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This is my first cold approach lay after restarting game this year (after years of "retirement" due to relationships and heavy workload). I was feeling a bit down due to lack of results compared to when I was gaming in my 20s. That insecurity-feeding side of me was already whispering: "you're too old dude, your prime days are gone".
Right now I am focusing mostly on day game, where I am a total beginner, but most of my action from back in the day is in clubs and bars so few weeks ago I decided to hit them at least 3-4 times a month. After all as a mid 30 in a big city there is still plenty of places where you can go without being surrounded only by teenagers.
I go to a small club with 2 wingmen. Do at least 6 approaches in 30 minutes. During the night, I am another person. All those fears and blocks I experience during the day go away and all that experience accumulated in the clubs years ago comes back. Like riding a bicycle.
We leave this club, get a cab and head to big one on the other side of town. Here they are playing country music and the vibe is more entertaining. I dance a bit by myself. I approach a girl: she keeps walking. I go to the bar area and stand close to a table. With the corner of my eye I notice that this pretty, slim brunette has noticed me and moved slightly closer. Approach invitation right? Another guy is very close to her looking at her: I gotta act fast.
I don't remember what I tell her as an opener. I am just very positive yet kicked back. She's late 30s but looking very young. Soft skin, fit body... definitely a babe. We start talking about clubbing in your 30s and joking about how we don't want to give up that "feeling young" feeling. I compliment her on her skin, to make sure it's man to woman. I give her deep sensual looks while talking. She's receptive. Each question I ask her, she talks a lot. She's definitely investing. I just let her talk while moving closer physically. 8-9 minutes go by and I kiss her for a few seconds before pulling back and let her continue to talk. I do this move other 2 times: kiss -> 5 minutes talk -> kiss -> 5 minutes talk.... and each kiss is more intense than the previous one.
I ask her if she want to dance. She agrees. I move her to the dancefloor. It's on. We are touching, playing, having fun. At one point I put my leg between hers, mimicking the sexual act. I start thinking: the only way I am not having sex tonight is if I screw up massively: so don't screw up dude!
I am tempted to move her out of the club right there, but something inside me tells me that I need to build a bit more comfort after dancing so wildly. We go again to the bar area. We sit intimately and I go into deep dive conversation while gently caressing her arms and legs. We talk for at least 20 minutes.
"Wanna get some air? It's hot as hell in here" She agrees.
"Let's go to that mini market and buy some chips, I am hungry". She agrees.
While we walk, I have my arm over her shoulder, ask her question and let her talk about non-sexual topics. I think: "I am already communicating enough sexuality and man-to-woman behavior with my body, I need to avoid slut-shame defenses by also connecting her on a personal level".
After getting some chips, I propose to take a bus and move towards "our side of town" (We both live on the west side, and we were currently in the east one). I get out of the bus with her at her station with the excuse of "wanting to see this district that I don't know very well". We walk for around 25 minutes around her district until we are outside of her building. Old gamer trick: "Can I use your bathroom? I don't want to do it on the street, I am civilized guy". She agrees.
I go to the bathroom, I ask her to show me the apartment. She does, then we sit on the sofa. Something tells me I need to continue to let her talk about this and that while caressing her and giving her some sweet body language and light kisses on the neck and arms.
We stand up and go around the apartment a bit more. She has to go to the bathroom. I sit on her bed and ask her if I can lay a bit cuz I am tired. She agrees.
She come back with two glasses of water. Once we are both relaxing on the bed, it's done. No resistances to cunninglingus and then sex. I think I owe this to my instinct of making her feel very comfortable all night after ramping up sexual tension on the dance floor.
Totally worth it by the way. Older girls can be so experience and loving in bed. And she's got still a young girl's body.
Thanks for reading.
Right now I am focusing mostly on day game, where I am a total beginner, but most of my action from back in the day is in clubs and bars so few weeks ago I decided to hit them at least 3-4 times a month. After all as a mid 30 in a big city there is still plenty of places where you can go without being surrounded only by teenagers.
I go to a small club with 2 wingmen. Do at least 6 approaches in 30 minutes. During the night, I am another person. All those fears and blocks I experience during the day go away and all that experience accumulated in the clubs years ago comes back. Like riding a bicycle.
We leave this club, get a cab and head to big one on the other side of town. Here they are playing country music and the vibe is more entertaining. I dance a bit by myself. I approach a girl: she keeps walking. I go to the bar area and stand close to a table. With the corner of my eye I notice that this pretty, slim brunette has noticed me and moved slightly closer. Approach invitation right? Another guy is very close to her looking at her: I gotta act fast.
I don't remember what I tell her as an opener. I am just very positive yet kicked back. She's late 30s but looking very young. Soft skin, fit body... definitely a babe. We start talking about clubbing in your 30s and joking about how we don't want to give up that "feeling young" feeling. I compliment her on her skin, to make sure it's man to woman. I give her deep sensual looks while talking. She's receptive. Each question I ask her, she talks a lot. She's definitely investing. I just let her talk while moving closer physically. 8-9 minutes go by and I kiss her for a few seconds before pulling back and let her continue to talk. I do this move other 2 times: kiss -> 5 minutes talk -> kiss -> 5 minutes talk.... and each kiss is more intense than the previous one.
I ask her if she want to dance. She agrees. I move her to the dancefloor. It's on. We are touching, playing, having fun. At one point I put my leg between hers, mimicking the sexual act. I start thinking: the only way I am not having sex tonight is if I screw up massively: so don't screw up dude!
I am tempted to move her out of the club right there, but something inside me tells me that I need to build a bit more comfort after dancing so wildly. We go again to the bar area. We sit intimately and I go into deep dive conversation while gently caressing her arms and legs. We talk for at least 20 minutes.
"Wanna get some air? It's hot as hell in here" She agrees.
"Let's go to that mini market and buy some chips, I am hungry". She agrees.
While we walk, I have my arm over her shoulder, ask her question and let her talk about non-sexual topics. I think: "I am already communicating enough sexuality and man-to-woman behavior with my body, I need to avoid slut-shame defenses by also connecting her on a personal level".
After getting some chips, I propose to take a bus and move towards "our side of town" (We both live on the west side, and we were currently in the east one). I get out of the bus with her at her station with the excuse of "wanting to see this district that I don't know very well". We walk for around 25 minutes around her district until we are outside of her building. Old gamer trick: "Can I use your bathroom? I don't want to do it on the street, I am civilized guy". She agrees.
I go to the bathroom, I ask her to show me the apartment. She does, then we sit on the sofa. Something tells me I need to continue to let her talk about this and that while caressing her and giving her some sweet body language and light kisses on the neck and arms.
We stand up and go around the apartment a bit more. She has to go to the bathroom. I sit on her bed and ask her if I can lay a bit cuz I am tired. She agrees.
She come back with two glasses of water. Once we are both relaxing on the bed, it's done. No resistances to cunninglingus and then sex. I think I owe this to my instinct of making her feel very comfortable all night after ramping up sexual tension on the dance floor.
Totally worth it by the way. Older girls can be so experience and loving in bed. And she's got still a young girl's body.
Thanks for reading.
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