Alex journal

[alexlaguma]

Feel in a little bit of a weird headspace right now.

I have 2 girls that I'm seeing regularly, both picked up from DG. Both would be my GF if I asked them today.

They both have different qualities. One is older (early 30s) and is more compatible with me in terms of interests, socially etc. The other is younger (25), we have better sex, i'm more attracted to her, but I'm not sure I see anything long term there.

For me, I'd quite like to keep both of them around, doing what I'm doing at the moment. Seeing each of them once a week. BUT i can tell both of them want more. And particularly for the older one, I feel bad doing this if I'm not going to commit to her in the longer term. She is really nice and I don't want to take away her opportunity to meet a guy that will give her kids etc.

This has got me thinking - what am I in the game for?

I always thought it was to find ONE great girl. And I still kinda do. But the more success I have, bizarrely the less I feel like that is going to happen.

I'm starting to think maybe I am a guy that just loves the chase, the variety, and my independence. And there is nothing wrong with that.

Do I just keep playing this game until I find a girl that makes me really want to quit it all? Is that even realistic?

 

[KJ Francis]

Do I just keep playing this game until I find a girl that makes me really want to quit it all? Is that even realistic?

Maybe... There was a thread (I think Skills) on the downside of rotations.

If neither of these two girls are really what you want, it sounds like the focus should be more one time encounters, less ongoing fuck buddies...

More throughput, basically. Less time settled, more time searching.

 

[alexlaguma]

If neither of these two girls are really what you want, it sounds like the focus should be more one time encounters, less ongoing fuck buddies...

More throughput, basically. Less time settled, more time searching.

I think you're right bro.

I remember that thread from Skills. He's got a point. Its actually kinda pointless keeping girls around, especially if they are thinking its going to turn into something that its not. It just creates extra stress in your life.

Better to just focus on new business. That's what I'm going to do

 

[DoWhatWorks]

Feel in a little bit of a weird headspace right now.

Been here more times than I can count, thought I'd share some Qs I've asked that may help you:

Both would be my GF if I asked them today.

They would say yes, but with the only variable being what you want, would you want either as a GF?

particularly for the older one, I feel bad doing this if I'm not going to commit to her in the longer term. She is really nice and I don't want to take away her opportunity to meet a guy that will give her kids etc.

This just shows you're a stand up guy with a conscious. Similar to above would you want to give her progression?

What you're saying here, is a big part of why I avoid girls above 25 these days. Even though they have their own set of cons like less relatability you pointed out.

Do I just keep playing this game until I find a girl that makes me really want to quit it all?

That's my strategy for now, just have to stay honest that it's coming from you, not society, her or outside pressure

Is that even realistic?

Only time will tell

Personally, I think I may have reached a stage where I can be mono in "blitzes" e.g. 6-12 months at a time if that

No one warns you that getting competent at girls has its own issues, most guys should hit 10 lays then call it a day IMO...