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So this is a social circle lay that happened last night. Not going to post the texts as there are just too many of them. This is also my biggest age gap to date (I'm turning 31 in March, she turned 18 in Early October). Just goes to show that age IS just a number, as I've seen some posts here in the past talking about how some guys are having a tough time getting younger girls. So this will be a shorter post, but I'll highlight a few key things that I felt stood out.
Background:
This July I took a part time job bartending (outside of my regular job). And I only work there 1-3 days a week usually. So this girl started working as a hostess there maybe a month ago in Octoberish. Anyway, Our first interaction is where I'm moving some boxes with liquor in them into our back bar cooler. And this interaction (I feel) basically sets the frame really strong right away. It was flirty and challenging all in one.
And we just bantered a bit and I left things at that, but I knew it was on since that first interaction, as she loved what I said. We'd talk a bit at work but not a ton, as she had a boyfriend at the time (who I later found out she was unhappy with), and I just wasn't interested in pursuing someone I worked with. (That obviously changed down the road, and I didn't care too much as this was only my part time job). I'm still a proponent of not eating where you shit, at your main job anyway.
Our next pivotal moment was during a food tasting. There were some new hires and I missed the last one, so I was joining this one. There was this one new guy who would hit on her a lot (and not in a good way) and she was a bit weirded out by him. Once the the tasting starts and I'm talking with this girl, and we decide to sit by each other at the bar where we'll be eating. I also make it a point to sit in between her and the weird new guy, and she tells me later that she was really thankful for that lol. The food comes and we're joking around about how I'm vegan and I'm eating this meat, and we do a bit of roleplay stuff where I cut her food and feed her, all pretty funny stuff and not serious at all. After the food tasting we both work, but we have about a half hour to kill, so we go upstairs to this staff room and talk. I find out about her boyfriend who she isn't happy with and is going to break up with him, what's she's starting to take in university, what her passions are etc. All deep dive stuff that can be read on GC. One thing I felt was important here is this: We talked a bit about the weird new guy who would hit on her, and how uncalibrated he was, but I always spoke about him like I felt sorry for him that his game was weak, not like "He's a loser blah blah." You never want to talk bad about your competitors as it's just not a high value thing to do. But saying things like, "Ahh yeah that's a bit silly on his part, I kindof feel bad for him to be honest lol" allows you to set yourself up as being better than him, but doing it from a place of kindness. After we talk I let things die, I don't push for a # or anything, and she still has a bf, so I don't really care. I'm very chill and relaxed about the whole interaction.
Maybe a week goes by and then all of a sudden, guess who adds me on FB....and then a few days later she messages me. So she's chasing hard here, and during the whole thing I'm very chill and laid back about it (she later told me this was something that she really liked about me, like nothing affected me whatsoever). And she texts me almost daily, always starting the conversation each time. And sometimes if there's a spot where I can let the convo die, and I let it die, she'll double text trying to start it again. during this time she also ends things with her bf. So I knew this one was in the bag as long as I didn't fuck up somehow and just maintained being a cool guy. At one point in our texting we reach a point where I can escalate, and so our convo takes a big sexual turn going forward, to the point where when we hang out, we both know that we're going to fuck. She also starts sending me photos of herself (no nudes). I was pretty busy with other dates so I just said I'm pretty busy for the next few weeks but maybe we can shoot for a day down the road, and she was understanding of that, and that's she's in no rush. And at work I keep things pretty normal, don't talk to her much. She basically thinks I'm too cool most of the time, and that I'm a player etc.
Here's where I saw the escalation window to take things sexual. Notice how I get buy in from her too, as keep in mind I work with this girl, so everything has to be really calibrated, and I don't want to go escalate too much unless I know for sure she's down.
So yesterday (Sunday) I had a girl flake on our date kindof last minute, but lo and behold the girl that I text with messages me, saying she knows this is super last minute but she's free and asking if I am. And if I'm not it's no big deal as she knows it's super last minute. I tell her I'm free and basically just sort out logistics. I pick her up outside a restaurant and we head back to mine.
At my place we just chill and talk for about half an hour, she puts her head on my shoulder at one point, and then also lays her head in my lap talking up to me. At one point I let the conversation die down and just look at her. She looks back up at me and asks, "What" with a slight smile. I just say, "Come here." And so she lifts herself up and we start making out. No LMR, ate her out, fucked her good for about an hour with a break in between, with multiple orgasms, 7 by her count.
After was also pretty cool, as she told me she'd love to be a repeat customer (she's a funny girl lol), and about how cringey 99% of guys are. Like, one guy tries just sending pictures of his abs to her out of the blue asking "wanna chill?" And another says that he will buy her anything if she just goes on one date with him. And that there's 2 guys at work who have told her they want to chill, and she's just like nah they're too awkward/not confident enough. Kindof gives you some insight that most guys have 0 game. We also talk about how I'm a womanizer/player, and I deny both of those, saying that yes I am dating, but I don't play girls, I love them, and give them what they want.
Thanks Hector.
Anyway, those were the bigger highlights from this. Hopefully there are some insights for everyone! Closing Screenshot:
