If you know you will feel bad if she doesn't reply then the first thing i suggest is reading about oneitis and how to cure it. And then just go for it, you have nothing to lose. Either you'll see her again (I hope you don't plan on gaming her via text) or you won't.
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Generally, I have taken two different approaches to reconnecting with a girl, one follows Carnegie's principles, and the other follows Chase's.
With Carnegie's approach, it is socially weaker (only slightly though) but it has worked. Generally, I would frame a text like:
"Hey so and so, I know it must be (weird/ bizarre/ something along those lines) to hear from me again, but, I'd appreciate a few minutes of your time."
and Chase's frame can be found here:
https://www.girlschase.com/content/ultim ... -girl-back
With Carnegie's approach, it is socially weaker (only slightly though) but it has worked. Generally, I would frame a text like:
"Hey so and so, I know it must be (weird/ bizarre/ something along those lines) to hear from me again, but, I'd appreciate a few minutes of your time."
and Chase's frame can be found here:
https://www.girlschase.com/content/ultim ... -girl-back
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Stop worrying, and just throw her a short text to see what's new with her.
It depends a tiny bit though.. were you chasing her? Or, did you two have a thing goin' on?
If you two were intimate, or you KNOW that she liked you and things just didn't quite work out.. you can afford to be a bit warmer. "Hey you
". Otherwise, a bit colder would be better just to see if she's available. "how've you been, ___?" would be a more neutral text to just see what's up, and then you can try to make plans. If you're usually suave, or you have been with her, then you can just skip the greeting and just go straight into asking her out ("Hey love, been awhile. Let's meet up").
She'll respond if she's interested, and unless she's nervous / just being nice, she will make time for you when you try to make plans.
If not, oh well. Just meet more women, and forget about her. I get texts from old flames in other states who end up being in town, of which I haven't heard the likes of in a year or two. When that happens I just go straight into my normal stuff: "Are you in town? We should hangout".
You need not be nervous: Texting is just a tool to make plans, not one to make her like you.
It depends a tiny bit though.. were you chasing her? Or, did you two have a thing goin' on?
If you two were intimate, or you KNOW that she liked you and things just didn't quite work out.. you can afford to be a bit warmer. "Hey you
". Otherwise, a bit colder would be better just to see if she's available. "how've you been, ___?" would be a more neutral text to just see what's up, and then you can try to make plans. If you're usually suave, or you have been with her, then you can just skip the greeting and just go straight into asking her out ("Hey love, been awhile. Let's meet up").She'll respond if she's interested, and unless she's nervous / just being nice, she will make time for you when you try to make plans.
If not, oh well. Just meet more women, and forget about her. I get texts from old flames in other states who end up being in town, of which I haven't heard the likes of in a year or two. When that happens I just go straight into my normal stuff: "Are you in town? We should hangout".
You need not be nervous: Texting is just a tool to make plans, not one to make her like you.
The issue was we lost touch after sometime. Then I met her once and we were fine. Then again, we lost touch. But there remains a spark of me chasing her and I can feel that. Yet if I don't ask I wont know and truth be told, I have not got the NO yet. That is the only thing I am hoping on.