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would you ever serve a dom?

dark hawk

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I have heard both sides of the argument, a few people claim it is one of the easiest ways to get laid as all they had to do was listen to her, many people do agree on this point but the bone of contention is that the personality of such people take a beating for the worse, or usually it is people with some kind of childhood problem, who agree to this, is it true that the person changes a few of their attitudes and become more compliant?
 

ulrich

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I gueeeeeess I would be open to try it but I’m pretty sure it will not be my cup of tea.

Besides, deriving pleasure from pain and shame… that makes no sense to me at all.
 

Will_V

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Shall we call this getting laid, or getting laid into..?

Seriously though, if it turns you on to 'serve' a dom then cool, but if it's just to get over a dry patch? I can hardly think of a more psychologically defining experience than a sexual one.
 

Darius

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Funny I stumbled on this,

I recently had a girl try some dommy stuff on me, oddly enough right after I told her I like submissive girls. We were making out and she shoved her finger in my mouth and kept telling me to "suck it hard" while thrusting it in and out like a penis.

Boy did it feel wrong. I think it's a different sexual experience entirely, not many men's cup of tea.
 

dingdong

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being more or less of a narcissist, having a girl being so aroused by irresistible me that she ties me up and takes advantage of me sexually is a huge turn on. but that's purely dominating me erotically. any kind of humiliation or pain like pegging or talking down to me (calling me pathetic or saying i have a small dick or whatever) or what Darius says is a huge turn off for me.
 

Will_V

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My gf once was riding my cock on top while I lay down, and then braced her arms next to my head and started pounding away ferociously while staring into my eyes intensely. I tried not to laugh, it was kind of funny. When she stopped to catch her breath I flipped her over.

Personally I get turned on by expressing myself into a woman, even blowjobs to me get a bit boring unless I am playing with her body and enjoying her reactions while she does it. If I'm not doing some kind of action I just don't stay that hard.
 

Regal Tiger

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Had a girlfriend tie my hands up one time. Did nothing for me and felt kinda funny and I had a tremendous urge to flip her over during/after. I think I'm too dominant in bed to be dominated.

However, there was a different girlfriend who basically attacked me and ran everything. That was hot, but I wouldn't consider that dominating me.


Though expressing dominance to me means telling someone what to do on the lighter end. On the heavier end it's whips, handcuffs, spanking, slapping and choking as well as some possession-ish dirty talk. So I guess if it's more of a passionate I need you now kind of dominance then that's hot, but anything beyond that I just can't do.

Just the same as me being much happier dishing out a little roughness rather than taking it. I get zero pleasure from humiliation/pain. But I do enjoy giving it out. Don't really even like girls biting/scratching me but kind of tolerate it since it's them losing themselves in the moment (enjoying the mental aspect of them expressing themselves but not the physical aspect of it).
 

Vision

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It's just not interesting to me.

I'm way too dominant. Whenever a girl tries to take charge, I immediately get completely turned off.

Even if it's just trying to ride me or something, I lose interest and get turned off pretty quickly.

I think there are certain times when I'm more open to stuff but I'm not sure what the pattern is, maybe how I feel about her or something... hard to say.

Edit: Oh, I think it's when I feel like she's being of service to me instead of dominant with me, that's when I enjoy her doing stuff and taking charge of doing stuff. Damn, sounds like some deep psychological shit right now.
 

Kaida

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Oh, I think it's when I feel like she's being of service to me instead of dominant with me, that's when I enjoy her doing stuff and taking charge of doing stuff. Damn, sounds like some deep psychological shit right now.
I think you’ve cracked it. Them being “of service” to you is still you being dominant somewhat, so it makes sense that it still works.
 
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