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I'm very rusty and quickly went over my audio recordings. I haven't sarged for over 10 days. I been learning online game. I want to make the switch because I found day game is not as good as it use to be. I get blown out more than before. Maybe because I'm getting older or there are many day gamers effecting the market. A lot of girls just walk away as soon as I go direct. I believe now many girls have heard of day game. The new norm is probably online game and more acceptable in the UK
I think I will do a mixer of online game and day game mostly. If it rains, then i will hit the clubs, I have not done club for a very long time but seems like the answer for bad weather. The Online Dating course, I have been going over is very big and has taken me a very long time to go over. I'm only half way through lol.
First set
F: excuse me, sorry um, I just saw you form over there ....and......I think you look very cute
NOTE: perfect delivery
HB: thank you so much, thank you
F: you speak English really well, where are you from?
HB: I'm from South Korea
F: South Korea, onion eye seye O
HB: ha you know it very well, nice to meet you
F: My name is F, why you have this British Accent then?
HB: well I don't know
F: you speak like the Queen
HB: sorry
F: you speak like the Queen
NOTE: I had a bit of nervous energy because I haven't sarged for over 10 days. I'm not as relaxed when I spoke to her and I believed it showed in my non verbal. She must have felt it. Verbally, I still kind of knew what to say, maybe because all the FRs I have written has helped. It did show in my face, i was not comfortable and I was still stifled. This was kind of when things screwed up for me because if you don't go out regularly, this is what happens
HB: I do?
F: yeah, i don't know why
HB: i don't know
F: it reminds me of, you know British tea
NOTE: high tea is what i wanted to say. It didn't come out right as I was still stiffied.
HB: haha
F: sandwich and all that kind of stuff
HB: it's okay
F: so, have you been living here for a long time then?
HB: just 2 years
F: is it? and you name?
NOTE: I'm trying to free associate smoothly but it's not coming out smoothly lol. I just need to go out more.
HB: my name is Sue, sorry ( very posh lol)
F: but that's not a Korean name?
HB: Haysiu. Make it easier
F: okay haha. So what are you doing down here then?
HB: browsing around
F: browsing around and looking at (Men was what I was about to say, too bad she cut me off)
HB: and you?
F: basically, I had dim sum with my friends so, I just came here. I was walking around and I saw you. I thought wow.
F: you look kind of, you look alright haha
NOTE: This is very good. This is ambiguous and not complementing her too much. You should use: you look alright more
HB: thank you
F: yeah so, you look like your shopping or something, I don't know
HB: yes
F: can we stand over there
NOTE: outside a shop
minutes 1.50 moved her to one side
F: that guys is looking at us
NOTE: next time say: we are blocking the entrance
HB: oh okay
F: you came here shopping or
HB: no no no I live here
F: okay
HB: yeah
F: what did you come here for today then?
HB: blah blah browsing around
F: haha that was what i was asking you
HB: yeah okay
HB: where are you from? what about you?
F: where do you think, I'm from?
HB: I have no idea
F: India (pause) or Africa?
NOTE: good delivery and good pauses
HB: non of those nah haha
F: I was born here
HB: ok
F: basically my parents are from HK
F: have you been to HK or?
HB: not yet
F: not yet, so when?
F: how about tomorrow, me and you, we go now
HB: hahha
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NOTE: you missed the chance to self amuse and create a lover/boyfriend frame
F: how about tomorrow, me and you, we go now. Get married and have 50 babies. You can be wife number 67
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HB: my sister blah
F: Sue, you know, it's amazing. Your British is so amazing. I don't know if you are British or Korean.
HB: thank you
NOTE: I was impressed with her accent but I shouldn't have continued down this path on complimenting her about it. You can compliment her on something else or say something else
F: you look like the middle one in the family
HB: I'm the youngest one
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NOTE: missed chance to put her in a naughty frame
F: you look like the youngest one and the naughty one. You look like a very bad student
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F: you have this middle child feeling
HB: no I don't haha
HB: I have an older brother
F: but seem kind of mature kind of thing
HB: why thank you
F: not crazy haha
HB: doesn't mean all great
F: you doing well so far
NOTE: good frame. Don't be afraid the neg her a bit. It balances out the complements and statement of intent. Being able to say things she doesn't like can built trust but obviously don't go over board. This is a nice balance
HB: okay
F: I don't know, you don't have the feeling that you the youngest one
HB: okay interesting
F: that's a good thing right?
F: I don't know if your doing anything right now ............but........... I want to get a cup of coffee with you right now
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NOTE: you screwed up here. Your meant to say:
F: You, know what, I feel like a cup of coffee right now......and .........I want you to join me. Just for 5 minutes, I need to get going soon.
+ This is the standard instant date line. I'm not sure why I said the above. You asking for permission which is needy and low value
+ 2nd screw up is, asking her when I just broke rapport with her. You should only instant date on a high or positive note. Never instant date her on a negative vibe
+ 3rd lesson is you gut feeling told you not to instant date but you did it anyway. It is good practice though I guess
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HB: I'm sorry, I kind of going shopping
F: oh, alright, no problem. Is there something you have to buy or
NOTE: running out of thing to say, so I start plowing, which is good. I am a bit rusty
HB: I'm looking for clothes and stuff
F: discount
HB: yeah
NOTE: my gut told me it wasn't going well anyway. It was expected.
F: handbags
HB: blah blah blah
F: so you looking to buy handbags or?
HB: I don't know, clothes or something
HB: something pretty, that's all
F: so where abouts do you live?
NOTE: good plowing to get into state for the next girl
HB: Stratford, East london
F: oh, that's like a shopping area right
NOTE: that's near my area but for some reason, I pretended I didn't know that place. I don't know why I did that. Maybe nervous still and not thinking straight.
F: Westfield
HB: Westfield yeah, I live in front of westfield
F: is it, so you can go shopping everyday and look at all the good looking men
NOTE: she didn't react well, to the good looking men part. Her facial expression told me everything. That's her problem, not mine. My job is to introduce a lover or boyfriend frame. Well done for trying
HB: my husband blah blah blah
minutes 4.37. we find she has a husband. This is good to know
NOTE: I didn't feel comfortable kinoing her much, I think her mirco expression told me she didn't want to. My gut feeling
F: oh your married, sorry man
HB: that's okay
F: you look very young
NOTE: pushing for state for the next girl
HB: I am young, I just got married young
F: so you got married when you were 16 right?
HB: no
minutes 4.52
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I'm very rusty and quickly went over my audio recordings. I haven't sarged for over 10 days. I been learning online game. I want to make the switch because I found day game is not as good as it use to be. I get blown out more than before. Maybe because I'm getting older or there are many day gamers effecting the market. A lot of girls just walk away as soon as I go direct. I believe now many girls have heard of day game. The new norm is probably online game and more acceptable in the UK
I think I will do a mixer of online game and day game mostly. If it rains, then i will hit the clubs, I have not done club for a very long time but seems like the answer for bad weather. The Online Dating course, I have been going over is very big and has taken me a very long time to go over. I'm only half way through lol.
First set
F: excuse me, sorry um, I just saw you form over there ....and......I think you look very cute
NOTE: perfect delivery
HB: thank you so much, thank you
F: you speak English really well, where are you from?
HB: I'm from South Korea
F: South Korea, onion eye seye O
HB: ha you know it very well, nice to meet you
F: My name is F, why you have this British Accent then?
HB: well I don't know
F: you speak like the Queen
HB: sorry
F: you speak like the Queen
NOTE: I had a bit of nervous energy because I haven't sarged for over 10 days. I'm not as relaxed when I spoke to her and I believed it showed in my non verbal. She must have felt it. Verbally, I still kind of knew what to say, maybe because all the FRs I have written has helped. It did show in my face, i was not comfortable and I was still stifled. This was kind of when things screwed up for me because if you don't go out regularly, this is what happens
HB: I do?
F: yeah, i don't know why
HB: i don't know
F: it reminds me of, you know British tea
NOTE: high tea is what i wanted to say. It didn't come out right as I was still stiffied.
HB: haha
F: sandwich and all that kind of stuff
HB: it's okay
F: so, have you been living here for a long time then?
HB: just 2 years
F: is it? and you name?
NOTE: I'm trying to free associate smoothly but it's not coming out smoothly lol. I just need to go out more.
HB: my name is Sue, sorry ( very posh lol)
F: but that's not a Korean name?
HB: Haysiu. Make it easier
F: okay haha. So what are you doing down here then?
HB: browsing around
F: browsing around and looking at (Men was what I was about to say, too bad she cut me off)
HB: and you?
F: basically, I had dim sum with my friends so, I just came here. I was walking around and I saw you. I thought wow.
F: you look kind of, you look alright haha
NOTE: This is very good. This is ambiguous and not complementing her too much. You should use: you look alright more
HB: thank you
F: yeah so, you look like your shopping or something, I don't know
HB: yes
F: can we stand over there
NOTE: outside a shop
minutes 1.50 moved her to one side
F: that guys is looking at us
NOTE: next time say: we are blocking the entrance
HB: oh okay
F: you came here shopping or
HB: no no no I live here
F: okay
HB: yeah
F: what did you come here for today then?
HB: blah blah browsing around
F: haha that was what i was asking you
HB: yeah okay
HB: where are you from? what about you?
F: where do you think, I'm from?
HB: I have no idea
F: India (pause) or Africa?
NOTE: good delivery and good pauses
HB: non of those nah haha
F: I was born here
HB: ok
F: basically my parents are from HK
F: have you been to HK or?
HB: not yet
F: not yet, so when?
F: how about tomorrow, me and you, we go now
HB: hahha
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NOTE: you missed the chance to self amuse and create a lover/boyfriend frame
F: how about tomorrow, me and you, we go now. Get married and have 50 babies. You can be wife number 67
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HB: my sister blah
F: Sue, you know, it's amazing. Your British is so amazing. I don't know if you are British or Korean.
HB: thank you
NOTE: I was impressed with her accent but I shouldn't have continued down this path on complimenting her about it. You can compliment her on something else or say something else
F: you look like the middle one in the family
HB: I'm the youngest one
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NOTE: missed chance to put her in a naughty frame
F: you look like the youngest one and the naughty one. You look like a very bad student
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F: you have this middle child feeling
HB: no I don't haha
HB: I have an older brother
F: but seem kind of mature kind of thing
HB: why thank you
F: not crazy haha
HB: doesn't mean all great
F: you doing well so far
NOTE: good frame. Don't be afraid the neg her a bit. It balances out the complements and statement of intent. Being able to say things she doesn't like can built trust but obviously don't go over board. This is a nice balance
HB: okay
F: I don't know, you don't have the feeling that you the youngest one
HB: okay interesting
F: that's a good thing right?
F: I don't know if your doing anything right now ............but........... I want to get a cup of coffee with you right now
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NOTE: you screwed up here. Your meant to say:
F: You, know what, I feel like a cup of coffee right now......and .........I want you to join me. Just for 5 minutes, I need to get going soon.
+ This is the standard instant date line. I'm not sure why I said the above. You asking for permission which is needy and low value
+ 2nd screw up is, asking her when I just broke rapport with her. You should only instant date on a high or positive note. Never instant date her on a negative vibe
+ 3rd lesson is you gut feeling told you not to instant date but you did it anyway. It is good practice though I guess
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HB: I'm sorry, I kind of going shopping
F: oh, alright, no problem. Is there something you have to buy or
NOTE: running out of thing to say, so I start plowing, which is good. I am a bit rusty
HB: I'm looking for clothes and stuff
F: discount
HB: yeah
NOTE: my gut told me it wasn't going well anyway. It was expected.
F: handbags
HB: blah blah blah
F: so you looking to buy handbags or?
HB: I don't know, clothes or something
HB: something pretty, that's all
F: so where abouts do you live?
NOTE: good plowing to get into state for the next girl
HB: Stratford, East london
F: oh, that's like a shopping area right
NOTE: that's near my area but for some reason, I pretended I didn't know that place. I don't know why I did that. Maybe nervous still and not thinking straight.
F: Westfield
HB: Westfield yeah, I live in front of westfield
F: is it, so you can go shopping everyday and look at all the good looking men
NOTE: she didn't react well, to the good looking men part. Her facial expression told me everything. That's her problem, not mine. My job is to introduce a lover or boyfriend frame. Well done for trying
HB: my husband blah blah blah
minutes 4.37. we find she has a husband. This is good to know
NOTE: I didn't feel comfortable kinoing her much, I think her mirco expression told me she didn't want to. My gut feeling
F: oh your married, sorry man
HB: that's okay
F: you look very young
NOTE: pushing for state for the next girl
HB: I am young, I just got married young
F: so you got married when you were 16 right?
HB: no
minutes 4.52
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