"Working on" girls situation problems

[David_T]

Hey @Chase i recently joined the forum after reading your post on working on girls. It was an eye opener and i have a girl in college I've been working on for the past 4 weeks.

She's in my class actually and to be honest, i might have missed an escalation window and she comes across as attention seeking. Could be both or either.

My question how do i handle this situation? Of course i wont waste my time on her because I'll be gaming other girls but I'd like to know how to handle this situation. Should i ignore her ? Use social proof?

Thanks

 

[Fuck This]

I've been in this situation. She knows who you are and has formed her opinion. it ain't gonna get any better.

Your best bet is to make a move for during the School Winter Break. Have logistics aligned for a hookup and don't weaken. Show some sexual intent and she will either play along or reject you. You deliver the Escalation windows and it is up to her to jump on ...

Prime times to do this:
After Finals before you go home for the holidays
A random or scheduled meetup during vacation if she is local to you but away from school mates
When you are back at school but classes haven't started up yet

The reason it works better then is you break the pattern of classroom politeness and schedule. She will see you in a different light under a different situation. Meet her at a house party and be more physical in your approach. If she is interested she will reciprocate and be willing to go and do the deed, no delay...

I missed a golden opportunity with a sorority girl who met me out one night and I walked home. I'd been long gaming her, and I missed the biggest window that I should have seen. I never got back to that point.

But:
I had a one night stand with a girl I'd said "Hello" to all Semester walking to class.

Sophomore year I had a brief relationship with a girl from another campus. She dumped my ass the second week in October. On Halloween night I met my biology lab partner out at the bars, and got physical. Spent the night the next weekend.

So don't be afraid of showing some sexual intent. Don't be crude but sow you are a passionate, physical specimen. if shew rejects you then she will just keep her distance in class. But she won't lead you on for months....

 

[David_T]

I've been in this situation. She knows who you are and has formed her opinion. it ain't gonna get any better.

Your best bet is to make a move for during the School Winter Break. Have logistics aligned for a hookup and don't weaken. Show some sexual intent and she will either play along or reject you. You deliver the Escalation windows and it is up to her to jump on ...

Prime times to do this:
After Finals before you go home for the holidays
A random or scheduled meetup during vacation if she is local to you but away from school mates
When you are back at school but classes haven't started up yet

The reason it works better then is you break the pattern of classroom politeness and schedule. She will see you in a different light under a different situation. Meet her at a house party and be more physical in your approach. If she is interested she will reciprocate and be willing to go and do the deed, no delay...

I missed a golden opportunity with a sorority girl who met me out one night and I walked home. I'd been long gaming her, and I missed the biggest window that I should have seen. I never got back to that point.

But:
I had a one night stand with a girl I'd said "Hello" to all Semester walking to class.

Sophomore year I had a brief relationship with a girl from another campus. She dumped my ass the second week in October. On Halloween night I met my biology lab partner out at the bars, and got physical. Spent the night the next weekend.

So don't be afraid of showing some sexual intent. Don't be crude but sow you are a passionate, physical specimen. if shew rejects you then she will just keep her distance in class. But she won't lead you on for months....

Thanks bro.. this is helpful. I had a similar line of thought too. Breaking contact and trying things out during the holiday

I prefer holidays or parties like you said

 

[Rakehell]

Before you stop “working on her”, what does this actually mean in the context of you & her?

-Have you actually tried to lead things forward & she gives you the run around / won’t put out.

-Or do you guys flirt, and talk but never do anything outside of that.

If it’s the latter it might just be an ineffective strategy that you perceive as working on her, but in reality you aren’t actually trying to move things forward.

Not trying to put words in your mouth here, but it’s a common thing in social circle that comes from trying to avoid rejection. Want to make sure you working on her isn’t just you trying to keep your cards close to your chest.

Two very different things that can seem the same.

 

[David_T]

Before you stop “working on her”, what does this actually mean in the context of you & her?

-Have you actually tried to lead things forward & she gives you the run around / won’t put out.

-Or do you guys flirt, and talk but never do anything outside of that.

If it’s the latter it might just be an ineffective strategy that you perceive as working on her, but in reality you aren’t actually trying to move things forward.

Not trying to put words in your mouth here, but it’s a common thing in social circle that comes from trying to avoid rejection. Want to make sure you working on her isn’t just you trying to keep your cards close to your chest.

Two very different things that can seem the same.

We've had just one brief convo probably like 30 mins. Then the rest is probably flirting and small talk on 3 occasions. Then on the last occasion, i asked her to meet me later that day and she said okay. Called her and she didnt pick up. So i just continued doing my thing and ignored her. She'd make eye contact and try to engage me in convos but i keep it short and leave

There's preselection btw. Because shes aware i have other girls. And often teases me by calling me a player. Most times i just ignore her and do my thing and occasionally she'll come back all smiling and flirting trying to have a convo... but i dont really give her much attention (cause i mostly consider her playing games hence, a waste of time)

 

[Rakehell]

Ah I see, so it’s mostly the former.

Personally I’m not certain theres enough data to call her an attention whore. There could be any number of reasons why she flaked: lack of investment on her end, drop in buyers temperature, uncertain terms for why you were meeting up, reputation concerns that haven’t been covered, something going on in her personal life.

Either way if you feel you’ve covered your bases as much as your ability allows you to.

And have invested the most energy as you’re comfortable with, then in your shoes i’d just keep her around as preselection for the next girl.

While also looking out for windows that may present themself in the future from her.

If she feels too “difficult” then theres no point in prying on in my opinion.

 

[David_T]

Ah I see, so it’s mostly the former.

Personally I’m not certain theres enough data to call her an attention whore. There could be any number of reasons why she flaked: lack of investment on her end, drop in buyers temperature, uncertain terms for why you were meeting up, reputation concerns that haven’t been covered, something going on in her personal life.

Either way if you feel you’ve covered your bases as much as your ability allows you to.

And have invested the most energy as you’re comfortable with, then in your shoes i’d just keep her around as preselection for the next girl.

While also looking out for windows that may present themself in the future from her.

If she feels too “difficult” then theres no point in prying on in my opinion.

All your assumptions about her flaking are correct. I have a somewhat playerish reputation in my class. Her cousin has seen me in compromising positions with 2 different girls lol. Plus she's one of the hottest in our class too. So her reputation is super important to her based on how she moves and how small the school is.

She also hasn't invested much cuz our longest convo is only 30 mins. And i also wasnt clear when asking out and was to aloof and flirty with her. Didn't say or show why or how i genuinely lìked her

So it's a combination of everything you've said.