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Would you move if your unit/duplex neighbour unusual and/or antisocial behaviour?

Rain

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Recently got new neighbours, as part of the unit/duplex type of house I'm in.

They have loud cars and idle them or work on them alot, Also some loud music with bass sometimes. But its not 24/7. Not always during the daytime though...think it was 1am the other night... loud rev during the 30mins idle. One of their car alarms went off. A different car alarm went off another night when they were doing whatever with their cars outside late at night too.

I recently opened garage door to go out in the afternoon and I talked to them because they were woking on one of their cars. I had problems with my rent going through so asked if they experienced similar. Talked about that for a bit. Then they said something like "Can you get out bro?" ie, their car, that they were working on with tools, was taking up half the driveway so I think they were implying do they need to move the car so I can go wherever I need to go. I said nah should be okay or something, and half on the grass got out. But since they offered that, thats what makes me think I might be overreacting, ie its not personal.

Even knowing that... I still feel uncomfortable. Not because noise is annoying from the cars, but its unusual behaviour. I'm hypersensitive I think.
At the same time, is this maybe antisocial behaviour? Once one of the cars start, drives around then comes back 3 or 4 times in a few hours. Its very... unusual. Inside the house maybe a bit more noise, like light banging into walls or something, opening and closing doors or something. Old neighbours didn't do this if I remember correctly.

The other way to look at it, is if these guys are unusual, and no threat personally, and on my side, maybe they could be an asset? Like if they're there, less chance of getting someone breaking in if they're literally out the front. But if they don't own the cars, or do drug drops[the coming and going constantly], then what?

The previous tenants were not like this. If this is not just a holiday coincidence(ie if this continues because they don't have a normal job or whatever), should I move house?
 
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Rain

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So a recent afternoon I open the side door and I hear 'FARKEN HELL' and slam on the bonnet or car door.
Then someone comes inside next door slams some stuff, starts drilling for a bit.
Somoenelse I think then gave a friendly toot toot and drove off.
So...... I figured maybe best not to go to the shops now, might wait till things cool down. THey having car trouble I'm thinking.
I don't want to stick my nose in, ya know? Like if someones in a bad mood dont go near them? Dont become a target?

So, I can afford to move even if I have to rent in two places at once till this lease runs out, even if I don't break the lease which has months left on it. Be annoying ,but yeah.

I did think about once things cool off, maybe saying hello and asking if car trouble or even explaining that I'm hypersensitive and I'm not in their way, but part of me also thinks thats a bit submissive? Plus might also be a risk of a target because if I'm asking about their business?
Maybe I should just move and be done with it? Move to a higher socio-economic area?

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ulrich

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Maybe it’s a blessing in disguise.

Do you think you can find a better place for you if you start looking?

They say you should always look for a car (in this case, a place) before you need one so you are not in a hurry and can find the absolute best deal for you.
 

Rain

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Do you think you can find a better place for you if you start looking?

I've messaged some people on airbnb and homestay, so that could get me something right now, and possibly long term if the host and I get on well.

Do you reckon move, and don't go asking questions about their car trouble etc? Best option?
 

Chase

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@Rain,

Why even talk to these guys?

They're not your roommates.

Seems like you are the one specifically seeking them out / thinking about seeking them out.

Most of the time with neighbors I just give a friendly nod and exchange a quick hello if we pass in the halls, unless it's someone who really seems worth getting to know.

Not sure why you feel a need to go drop in on them and get buddy-buddy with them, especially if they're weird, man...

-C
 

Rain

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Seems like you are the one specifically seeking them out / thinking about seeking them out.
That's a good point, they aren't seeking me out.

I think the worse case scenario happens on my mind alot, stuff like:
-if they are growing stuff, and it explodes, I might not survive the explosion or really badly injured?
-if somone gets angry like this, what if they do seek me out just because?

Maybe I thought if I was buddy buddy, then I could get 'confirmation' that would put my mind at ease , ie 'yeah bro we're not mad at you just the car' or 'yeah we're not growing anything' or 'we never had an explosion' something like that would give that confirmation. Or at least verbal confirmation. I'm not saying I should do that confirmation, I think it was the thought process behind the buddy buddy. My mind tends to default to worse case scenario.
 

Train

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@Rain,

Why even talk to these guys?

They're not your roommates.

Seems like you are the one specifically seeking them out / thinking about seeking them out.

Most of the time with neighbors I just give a friendly nod and exchange a quick hello if we pass in the halls, unless it's someone who really seems worth getting to know.

Not sure why you feel a need to go drop in on them and get buddy-buddy with them, especially if they're weird, man...

-C

I second this. Speaking from personal experience, interacting with weird neighbors is how you get a 19 year old chick trying to jump from your balcony to the neighbor's who just broke up with her lol...
 

Chase

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What's going to explode?

Do they have a meth lab there?

Sounds like they are just doing stuff with their cars, right?

That doesn't blow stuff up. Unless they're trying to install a jet engine on the back or something.

I'd just leave them alone. I was around a lot of those loud music, tricking-out-my-Honda-Civic types when I worked in a garage. Unless you know cars, their respect is hard-earned. I used to have a high school drop-out auto tech always ask me if I was stupid because I didn't know obscure car mechanics that he knew inside and out.

Honestly, trying to buddy-buddy with neighbors makes you a lot more of a chaos magnet than steering clear. Like @Train notes. If you become chums, prepare for their problem situations to become your problem situations. Thanks buddy!

I second this. Speaking from personal experience, interacting with weird neighbors is how you get a 19 year old chick trying to jump from your balcony to the neighbor's who just broke up with her lol...

That's when you invite her over to the couch to concoct a different kind of "get him back" jealousy/revenge plan that feels a lot more pleasurable than two broken ankles from the jump she failed to make... ;)

Chase
 

Rain

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The reason for thinking a lab
-During the loud music there was scratching sound from behind my bathroom vanity/sink[backs onto their garage]
-Used the bathroom recently and there was a loud ka-thunk type sound. Machine like. Sounded like it came from the front behind the washing vanity[where the scratching noise was maybe other night?] and all the way to the left side wall cavity[backs onto their bedroom or shower].
-Came home nighttime, their front bedroom light on, very bright though. Maybe a growing light to make plants grow.
-In my bedroom, heard some very subtle hum noise. Maybe a water pump to pump water.
If I'm right/wrong, I'm going to follow the advice here and not ask about this since thats the advice.

A few more reasons, to not talk to these people
-If you say you guys do x,y,z they might think they're being watched. People don't like being watched.
-If someone else in the street makes anonymous complaint noise etc, because you already brought it up they might think it was you.

Going forward if these guys
-ask for a lift <-- deny or ask if they can contribute fuel money?
-ask for money <-- deny, "Sorry I'm broke"
Neither of these has happened and I doubt it would, just thinking ahead.
 

Rakehell

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Yo bro, not sure why you’re so invested in what these guys are doing. Unless they’re directly impacting you or definitively putting you in danger I don’t see why you feel you have to move away when you’ve been there longer.

This is coming from someone who spent most of their life living in unsafe areas, next to people who legitimately sold drugs (without speculation).

Unless these guys are threatening you or getting their side of the house shot up, I don’t see what the big deal is.

^Btw i’ve had both of those things happen and nothing came of it, or got anyone I lived with hurt

Unless you already planned on getting to a better area moving out because of them is probably an overreaction. You’ve been there longer.

Saying this to say don’t just do an impromptu move out because of some less than ideal new neighbors. Take everything into consideration first and make sure ur moving because YOU wanna move, and are getting a better end of the deal. Not because they make you feel like you have to move.
 
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