I've recently been indulging in a lot of "being myself" and challenging my comfort zone. Now, I am socially much more relaxed and confident.
However, one problem remains; See, I've always been the nicest and the most shy guy around, because of the environment I grew up in, I guess and I started approaching girls early on, as in from the time when I started reading GC, from that time, many approaches have gone really good, a few went awkward and weird and there was another problem with me of overthinking.
I'd go out and get a good interaction, I'd be happier than ever! Although, if I approached and it fell flat, I'd keep thinking and thinking and thinking and make matters really worse up in my head.
I recently realised this and consciously tried thinking less about stuff, IT WORKED! Now I am much less tensed than I used to be and much more happier without any sort of stimulation. (There's a YouTube channel by the name of "Actualized.org" which really helped me.)
Now the thing is, "EMOTIONS". Due to that over thinking back then, which made me feel awful about rejections, now, when I think about approaching, those same emotions show up. It appears like a neuronal circuit, one thing leads to the other. I feel really awkward about this.
Is there anything I can do or is it just an "excuse" to not approach?
TY.
However, one problem remains; See, I've always been the nicest and the most shy guy around, because of the environment I grew up in, I guess and I started approaching girls early on, as in from the time when I started reading GC, from that time, many approaches have gone really good, a few went awkward and weird and there was another problem with me of overthinking.
I'd go out and get a good interaction, I'd be happier than ever! Although, if I approached and it fell flat, I'd keep thinking and thinking and thinking and make matters really worse up in my head.
I recently realised this and consciously tried thinking less about stuff, IT WORKED! Now I am much less tensed than I used to be and much more happier without any sort of stimulation. (There's a YouTube channel by the name of "Actualized.org" which really helped me.)
Now the thing is, "EMOTIONS". Due to that over thinking back then, which made me feel awful about rejections, now, when I think about approaching, those same emotions show up. It appears like a neuronal circuit, one thing leads to the other. I feel really awkward about this.
Is there anything I can do or is it just an "excuse" to not approach?
TY.