Will She text me? (Help Please)

[StephenEschelon]

Hello guys, Im new to the forums. I need some advice on what I should do about this girl that works at the local grocery store where I live. Okay to start, I absolutely hated going to this grocery store because all the people in there are rude and give ugly stares and just negative vibes and energy in that place, but one day I decided to go in there because it is the closest store towards me and I needed some things for the house. I walk in there grab my things and get in line and when Im in line and next up the cashier immediately says "hey how are you"? simple greeting right? nothing over the top about that. Then she compliments me on my hair saying, I like your hair blah blah blah I never seen that style on anyone before. Then I said thank you and smiled at her and she was cheesing hard herself but then I was trying to play it joe cool because I didn't realize how cute and attractive she was up close. I looked down at my phone and then she hit me with another compliment saying I like that shirt as well. It was my Captain America shirt so yeah Marvel is awesome I said with a smile. Then she starts asking me do I come here often to shop and do I live around here. So now in my mind i'm like she must be really interested in me. I tell her yeah and stuff but after she finishes checking me out we say have a nice day to each other like casually. So that same day I was like I think I should see her again in a few days and "maybe" ask for her number, so I wait a few days and go back to the local store and grab some things and go in her line again she says "Oh hey I remember you, why wouldn't I, your the guy with awesome hair I couldn't forget that." So i grinned and kinda blushed because people in the line behind me were probably like listening in and kind of makes it embarrassing in a way when two people are flirting. So we talked again while she was scanning my stuff and and she asked the same questions like " Do i live around here? Do I shop here often? And I said yes again then she says "i'm sorry i remember you saying that" and then she says"whats your name"? I tell her my name then she tells me hers even though its on her name tag lol She also saw my tattoo and pointed at it by basically coming over her drawer just to feel it and says i want one too but i'm scared but I compliment her on her nose ring and say tattoos don't hurt lol anyways but yeah so she has my name and finishes checking me out and says have a nice day. This is my second time seeing her and it went well and I still didn't ask for her number. I was shy because people behind me and her co workers and managers were near by and I didn't want to make it awkward for her or get her in trouble. So I wait another few days to see her again, I go in same routine grab stuff and go to her line because the second time I came to see her she told me whenever I buy something just come to her line. So i'm behind this one guy and she waves at me when she she's me and when i'm up next she ask me how am i blah blah but there is a older lady bagger at the end of the belt so she wasn't to talkative and when I paid she just said have a nice day. So when I get to my car i'm like I have to get her number somehow or give her my number. So while in my car I write my number on the back of a receipt and write a little message saying I didn't want to make her feel awkward by asking her number in front of everyone. I go back in there pick up some gum and put the receipt with the gum and she says oh you forgot your grocery list and I said no its for you and she glances at it and puts it by her drawer. I hope she didn't think it was trash and threw it away later but after I paid she said by Stephen after I grabbed my gum. So in my mind afterwards I'm like yes I gave her my number but i'm not sure she got the memo She hasn't texted me or anything its only been one day but I hear there is a 3 day rule to wait or maybe i messed up by giving her my number first? Advice guys? What should I do?

Kind Regards
Stephen

 

[pks391]

You could have tried a simpler, subtler way to ask her out. Eg. When do you get off work???? If she responds then you could have proposed a date and then asked to swap numbers.....

 

[StephenEschelon]

Yeah.. should of... would of.. could of.. but I just panicked kinda and didn't want the opportunity to get away from me. I never have given a girl my number like that, I always ask for theirs.

 

[ray_zorse]

Hmm well I run across this situation quite a lot, my feeling is basically if there isn't an opportunity to ask her out (i.e. coworkers are present) then just bide your time, although it can get ridiculous when this goes on for like MONTHS as has happened to me sometimes, I tend to just give up at that point...

Where I think you fucked up was (1) in returning to the store to ask her out after already having left, this would make you look unconfident / not in the moment, and (2) in giving her your number, this has never worked for me even with girls who seemed super into me.

I think basically they just feel they shouldn't have to make the moves and it's your job, or maybe they're nervous and put off texting and eventually go off the boil? I dunno, but the right thing to do in this situation would be to try to have her write her number on your receipt. Don't ever get your phone out in this situation!

My tips for long gaming are basically be opportunistic, above all don't ask her out in front of her manager or coworkers... and be totally casual about it, never go to the store specifically to see her, as it would look desperate... remember there's a shit ton of other girls out there, you just flirt with her when she crosses your path. If you're disciplined about this and retain the right mindset, you'll be in a much better place when it comes to asking her out, rather than being all invested.

Ray

 

[StephenEschelon]

Thanks for the insightful response but she was the one telling me that every time I come to to shop make sure to come to her line. So you're saying I should go back and ask for her number? Are you saying she won't text back because that's the game girls play?

 

[Sub-Zero]

Thanks for the insightful response but she was the one telling me that every time I come to to shop make sure to come to her line. So you're saying I should go back and ask for her number? Are you saying she won't text back because that's the game girls play?

I wouldn't go back, and ask for her number. Read the article on how to get numbers, girls are very weird my friend, you will find out further down the line. It's better to get her number. She probably won't text back, you have to ask herself why would she?

If she thinks you're attractive she isn't going to play that three day bullshit.

 

[StephenEschelon]

^ ok but how should I approach her this time ? Should I be direct or ask what days does she work and when she's off would she like to grab some coffee or something? Honestly I really didn't have a problem in asking for her number not to sound conceited or cocky but I say I'm pretty handsome and I had a lot of gals in my 24 years of living but it's just her coworkers and managers are around and people behind me. I don't want to make it awkward for her by putting her on the spot. Also her line gets busy.. :/ I need serious help guys. I'm thinking of seeing her Friday or Saturday

 

[Sub-Zero]

^ ok but how should I approach her this time ? Should I be direct or ask what days does she work and when she's off would she like to grab some coffee or something? Honestly I really didn't have a problem in asking for her number not to sound conceited or cocky but I say I'm pretty handsome and I had a lot of gals in my 24 years of living but it's just her coworkers and managers are around and people behind me. I don't want to make it awkward for her by putting her on the spot. Also her line gets busy.. :/ I need serious help guys. I'm thinking of seeing her Friday or Saturday

Yeah man, i feel ya. It's hard to pull that stuff off with so many people around. The last time i did that no one was around and i just went direct and got her number. All of these people really do mess your shit up. I don't want to give you advice since i never delt with people always around, and it's a lot easier if she's alone.

There is an article on the site about "hired guns", that might help your situation.

 

[StephenEschelon]

^ Thanks for insight my friend. Yeah its so hard when people are around, but Ill take a look at the hired guns article.

cheers mate

 

[ray_zorse]

To be honest I would NEXT her. Similar-ish thing happened to me, she seemed keen, grabbed her number, but then no response to text... waited some time, wanted to go into store so I sent like a 3rd text saying "do let me know before i come in next" and finally she did reply, but with excuses, she has to finish assignments / her placement first etc, just BS basically. She has your number, if she didn't text she isn't keen. Which is not to say she wouldn't have been keen had you handled things differently, but girls basically do not give second chances, any miscalibration in your approach will basically kill you. Fortunately, there is a shitload of pussy out there.
Ray

 

[StephenEschelon]

Yeah dude, but I'm really interested in her personality. Shes pretty different from the girls i've been with, even though all girls are the same but different in various ways. I read the hired guns article it was pretty hilarious it gave me a good chuckle but I did enjoy the "How to approach any girl wherever you are article."

Mates, i'm going to ask for her number this time around and act like I never gave her mine. Only if shes acting keen to me Ill do it when i come in her line tomorrow. If not i'll next her.

Cheers

 

[StephenEschelon]

you guys were so right.. I totally screwed up..

 

[Palpability]

Goin through it right now, Go back, get her number.

Don't text for fun, don't call for fun, don't visit her at work.

IF you really want her, only talk to her in person, and not at her work.

Just fucked up this same situation. by doing the opposite of what i just told you.

Except i went back and got her number.

(Text/Call to arrange meet ups)