Why rejection is awesome - both in life and seduction

[Smith]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w_W2LeWe-RU

Found this interesting video. Although he's mainly talking about businesses, he has many good insight about 'rejections'.

One of the examples he used that I found particularly interesting was that when Steven Spielberg proposed the script of the movie Lincoln to David Day-Lewis, he rejected to play Lincoln 3 times before he finally agreed. What was worth learning is that Steven Spielberg, one of the big directors in Hollywood, didn't take these rejections personally or let the ego stopped him. He went back and re-wrote the script 3 times before David Day-Lewis agreed to play Lincoln.
Another famous example is J.K. Rowling, whose book Harry Potter, got rejected 12 times.

Being direct about what you want in life and not being afraid to fail.

 

[Richard]

The other thing to remember in pick-up is that it's a numbers game - let's say that your average is one lay per 10 approaches.

So, technically, every rejection gets you one step closer to that lay anyway.

 

[Drck]

Yes, that is good, but there are different types of rejections.

Say you go out for couple of dates and talk to couple of different girls, all of them reject you. Ok, after that you may not feel the best about yourself, but you can get over it realatively easily, just go out another day with another girl.

Now say you are dating a girl for several months, you fall in love with her, you feel in quite a deep relationship, she really means a lot to you, you are still freshly in love - and then she rejects you without you having a clue why. This kind of rejection can hurt you a lot, you may fall in depression for months, even years. You many not be able to date another girls after that for a long time, you won't have any desire to date any girl.

It is quite difficult to say that this second version of rejection is good for you. It is very personal, you made a deep connection to that person, and depending on your personality you may fall into long depression. You won't be able to get out of it so easily no matter what you do, even dating different girls won't help. I know it because I went through it.

But it is good to know about it so you can be well prepared, and once you are prepared you can avoid it.

Some tips to recognize and prevent rejections:

* Learn to recognize warning signs. She will usually give you a lot of signs that her interest in you is gone. She will start showing up late, cancel dates without rescheduling, start seeing other guys, disrespecting you in many different ways, talking down to you, stop responding to your calls and messages, become cold, dislike things that you like, talk about her being sick and so on. She will get you all excited (yes, lets go for a great date tomorrow, we will talk all about XYZ, I'll tell you all about it!), and then tomorrow comes and she dumps the date (I really can't, I have to take my dog to the hospital!). She is basically saying: Listen, my dog is more important than you, and of course, the dog doesn't need any fucking hospital! Don't be a fool. She will try to get you other hints, usually designed as "Get it?". Most guys don't get it, they don't "get it" at all. They are totally surpriced, they think it came "all of the sudden", out of the blue... Once you see more of those signs, most likely she is already gone and she is only giving you time to "get it"...

* Always compare what you do for her versus what she does for you. I know, you are a good guy. You are a great guy. You pay for lunches, movies, you drive her in your car, you pick her up, you wait for her. But that is not the point, we know you are a great guy. The point is, what does she do for you? Let me guess: NOTHING. Doesn't move a damn finger for you. All she does is making you feel good. Many times not even that. Well brother, I got a suprice for you: She doesn't give a damn about you or she is a taker. She will take everything from you. Don't be a fool, dump her while you can, you don't want girl like that no matter how sweet she is anyway...

* Abundance Mentality. That is a must. You gain lots of experience with different girls, you gain lots of confidence, you won't be too attached to one particular girl.

 

[Tim Iron]

in the beginning rejections made me think of how to improve myself... now it does not really affect me anymore.