Why Everyone Quits Pick Up or any Skill

[trashKENNUT]

Why do you quit?

IT's not because girls are hard, or life is hard or whatever. It is because you have been programmed to a robot idiot. The governmnent's job is to starve off disaster, and if you are the office worker, my salary comes first.

That's the bullshit.

The thing is, you are raised by a society, culture, religion, to not understand what this human body, how it works, and go down from there.

Want to get girls? Start all the way from the top. Which is yourself. Why you believe in religion, in education, in why do we only use right hand, why can't we do things a certain way. Is it because of law? or is it because our parents and society cognitive dissonance are just way too high. Then all the way down to why Girlschase is not for you or for you? Is RSD outlandish or is it because i dislike their strategy...

Want to get girls? IT is like you are in a bathroom. Clean yourself first. And it is not really your fault.

Then you learn that getting girls is hard (probabilities), life is hard, etc. But they should only deter you when you operate from a position where the problem and solution are 2 completely different things.

Zac

 

[Chase]

Zac,

Good observation. Society lays out a path for you to follow, and most people for the most part will follow that path.

The farther afield from the normal, socially acceptable path a thing is (i.e., the less social support for it there is), the more likely people are to not stick with it.

It's interesting to look at, say, the office worker from a developed country who gets up every morning at the same time when his alarm clock goes off, gets in his car, and drives to work. Every day. He almost never misses work. And then compare that with people from societies that do not have that same kind of culture.

There's a fascinating culture clash documentary on YouTube of Chinese manager meets Congolese laborer culture called "Empires of Dust." The Congolese laborers basically just fuck off from work, decide to not come in when they don't feel like coming in, take things from the workplace, etc. The Chinese manager cannot believe this and is completely frustrated with it. But there's nothing he can do. Because there is no culture of "I HAVE to be at work on time! I HAVE to do a good job!" in Congo and if a Congolese laborer doesn't feel like working or decides he wants to quit, he just will.

If a Chinese does this, he'll be brutalized by his society. Women will think he's a dead end and want nothing to do with him. He'll be locked out of work and have a hard time getting hired by another company. His whole life will be wrecked.

Meanwhile if a Congolese laborer does this, it probably isn't going to hurt him with women at all, and none of his friends are going to be shocked he's so careless about work like they would in a developed country.

Hard stuff like the gym, pickup, martial arts, diet, developing a skill set, etc., does not have have the same kind of social force behind it that "You have to go to work and be responsible" does in our society. You're mostly on your own.

Now... you can construct the same kinds of social accountability around things you want to do, and it makes a huge difference. One of the reasons journals and field reports are so helpful is because they bring accountability into seduction -- now you are putting reports up, and if you don't put reports up people will start to wonder what happened to you. Now you are writing your journal, and if you don't make progress it's going to start to look lame. So you work harder and do more -- not just to get to where you want to get to, but to avoid shame and pressure socially and to do what you feel like you "have to" do.

Much of the time when people quit, if you look at it closely you will notice they lacked the social support / cultural environment to persist in whatever it is they wanted to do.

The takeaway there is if you want to make it easy for yourself to stick with a thing, find ways to immerse yourself in it so much that you can't quit, because quitting means dropping out of what is, for all intents and purposes, "your society."

Chase

 

[DarkKnight]

I agree but also disagree. Social programming definitely wreaks havoc on a persons life. I have been a victim of this multiple times.

But in the end I believe in the power of FRUSTRATION. When you are tired of abiding to rules, notice them working against you over and over again, when you notice others getting whatever they want not by calculation, but by short term selfishness, you just have to wake up and notice what the hell is wrong around you.

I had friends with my same background and noticed them adjusting differently to reality. One of them basically became MGTOW, the other became super beta, others just hope that the mainstream world gives them what they want. And sometimes the mainstream culture really gives you what you want, but ultimately you end up in mediocrity. I have shared girlschase to many of my friends, but none of them really cared to delve through Chase's admittedly very long articles. But I read through them with pleasure, over and over again. BECAUSE I want some semblance of control and everything which gives me an edge is welcome.

I believe only a few out of many can break out of the shell and limits that have been imposed on them. It's not just background. It's lack of willpower and lack of belief that you can fight back against your so called lot in life. You have to feel some genuine REGRET if you want to change. And I find that utterly lacking with others. So basically in a sense we have to own our own responsibilities.

 

[trashKENNUT]

DA,

That's quite a personal story. It's tough unwiring, but it's important. Because other people will know or somewhat know how you are programmed.

Zac

 

[Chase]

I will add-

I had friends with my same background and noticed them adjusting differently to reality. One of them basically became MGTOW, the other became super beta, others just hope that the mainstream world gives them what they want. And sometimes the mainstream culture really gives you what you want, but ultimately you end up in mediocrity. I have shared girlschase to many of my friends, but none of them really cared to delve through Chase's admittedly very long articles. But I read through them with pleasure, over and over again. BECAUSE I want some semblance of control and everything which gives me an edge is welcome.

I believe only a few out of many can break out of the shell and limits that have been imposed on them. It's not just background. It's lack of willpower and lack of belief that you can fight back against your so called lot in life. You have to feel some genuine REGRET if you want to change. And I find that utterly lacking with others. So basically in a sense we have to own our own responsibilities.

There's a notable difference between "quitting something you want to do" and "not wanting to do/try something in the first place."

Societal support/accountability helps with getting people to take up new things, for sure. There are a lot of people going to university right now who likely wouldn't be if society did not push them to. A lot of people working office jobs now who likely wouldn't be if society didn't push this as the crowning height of employment.

However, a lot of what draws you to something in the first place will be your own soup of motivations and personality traits.

What gets you to stick with something you wanted to accomplish (rather than quit it and give up) is where social accountability plays its biggest role.

This is the "I like seduction but my friends won't even consider it" dichotomy: your own attributes draw you toward it, just as your friends' attributes cause them to have little interest in it. However, once you're in it and enjoying it and trying to improve with it, once you start hitting the major humps and plateaus and tough spots, that's where social accountability plays its significant role in helping you to stay the course or (if you don't have enough social support) to throw the towel in and go do something easier/less demanding with your time.

Chase