Hi,
I didn't learn off of a "100 approach system" because it didn't exist when I started so I'll just say how I evolved to get where I am now.
100 approaches and failures is a lot. I got very discouraged after about 15. After I got into the low 20s, I gave up the whole asking out and phone number practice. It took a lot of initiative to approach a girl and to get shot down was wearing on my confidence. One day, I looked in the mirror and asked myself out. It was then where I realized that the whole approach is flawed. I'd reject me if I asked myself out. Right around the time I was suffering from this, I got this idea that some girl I was working with was interested in going out with me. Because of all the failure and my age(23), I couldn't see it, so I discussed the situation with a co-worker and he enthusiastically told me to ask her out. I wasn't feeling it, but I asked her out anyway and it was a success.
I've been trying to figure out the magic formula to consistently score, but after 30+ years' on this I don't think there is a definite answer. I read a story criticizing the whole "dating, courtship process" saying that process is learned and it was taught via movies/TV when we were kids. We saw it continuously on TV and in movies so we assumed that's what you do when see a pretty girl you'd like to be with. I later went further and discovered where and why that whole process exists in the first place. Knowing this helps you understand how grandpa got grandma and why that routine doesn't work well today.
Girls can get really sketchy about yielding phone numbers so in the early 2000s, I would ask for an email address as it was less invasive. Being a journalism-major, we had access to social sources a business-major who was awkward with females wouldn't have. They told me about a rejection hot-line girls would give at the club to phone-number seeking guys they weren't interested in. I later used that knowledge to help a girl get rid of a harassing admirer.
Obviously things have changed and I have asked for girls' numbers again because emailing is not effective. I don't have trouble asking for numbers, but I still don't like doing it. A lot of times the girls smile when I ask for them knowing I have to ask for it because it's the only form of communication to keep in touch and we're splitting up. Sometimes they give me the work number which means our relationship is going to die but I get that from some of the guy co-workers as well so it's hard to take it personal.
I wouldn't take numbers just to take numbers. At some point, you need to be more selective on who you are perusing and develop a strategy to win her over. You must also consider if it's realistic to even continue pursuing her. There are girls I know that where interested in me and we could've gone somewhere but the logistics did not work so I couldn't secure the phone number(i.e. I was a temp worker in an office jockeying for a permanent position and she's a permanent worker who works in a department I don't have anything to do with.) For political reasons, I cannot pursue her and I am fine with that. There are other girls that are more obtainable.
