The technical solutions
- Cold Read- Make a cold read about her and economics -
- "Wait, you don't look like an economist..." (skeptical look, leads to her trying to qualify herself)
- "You know what they say about economists" (sly grin, let's her know that you're flirting)
- " I KNEW IT!!!!,you totally look like an economist" (leads to "what makes me look like an economist" - start riffing on what she's wearing/carrying etc)
- Generally - 90/10 Rule - 90% of the first 5-15 minutes is going to be you providing the material - so If she says something that you can't work with, you have either a stack of material or you've gotten good at improvisation (and you let go of the need to logically continue conversational threads)
- Improvisation - "Perfect, Nick Fury just called me, I'm putting together a team of....."
All this stuff should be in your tool box
Deeper Solutions/Change your Mind on what needs to happen
I agree with
@Tony D here. This is value taking.
Any sort of direct question opener to deep dive is a value taking, and the girl has no emotional reason to want to tell you her hopes and fears when she meets you for the first time in those first minutes. In the classic MM model, you're skipping over attraction and going straight into comfort/rapport/trust, without building up any of the subjective value she has in YOU.
So a lot of folks would just do a "personal follow up"
Deeper Open Ended Follow Up Question - Ask her about herself in relation to economics - "Cool, why'd you pick that"
Keep in mind, this is a big ask. So this can work right off the bat, but the verbal aspect is at best 10% of this.
The 90% is in what she draws on to understand the communication
- Facial Expressions, Body Language
- Speed, Pace, Rhythm, Tone
- Social Situation
What would make a girl explain herself to you, in a deep way, off rip?
How I would ask a deeper question
- Make eye contact
- Change my facial expression to that of "wonder/amazement"
- Pause PAUSE/keeping eye contact
- "Hmm" - a verbal enforcement to my wonder and amazement
- "Out of all the things in the world, what makes you EXCITED about economics?"
- AND WAIT.
So I'm communicating to her that i'm 1) surprised and 2) DEEPLY INTERESTED in something that she's passionate about. (and ambiguously/in the background, deeply interested in HER)
You can basically do this with anyone you meet, but
the key is that they see your intent via your body language, hear it in your voice, see it on your face, and deal with the social pressure of giving you an answer. You don't want them to feel like they're just making conversation. You want them to feel like your in awe, fellow traveler, giving them the platform to shine...etc. Having this one conversation with you, should be the best part of her day, and something she thinks about later on. (which is what will make the number close stronger, if you can't instadate/take her home)
A deep question on the walkup/approach is
still a big ask in my view, it's value taking, but people will give you value if you ask for it correctly, and then a few things happen
First, they get to talk about something their passionate about - and that's dopamine that you're causing to happen. You give them value by first taking it.
Second, they're going to backwards rationalize that you must be a person of value. Because they wouldn't just tell some rando their hopes and dreams.
Third, you've taken the frame. Whenever someone tries to appease you, please you, prove themselves to you - even if they enjoy themselves - you are the one in power.
This leads to a bigger inner game issue
The technical solutions are what most guys gravitate towards, and those will get you laid.
And the more you do them, the more you'll do them with conviction, and "dominance" and "authority".
I think technical solutions work with every caliber of girl.
Dimes and adjustable 6's all get sold by everyone else on the planet, you can sell her too.
Lotta guys have weird criteria for 10s, despite the fact she listens to the same bs that everyone else does, and does the same predictable stuff.
I digress.
Using tech all the time, How will you feel about yourself? About your ability to connect?
Will tech become a crutch? (I've had plenty of crutches, my main two were music and dancing)
Guys that think they need material/technique NEED material and technique.
Improvisation is really just another technique, because the guy feels the need to fill the space.
If he doesn't keep the chick's mind and emotions constantly in flux - he feels that the chick will just drop him/drop the interaction.
Bright Shiny Object!
I'm not gonna speak on daily mantras and meditation - but to get to the next level, I believe that a guy has to think more deeply about the interaction.
I mentioned the "leave a gap" for her to respond, for her to feel the social pressure to respond to a question.
And most guys have issues just looking at the girl and waiting for her to respond. It's a test of his will.
That's because they really do value the girl/the sex more than themselves. He's given her the frame. When he doesn't give the interaction room to breathe, he doesn't develop any tension.
Tension, sexual, social, whatever - is what you can add to your game.
Tension leads to more "taking", more staring, more purposeful silence, more facial expressions that provoke her to respond, more expecting her to do certain things, and withdrawing attention when she doesn't, or checking her poor behavior.
You want to get her blood up, you want to bring her into a vortex of emotions - and that might mean breaking social rules, getting into her personal space, making her feel uncomfortable but responding.
In my experience, rethinking how these college campus walkups are actually working, will give you a much better result - for you and her.
WIA