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In the group chat I read a comment on whether it was right to go to the psychologist or do something else and it inspired me to write that (@Alpha13SC ). I am not referring to @Alpha13SC but it will be a general speech as if i were talking to a masked man. This is because we probably all have some childhood trauma and some sides have developed on them so we should all do some jung-style detection work to work on shadow trauma etc.
This masked person asks a question: is going to a psychologist a personal defeat?
Sit down and let's have a glass each. Good. Now that you are calm I'll explain something about my and your brain.
It lives on stories. This is why you like movies, you like listening to someone who tells you something. It is its basic functioning, the operating system. The stories.
What is a story?
A story that includes certain assumptions, which apply in a story and make it go as it should go.
Think back to yesterday's university exam. Done? There. You are not reliving something real. Your brain has assimilated the experience in the form of a story.
Probably in which you are a hero who has been challenged by an antagonist (the prof), but thanks to the great effort you have made and your great skill you have defeated him. Happy ending. Now you are stronger than before.
You don't see it exactly like that, but underneath your brain it experienced exactly like that. If you had taken less than 18 (here with us 18 is enough and 30 is the maximum), after all the effort you have made, the sacrifices and maybe after some of your stupid friends took 30, the story would have been different. It would have been an epic of injustice in which a pure and holy soul (you) was maimed by the bad society. And he will seek his ransom. In the next exam or out. Now you are down, and right you are down. But then you will rise stronger than before.
I have put in italics everything that seems obvious to you, but that derives from your mental history made up of a certain sense and certain expectations. Reread what I wrote paying attention to these words.
They are not OBJECTIVE. They are rather elaborate subjective or cultural narratives rather phony. Often.
All your experience, your thoughts, your future hopes. Everything passes through these works.
Which can often destroy you. And I know it well. Wrong narratives about yourself, others, work, relationships, etc, can create contexts of reference that annihilate you and take your breath away for today and tomorrow.
Here's the thing: alone you don't get out of it. I am sorry. You yourself are your stories. How can you understand that they are not realistic but subjective and change them?
No way, sir.
Psychology does this: It helps you see your stories. And it often gives you different interpretative horizons. New narratives that allow you to see your life in a different way.
Did you understand?
It is an important and fundamental stuff.
Of course, friends are also for this. But let's be serious: how many friends do you have far enough away from your background, objective and that can give you different interpretations? And would you listen to them, just in case? Naaaa. And do you think they can guide you? I do not believe. And most importantly, they have no real incentive to risk their relationship with you by maybe telling you something you don't want to hear (I sometimes do it with my friends, but I'm on a tightrope and it's not pleasant).
So there is nothing to be ashamed of if you go to the psychologist. You are simply admitting that you are human and that you need alternative narratives because yours are dysfunctional.
Stay human.
This masked person asks a question: is going to a psychologist a personal defeat?
Sit down and let's have a glass each. Good. Now that you are calm I'll explain something about my and your brain.
It lives on stories. This is why you like movies, you like listening to someone who tells you something. It is its basic functioning, the operating system. The stories.
What is a story?
A story that includes certain assumptions, which apply in a story and make it go as it should go.
Think back to yesterday's university exam. Done? There. You are not reliving something real. Your brain has assimilated the experience in the form of a story.
Probably in which you are a hero who has been challenged by an antagonist (the prof), but thanks to the great effort you have made and your great skill you have defeated him. Happy ending. Now you are stronger than before.
You don't see it exactly like that, but underneath your brain it experienced exactly like that. If you had taken less than 18 (here with us 18 is enough and 30 is the maximum), after all the effort you have made, the sacrifices and maybe after some of your stupid friends took 30, the story would have been different. It would have been an epic of injustice in which a pure and holy soul (you) was maimed by the bad society. And he will seek his ransom. In the next exam or out. Now you are down, and right you are down. But then you will rise stronger than before.
I have put in italics everything that seems obvious to you, but that derives from your mental history made up of a certain sense and certain expectations. Reread what I wrote paying attention to these words.
They are not OBJECTIVE. They are rather elaborate subjective or cultural narratives rather phony. Often.
All your experience, your thoughts, your future hopes. Everything passes through these works.
Which can often destroy you. And I know it well. Wrong narratives about yourself, others, work, relationships, etc, can create contexts of reference that annihilate you and take your breath away for today and tomorrow.
Here's the thing: alone you don't get out of it. I am sorry. You yourself are your stories. How can you understand that they are not realistic but subjective and change them?
No way, sir.
Psychology does this: It helps you see your stories. And it often gives you different interpretative horizons. New narratives that allow you to see your life in a different way.
Did you understand?
It is an important and fundamental stuff.
Of course, friends are also for this. But let's be serious: how many friends do you have far enough away from your background, objective and that can give you different interpretations? And would you listen to them, just in case? Naaaa. And do you think they can guide you? I do not believe. And most importantly, they have no real incentive to risk their relationship with you by maybe telling you something you don't want to hear (I sometimes do it with my friends, but I'm on a tightrope and it's not pleasant).
So there is nothing to be ashamed of if you go to the psychologist. You are simply admitting that you are human and that you need alternative narratives because yours are dysfunctional.
Stay human.
