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Hector Papi Castillo

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Yo,

Any guys out there struggling with Asperger's/Autism? I figure that a decent amount of GC readers/lurkers deal with it and I'm very curious how I can teach guys who have it. Particularly if I can help them rewire their brain to think more intuitively or if they just need to mechanically understand things first.

If you're on the spectrum, would love to hear what questions you have or even how you think about the world and people. This would help me reach you guys easier.

Hector
 
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Quos258

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Ey!

Hey there! Here's my experience... I'm an undiagnosed Aspie. I'm actually persian and its really just kinda my culture (things like avoiding eye contact as a form of respect) but compared to american culture it seams as "mild autism." Well that's how chase described it in his game imbalance article... and after doing a lot of research on mild autism, I've figured I fit the description of an aspie. I've even had a couple girls ask me if I'm autistic so ik I'm at least on the spectrum.

My experience with girls has been very interesting... In general, I have a tough time managing my social life because I don't really know american societal norms. Most of my life I've been in honor classes with Asians... I almost don't really know how to act around white Americans. I make my own societal norms and when hanging out with me, people always have great time because i don't do typical things with them and I always here things like "there's no one like you on earth" (while i'm standing there thinking except the whole middle east), but over time a lot of them end up thinking I'm weird (I kinda am) and gradually growing apart from me which really sucks in my world because I value long term relationships a lot more (i'm basically the playboy that just wants to settle but can't because no girl takes me that seriously; I'm a film major).

I'm great at short term efforts and relationships. I get called a psychopath by my friends because of the way I'm able to charm and make friends and meet people, however, I've had very few friendships last more than 1 year (new set of friends every in school). The ones that do tho end up being ride or die friends. Longest romantic relationship I've had was 6.5 months. My ego gets depleted very quickly and I'm very emotional. You know how when you have a girlfriend and you try to protect their feelings and stuff? Well it feels like I'm my own girlfriend and I have to guard/ protect my own feelings as my emotions are somewhat extreme. Being very literal, I miss a lot of subtext which sucks because women love to talk in code. Lastly, I have a hard time making male friends (don't think it's autism related but worth mentioning) which also sucks because it makes me look weird, I don't get very many opportunities to go out (I love hanging out with girls in school but after school I'll only hang if its non platonicaly).

So most of my experiences with women have been non white girls and I pretty much have been using one method (following chase pretty much) and I've had a lot of success. Almost became autopilot at one point. However, it doesn't seam to be working with white women (I need help here because 70% of my city is white). I can chat and charm them just fine, but I always end up failing some sort of test while getting sexual and I kinda think white people are a little too soft so I'm reluctant to manhandle kiss and be masculine as white people love to act offended or cause a lot of drama for being bold and straight forward. Oh and their dad's almost always hate me (i think it's my beard, it scares their masculinity or something). On the other hand, non white families try to get me to marry their daughters (just cause I do good in school).

btw I'm a 20 year old in college right now. Is there any questions you have that I can answer to better help you understand my mind?

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Master K. Stone

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I'm on the low end of the autism spectrum. For the longest time I had trouble interacting with peers in high school, and it was constantly mechanical and very unnatural. Even now I have major anxiety when it comes to interacting with new people and friends I'm not too close with. I have overcome some of my problems but others still stand. Ask any specific details if you want to know more.
 

jackoftades819

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I'm borderline Asperger's and I've felt like people could always tell since it always seemed like no one wanted me around. I'm really bad at reading social cues and interacting with new people is very hard for me. Like I've had a few experiences where I think I'm becoming friends with people but i was just being tolerated and they were hoping I would go away. Don't know why. So gauging someone's interest is something I apparently can't understand. I lack social intuition I guess.
 
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