"Yeah, something like that wouldn't happen between us anyway"

[RAFox]

Hey fellas,

Before you read this, I want you to know what my current situation is. I really don't know whether if I should dump her or keep her for the sake of EXP.


Today I texted a Tinder match to build rapport, after agreeing to meet up nd getting her number. We were supposed to meet today but I couldn't.
After that, I texted her again and I played the "strawberry fields game" with her. Then we talked about sexuality, self-esteem issues and emotional availability and connection between two partners.

A little bit into the conversation, she mentioned she was tired from work and wanted to apologize if she didn't make sense. I then said :

Me: "Good thing we didn't meet up tonight then, you would have dozed off at a really bad time!"

Her: "Oh, and what would that 'bad time' have been?"

Me: "In the middle of conversation, of course! What, we've just met and you're already having dirty thoughts about us, tsk tsk tsk"

Her: "Don't worry, something like that wouldn't have happened anyway"

Ugh. I think I messed up somewhere.

Me: "Oh? Like what?"

Her: "Anything that would be deserving of a 'tsk tsk tsk'"

Me: "Oh, you mean you falling asleep mid-convo. Yeah, that would really be bad manners.

Me: "Anyway, XX, tell me a day when you aren't completely exhausted and we'll talk later. Night!"

Her: "I'm free on Monday night. Good night!"

I've been practicing my texting since last week, and there definitely were some dreadful moments right after sending a message, haha

So anyway, what are your thoughts on this? What should I do.if I decide to bed her after all?

 

[Estate]

What I think could be improved on here is...

When she challenged you, you backed down on what you meant.
She's acting not totally into it because the conversation seemed ok but a little bland.

The thing about the chase frame (the thing about the "bad time") is that if you're going to use it, there's a good chance you'll get the "Ooohh.. and what is that?" sort of side eye from a woman.
You meant sex, she knows you meant sex... so when she challenges you, it's not really winner her over when you back down on it.
You don't have to respond with something explicit but either tease it out with her further or just own it if you're confident enough.

This can be a really good thing or a bad thing (and the bad thing is actually good too)
If she responds positively or suggestively to it... great, the chase frame did exactly what you wanted, you assertained that she likes you.
However, if she's not into it or all that invested, being so direct can make her fade out... might seem like a bad thing but you've got to learn to see the positive in this. The sooner you set the bait out there, the sooner you'll see if she takes it or not. If she doesn't like it... move on to the next. It's a good thing.

 

[RAFox]

Thanks. That test is exactly what my problem was. I've decided to move on to the next.