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Hi guys!
I saw this randomly on a street photography website and thought it might help some guys here.
The exercise was a recommendation for beginner street photographers to improve social skills and overcome social anxiety.
The Exercise
The task was to go up to people and tell them you are a beginner or aspiring street photographer who is just getting used to talking to people and overcoming his anxiety and to then ask for a simple picture from them.
Tip to lower pressure
To make it as low pressure as possible, the idea was to ask for a picture which DOES NOT show their face.
Examples
- Just a close up of an item like a bracelet or shoes.
- Just asking them to hold an item up like a water bottle.
- Asking them to make a simple hand gesture like a thumbs up and taking just a close up of that.
You can get creative and think of your own ideas. And the task was to do it with a lot of different people over a week or a month.
How does it help seducers?
-The obvious thing of course being a low pressure way to get over approach anxiety.
- I think a lot of guys who have been really bad socially and then find pickup directly jump from anti-social to "sexual mode" without ever working on being in "social mode".
This results in guys being ultra serious with approaches, scaring girls away with too much intensity or just being socially miscalibrated or making really awkward approaches because their anxiety is too high etc.
- An exercise like this, forces you to develop basic social warmth, rapport, compliance, friendliness, sociability without putting too much pressure on yourself or the person you are interacting with.
- By actually being up front and honest that you are working on the "social anxiety" part of it and not making great pictures it makes it more authentic.
I think it can be used as a warmup.
Used as a baseline exercise for improving social skills but still having the element of cold approach built into it.
Because a lot of the time when a person is struggling with cold approach we advise him to first work on his social skills by going to events, meetups, social circle stuff.
Instead with this, he can still be cold approaching and improving his approach skills while also it being low pressure and giving him a lot of opportunity to develop and drill in basic social skills.
Doing a 100 or 200 of these I think can help a struggling beginner a lot.
Anyways, feel free to try it out or let me know what you guys think.
Cheers!
I saw this randomly on a street photography website and thought it might help some guys here.
The exercise was a recommendation for beginner street photographers to improve social skills and overcome social anxiety.
The Exercise
The task was to go up to people and tell them you are a beginner or aspiring street photographer who is just getting used to talking to people and overcoming his anxiety and to then ask for a simple picture from them.
Tip to lower pressure
To make it as low pressure as possible, the idea was to ask for a picture which DOES NOT show their face.
Examples
- Just a close up of an item like a bracelet or shoes.
- Just asking them to hold an item up like a water bottle.
- Asking them to make a simple hand gesture like a thumbs up and taking just a close up of that.
You can get creative and think of your own ideas. And the task was to do it with a lot of different people over a week or a month.
How does it help seducers?
-The obvious thing of course being a low pressure way to get over approach anxiety.
- I think a lot of guys who have been really bad socially and then find pickup directly jump from anti-social to "sexual mode" without ever working on being in "social mode".
This results in guys being ultra serious with approaches, scaring girls away with too much intensity or just being socially miscalibrated or making really awkward approaches because their anxiety is too high etc.
- An exercise like this, forces you to develop basic social warmth, rapport, compliance, friendliness, sociability without putting too much pressure on yourself or the person you are interacting with.
- By actually being up front and honest that you are working on the "social anxiety" part of it and not making great pictures it makes it more authentic.
I think it can be used as a warmup.
Used as a baseline exercise for improving social skills but still having the element of cold approach built into it.
Because a lot of the time when a person is struggling with cold approach we advise him to first work on his social skills by going to events, meetups, social circle stuff.
Instead with this, he can still be cold approaching and improving his approach skills while also it being low pressure and giving him a lot of opportunity to develop and drill in basic social skills.
Doing a 100 or 200 of these I think can help a struggling beginner a lot.
Anyways, feel free to try it out or let me know what you guys think.
Cheers!
