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Alright guys, I've noticed a particular trend lately and I'm doing a re-write on a subject I thoroughly enjoy. It's something so simple, and yet most guys have not been doing this properly; revealing your intentions early on.
I'm very honest with women about what I want from them, and about what they can expect from me and this helps diffuse a lot of tension later on. A girl cannot come back and say "You're an asshole and sleazy piece of shit for wanting a threesome" if I told her early on that that's what I expected from her. You've got to let her understand your game before you let her play. When she understands what she's walking into then she cannot be mad or upset with you for something that you do: monogamy, polyamory, fuck buddies, etc.
Being vague about what you want can cause women to auto-reject you as well because she doesn't know what you're after. If she's out just looking to get fucked, and you also want to fuck but don't let her know that then she has absolutely no idea if you two are seeking the same thing and ultimately she'll text or call the man who made it clear that he just wanted to fuck.
Revealing your intentions early on also saves time. We've all talked to a girl for 30 minutes or so only to find out that she has a boyfriend... and suddenly you just wasted loads of time that could've been spent talking to a girl who was more compatible with what you're looking for. This is also why I'm a big fan of, and a specialist in direct day game.
I'd like to point this out and say that revealing your intentions doesn't necessarily mean vocalizing what you want. I don't tell women "Hey! I want to take you home and fuck the shit out of you" but I do reveal that and I let her come to that conclusion on her relatively early on. Speaking sexually, touching, eye contact, etc; your use of these helps a girl to understand what you want from her. This is another reason girls may auto-reject because your intentions aren't in-sync; if you're verbally telling her that you want to fuck but are indicating with touch and eye contact that you really want to be a boyfriend then she has no idea what you want.
Last thing is, girls (and people alike) respect and are attracted to people who know what they want and are persistent in getting it. Having a laser focus while pursuing a clear goal is very attractive and women also think that you're a guy who is used to getting what he wants. All of these things up attraction and ultimately make your life a hell of a lot easier.
So yeah guys, let her know what you want from her, so she:
I'm very honest with women about what I want from them, and about what they can expect from me and this helps diffuse a lot of tension later on. A girl cannot come back and say "You're an asshole and sleazy piece of shit for wanting a threesome" if I told her early on that that's what I expected from her. You've got to let her understand your game before you let her play. When she understands what she's walking into then she cannot be mad or upset with you for something that you do: monogamy, polyamory, fuck buddies, etc.
Being vague about what you want can cause women to auto-reject you as well because she doesn't know what you're after. If she's out just looking to get fucked, and you also want to fuck but don't let her know that then she has absolutely no idea if you two are seeking the same thing and ultimately she'll text or call the man who made it clear that he just wanted to fuck.
Revealing your intentions early on also saves time. We've all talked to a girl for 30 minutes or so only to find out that she has a boyfriend... and suddenly you just wasted loads of time that could've been spent talking to a girl who was more compatible with what you're looking for. This is also why I'm a big fan of, and a specialist in direct day game.
I'd like to point this out and say that revealing your intentions doesn't necessarily mean vocalizing what you want. I don't tell women "Hey! I want to take you home and fuck the shit out of you" but I do reveal that and I let her come to that conclusion on her relatively early on. Speaking sexually, touching, eye contact, etc; your use of these helps a girl to understand what you want from her. This is another reason girls may auto-reject because your intentions aren't in-sync; if you're verbally telling her that you want to fuck but are indicating with touch and eye contact that you really want to be a boyfriend then she has no idea what you want.
Last thing is, girls (and people alike) respect and are attracted to people who know what they want and are persistent in getting it. Having a laser focus while pursuing a clear goal is very attractive and women also think that you're a guy who is used to getting what he wants. All of these things up attraction and ultimately make your life a hell of a lot easier.
So yeah guys, let her know what you want from her, so she:
- Doesn't get mad, angry, or upset with you
- Does not become a girl who wastes your time
- Becomes more attracted to you because you know what you want
