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There was an incredible RSD Tyler video that talks about this and can't find as it has sadly been taken down. I think it's an important subject to talk about with tons of victim mentality messages floating around (that thankfully this forum gets limited exposure too).
1. As a man you get real honest feedback from the start
Unless you had awesome genetics and a great hand in life, as a guy you're forced to grow and improve to get what you want in life. You have to get in shape to be attractive, be warm and charming to get people to like you as well as constantly improve yourself as standards around you get higher. E.g. Not being a big deal if you live with your parents at 18 but not acceptable at 38.
It forces you to get your shit together. Girls are on the other hand are treated nicely simply for showing up (which isn't their fault by the way... its the guys around them). This is why it's so rare to find a girl with "game" and if she does have game she's either not that attractive so she had to adapt or is literally 1 in a million.
2. Because you get honest life feedback - you make better life choices
A skinny and pretty 18 year old girl in any major city can literally eat out 5x a week for free, drink free alcohol until 4 am most nights and have as much cocaine as she likes.
A skinny 18 year old guy? Lol forget it best get yourself in the gym and build a business or career while you're at it.
3. Life gets better as men get older while for girls it's the opposite
Let's use some empathy here. Imagine being a young and pretty girl who has all these cool/rich guys are hitting on you and BEGGING to be your boyfriend. Then as you hit 25 like a frog in the water the potential suitors steadily decrease. You hardly notice - you're still getting attention. By the time you're 28 your biological clock is going crazy and begging for a baby coupled up with societal pressure and the realization that you are no longer able to attract the caliber guy that you could a decade ago.
Furthermore you never got into the habit of healthy eating and exercising so you now you've gained weight, are spotty and are disgusted by men your age going for girls old enough to be their daughter... "Fuck them!" you think but the truth is you're just accepting that your ship has sailed and it's time to get "realistic" *read lower your standards with your partner*
I don't say this because I'm bitter with woman in truth I love them dearly and wish more of them have the foresight to make good long term decisions. It's hard to though and truth be told I doubt I would either if I were a girl.
Let's flip this to a younger guy, he get's some success with women but not consistently. He looks around and sees that the kind of guys getting the kind of girls he wants are fun, in shape, have money and are well connected. He focuses his time on being that kind of guy and reaps the rewards years down the line. Then better yet the same age girls he was chasing before are still available and easier now he's older!
There's that joke of how an ideal aged partner for a girl changes over time but a guy's hovers at 21 for a lifetime hahahah.
It is what it is.
So if you find yourself being a little frustrated and down on your luck... Just remember the above points and keep pushing... This all gets easier as you get stronger.
1. As a man you get real honest feedback from the start
Unless you had awesome genetics and a great hand in life, as a guy you're forced to grow and improve to get what you want in life. You have to get in shape to be attractive, be warm and charming to get people to like you as well as constantly improve yourself as standards around you get higher. E.g. Not being a big deal if you live with your parents at 18 but not acceptable at 38.
It forces you to get your shit together. Girls are on the other hand are treated nicely simply for showing up (which isn't their fault by the way... its the guys around them). This is why it's so rare to find a girl with "game" and if she does have game she's either not that attractive so she had to adapt or is literally 1 in a million.
2. Because you get honest life feedback - you make better life choices
A skinny and pretty 18 year old girl in any major city can literally eat out 5x a week for free, drink free alcohol until 4 am most nights and have as much cocaine as she likes.
A skinny 18 year old guy? Lol forget it best get yourself in the gym and build a business or career while you're at it.
3. Life gets better as men get older while for girls it's the opposite
Let's use some empathy here. Imagine being a young and pretty girl who has all these cool/rich guys are hitting on you and BEGGING to be your boyfriend. Then as you hit 25 like a frog in the water the potential suitors steadily decrease. You hardly notice - you're still getting attention. By the time you're 28 your biological clock is going crazy and begging for a baby coupled up with societal pressure and the realization that you are no longer able to attract the caliber guy that you could a decade ago.
Furthermore you never got into the habit of healthy eating and exercising so you now you've gained weight, are spotty and are disgusted by men your age going for girls old enough to be their daughter... "Fuck them!" you think but the truth is you're just accepting that your ship has sailed and it's time to get "realistic" *read lower your standards with your partner*
I don't say this because I'm bitter with woman in truth I love them dearly and wish more of them have the foresight to make good long term decisions. It's hard to though and truth be told I doubt I would either if I were a girl.
Let's flip this to a younger guy, he get's some success with women but not consistently. He looks around and sees that the kind of guys getting the kind of girls he wants are fun, in shape, have money and are well connected. He focuses his time on being that kind of guy and reaps the rewards years down the line. Then better yet the same age girls he was chasing before are still available and easier now he's older!
There's that joke of how an ideal aged partner for a girl changes over time but a guy's hovers at 21 for a lifetime hahahah.
It is what it is.
So if you find yourself being a little frustrated and down on your luck... Just remember the above points and keep pushing... This all gets easier as you get stronger.