fears let alone when a medical condition is affecting you. Be proud of yourself mate!
