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Back in March when the COVID19 started, I was texting and calling a couple girls every 1-2 weeks and they eventually fell off and stopped replying to my texts and calls. The lockdown prevented me from getting them out on a date fast enough and now life is returning to a some normalty, I have not learned anything in terms of where I did things right or wrong with these girls.
In many areas of life I see people ask for or give feedback on where they went wrong, for example:
-A company loses a customer and asks for feedback to see where they went wrong
-Schools gives feedback reports every year to students to show their performance and where they could improve
-Coaches and consultants tell their students where they need to improve
So what I wanted to do was to either call/text the girls who did reject a date request or stopped responding to me in a good way, and I wanted to ask them:
"What exactly did I do wrong that turned you off from wanting to date me?"
"What would you recommend I change in my approach when I speak to women?"
So if I were to text that, it would look like this:
"Hey (name). I understand that you no longer want to date or talk to me. And I am respect your decision, I wanted to get your quick feedback on what I did wrong that made you change your mind and not want to talk or see me anymore? I am dating other women and I am always focused on improving my game, and I don't want to repeat the same mistakes over and over . I would truly appreciate your honest feedback on where I did good or bad. Thanks"
Would anyone recommend I even do this to women? Please pardon me if this question comes across as quite strange. I have mixed feelings that it could be a good idea. I also have feelings this could be a horrible idea. The reason I want to do this is because I honestly have no idea where I messed up in the courtship with these girls. I am a little cautious to try this approach because it might come across as "beta male" approval seeking to these women. But even if it does, all I really want right now is their honest feedback so I can learn from my mistakes and do better when I meet more girls.
Your thoughs are appreciated GC?
Back in March when the COVID19 started, I was texting and calling a couple girls every 1-2 weeks and they eventually fell off and stopped replying to my texts and calls. The lockdown prevented me from getting them out on a date fast enough and now life is returning to a some normalty, I have not learned anything in terms of where I did things right or wrong with these girls.
In many areas of life I see people ask for or give feedback on where they went wrong, for example:
-A company loses a customer and asks for feedback to see where they went wrong
-Schools gives feedback reports every year to students to show their performance and where they could improve
-Coaches and consultants tell their students where they need to improve
So what I wanted to do was to either call/text the girls who did reject a date request or stopped responding to me in a good way, and I wanted to ask them:
"What exactly did I do wrong that turned you off from wanting to date me?"
"What would you recommend I change in my approach when I speak to women?"
So if I were to text that, it would look like this:
"Hey (name). I understand that you no longer want to date or talk to me. And I am respect your decision, I wanted to get your quick feedback on what I did wrong that made you change your mind and not want to talk or see me anymore? I am dating other women and I am always focused on improving my game, and I don't want to repeat the same mistakes over and over . I would truly appreciate your honest feedback on where I did good or bad. Thanks"
Would anyone recommend I even do this to women? Please pardon me if this question comes across as quite strange. I have mixed feelings that it could be a good idea. I also have feelings this could be a horrible idea. The reason I want to do this is because I honestly have no idea where I messed up in the courtship with these girls. I am a little cautious to try this approach because it might come across as "beta male" approval seeking to these women. But even if it does, all I really want right now is their honest feedback so I can learn from my mistakes and do better when I meet more girls.
Your thoughs are appreciated GC?
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