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foxman2

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Hey guys,

I just have an update on my situation, I am finding myself leaving the beginners circle, and am developing solid game and ability to attract women. Needless to say, it has come with a lot of pain and a lot of work.

I have been reading this site for about 6 months, and it has changed my outlook on getting women drastically. I didn't start getting lays over night, there is no real on/off switch in this game.

I have been approaching women on a fairly regular basis. I have done about 10 approaches a week on average for the last two months or so. Before then, I had crippling approach anxiety, and could barely talk to a girl.

Within the last two months, I have had sex with 4 women, and they are all very attractive. One, my friends regarded, as "the most attractive girl in the club." I still have a lot to learn though, but I am making a lot of progress very quickly. Needless to say, I am thrilled with the progress I have made.

The point I wanted to get across to all the newbies, is that you are going to go through a lot of pain, and that those who put in the work will succeed. I have found it best to take it one step at a time.

It wasn't until I got organized until I started improving my skill set.

I worked on the fundamentals a lot- posture, clothing, walking, speaking, etc.

I then worked on approaching women, getting over my approach anxiety.

I then tried to improve my ability to build sexual tension and attraction, through negative compliments.

I learned how to build rapport, and time bridge.

And lastly, I learned how to close.


My point is that, I wasted a lot of time in my early stages by focusing on levels I wasn't at yet. I was at level 1, and I would be spending a lot of energy thinking about level 10. If you learn it one step at a time, you will be able to record your progress, and focus on the task at hand.
 
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topcat

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Good advice foxman2, I'm going to put this into practise immediately. Thanks.
 

PrettyDecent

Tribal Elder
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Mar 2, 2013
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Hey foxman2,

foxman2 said:
The point I wanted to get across to all the newbies, is that you are going to go through a lot of pain, and that those who put in the work will succeed. I have found it best to take it one step at a time.

It wasn't until I got organized until I started improving my skill set.

I worked on the fundamentals a lot- posture, clothing, walking, speaking, etc.

I then worked on approaching women, getting over my approach anxiety.

I then tried to improve my ability to build sexual tension and attraction, through negative compliments.

I learned how to build rapport, and time bridge.

And lastly, I learned how to close.

My point is that, I wasted a lot of time in my early stages by focusing on levels I wasn't at yet. I was at level 1, and I would be spending a lot of energy thinking about level 10. If you learn it one step at a time, you will be able to record your progress, and focus on the task at hand.

I think many of newbies put a lot of pressure on themselves on "how to get that kiss down" or "what's the perfect way to ask a women home un-awkwardly" before they even start approaching women. This is perfectly understandable, but when beginners need to learn 25 other things in the process of reaching that point, they collapse under the massive weight that goes with learning 25 things simultaneously. With that so, learning curves are prolonged dramatically. One step at a time is the key.

Cheers on your graduation to "intermediate" ;),
Jake
 

Light

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Good Jobe Jake.

Glad to know fellow brothers are making progress ;)
 
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