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Met a super hot girl from day game yesterday. She was very receptive. A flight attendant who lives in Qatar, back for a week just to visit family. I number closed her, and we instantly started hitting it off.
But I think I screwed up the texting, and now she's gone cold on me.
Here's the full conversation with timestamps (this was Friday):
No response from her (half a day later).
The drunk booty call was a delicate situation, and I think I handled it well by asking if she got home okay. Where I think I messed up is with the intended pun joke on her name which I think didn't come off the way I intended it - "true I bet summer there is hot enough already ;')"
I hummed and harred about this one before sending it. When I came up with it, I thought it would be ambiguous enough to not come off as weird. Of course, I forgot one of the key things Hector talks about in his texting guide, which is that you never know in what state of mind the girl is when she READS your message, thus you should avoid risky jokes that can be misinterpreted. I should have just gone with something short and safe like "Good point" and ended the thread.
Instead, I sensed immediately from her lack of response that it wasn't good, so I made things worse with my damage-control reaction about 500 Days of Summer (I'd mentioned during our interaction that her name reminded me of a movie, but I couldn't think of it). It probably came off as a little creepy as, again, I can't control how she interpreted the message. If I was going to bring it up, I should have saved it for in-person.
Then her delayed response "Really I kinda like Inception tho lol" - is intentionally creating dissimilarity. This feels like something girls do when they're losing interest and trying to back out.
So yeah, I'm expecting her to flake now.
Aside from the badly-calibrated joke though, is my texting here way overboard? Usually I keep texting strictly to logistics, but she was texting me very quickly, so I thought I needed to match the investment level. She definitely wanted to meet up the same night. My thinking was that, since she wasn't free till Monday (and it was Friday), there was a good chance she was going to flake if I kept texting too minimal. Hence I decided to bend the rules a little. I think I should have dialed it back though, and especially not taken the risk with a stupid joke.
@Skills can I ask your opinion?
But I think I screwed up the texting, and now she's gone cold on me.
Here's the full conversation with timestamps (this was Friday):
10/31/24, 5:32 PM - Atlas: Hey
10/31/24, 5:33 PM - Atlas: Atlas here
10/31/24, 5:34 PM - Summer: Hii
10/31/24, 6:37 PM - Atlas: Great meeting you Summer
10/31/24, 6:38 PM - Atlas: did you find anything interesting in your wanderings? haha
10/31/24, 6:38 PM - Summer: Not yet hahaha
10/31/24, 6:45 PM - Summer: You mean today right?
10/31/24, 6:49 PM - Atlas: yeah just your exploring
10/31/24, 6:50 PM - Atlas: there are cooler places than (area) tho haha, I like (other area)
10/31/24, 6:57 PM - Atlas: btw we should grab that drink sometime, I know a nice chill rooftop bar you might like
10/31/24, 6:58 PM - Summer: Sound nice!
10/31/24, 7:07 PM - Atlas: cool
10/31/24, 7:07 PM - Atlas: are you free tomorrow?
10/31/24, 7:10 PM - Summer: Nah sorry. I will be free on 4th
10/31/24, 7:13 PM - Summer: Are you free on that day?
10/31/24, 7:16 PM - Summer: Ikr haha but today I just wanna check in (bar) since my friend say it’s good
10/31/24, 7:23 PM - Atlas: Monday evening right? Yep, that should be good!
10/31/24, 7:23 PM - Summer: Okie
10/31/24, 7:24 PM - Atlas: Oh nice, I also hear that place is really cool
10/31/24, 7:24 PM - Summer: So you are going to concert today?
10/31/24, 7:25 PM - Atlas: nah I'm going to a friends dinner party soon
10/31/24, 7:25 PM - Summer: Ahh I see
10/31/24, 7:26 PM - Summer: My friends still not here hahaha
10/31/24, 7:34 PM - Atlas: oh yeah (punctual) was one of the first words I learned
10/31/24, 7:35 PM - Atlas: it's a little different here, gotta just be (chill) haha
10/31/24, 7:36 PM - Summer: Hahahaha I get used to that (chill) it’s just not for me
10/31/24, 7:55 PM - Summer: Are you (punctual)? Hahaha
10/31/24, 8:21 PM - Atlas: usually yeah
10/31/24, 8:21 PM - Atlas: unless I'm playing guitar and forget the time or something haha
10/31/24, 8:21 PM - Summer: You also playing guitar? Me too but just acoustic one hahaha
10/31/24, 8:23 PM - Atlas: Oh nice! what sort of music?
10/31/24, 8:23 PM - Atlas: I play flamenco mainly
10/31/24, 8:25 PM - Summer: Just normal pop song. I’m not that good tbh I just like it
10/31/24, 8:29 PM - Atlas: that's cool, yea it's fun to just express yourself through music
10/31/24, 8:29 PM - Atlas: a creative outlet, even though I'm not that creative
10/31/24, 8:30 PM - Summer: Exactly hahahaa
(drunk booty call text)
11/1/24, 1:43 AM - Summer: How are you? Hahaha
11/1/24, 1:43 AM - Summer: Stilll fine?
11/1/24, 1:44 AM - Summer: I’m so drunk but still have to send my friend bak home
(my next day response)
11/1/24, 9:30 AM - Atlas: Morning
11/1/24, 9:30 AM - Atlas: oh I literally went to sleep just before you texted haha
11/1/24, 9:30 AM - Atlas: did you get home alright last night?
11/1/24, 9:32 AM - Summer: Morning
11/1/24, 9:32 AM - Summer: Yes yes I went home around 3am I think lol
11/1/24, 9:43 AM - Atlas: Sounds like you had a fun night dinner party was meh, but we went to (bar) after which had a good DJ
11/1/24, 9:43 AM - Atlas: What are you up to for the weekend?
11/1/24, 10:21 AM - Summer: I heard of that club! Is it really good? I think there are a lot of people last night right?
11/1/24, 10:21 AM - Summer: Just spend more time with my parent
11/1/24, 11:10 AM - Atlas: Yeah it's not bad, a small place with chill ambience
11/1/24, 11:12 AM - Atlas: but for that price I think sky bars in (city) are cooler, I like having an awesome view of the city
11/1/24, 11:15 AM - Atlas: That sounds nice. family is the one thing I feel kinda guilty about living so far away from home haha
11/1/24, 11:15 AM - Summer: I feel the same hahaha
11/1/24, 11:15 AM - Atlas: my dad is coming here next month, might take him to (island)
11/1/24, 11:16 AM - Summer: Wow that’s nice! I never been there lol but I would love to
11/1/24, 11:16 AM - Summer: I love beach
11/1/24, 11:20 AM - Atlas: Yeah its the best for snorkeling, tho gets a little crowded with tourists lol
11/1/24, 11:20 AM - Atlas: are there nice beaches in Doha?
11/1/24, 11:21 AM - Summer: Yes there is, but it too hot to chill is summer
11/1/24, 11:21 AM - Summer: In*
11/1/24, 11:29 AM - Atlas: true I bet summer there is hot enough already ;')
11/1/24, 11:58 AM - Atlas: Oh that just reminded me of the movie I mentioned haha
11/1/24, 11:58 AM - Atlas: it's called 500 Days of Summer
11/1/24, 11:58 AM - Summer: Ahhhhhh
11/1/24, 11:58 AM - Atlas: ever heard of it? it's actually pretty good
11/1/24, 11:59 AM - Summer: I was thinking about this one
11/1/24, 11:59 AM - Summer: But I’m not sure hahaha
11/1/24, 12:02 PM - Atlas: that actor always reminds me of this movie
11/1/24, 12:02 PM - Atlas: more than Inception lol
11/1/24, 4:31 PM - Summer: Really I kinda like Inception tho lol
11/1/24, 6:10 PM - Atlas: haha fair
11/1/24, 6:10 PM -Atlas: what's your favorite movie?
10/31/24, 5:33 PM - Atlas: Atlas here
10/31/24, 5:34 PM - Summer: Hii
10/31/24, 6:37 PM - Atlas: Great meeting you Summer
10/31/24, 6:38 PM - Atlas: did you find anything interesting in your wanderings? haha
10/31/24, 6:38 PM - Summer: Not yet hahaha
10/31/24, 6:45 PM - Summer: You mean today right?
10/31/24, 6:49 PM - Atlas: yeah just your exploring
10/31/24, 6:50 PM - Atlas: there are cooler places than (area) tho haha, I like (other area)
10/31/24, 6:57 PM - Atlas: btw we should grab that drink sometime, I know a nice chill rooftop bar you might like
10/31/24, 6:58 PM - Summer: Sound nice!
10/31/24, 7:07 PM - Atlas: cool
10/31/24, 7:07 PM - Atlas: are you free tomorrow?
10/31/24, 7:10 PM - Summer: Nah sorry. I will be free on 4th
10/31/24, 7:13 PM - Summer: Are you free on that day?
10/31/24, 7:16 PM - Summer: Ikr haha but today I just wanna check in (bar) since my friend say it’s good
10/31/24, 7:23 PM - Atlas: Monday evening right? Yep, that should be good!
10/31/24, 7:23 PM - Summer: Okie
10/31/24, 7:24 PM - Atlas: Oh nice, I also hear that place is really cool
10/31/24, 7:24 PM - Summer: So you are going to concert today?
10/31/24, 7:25 PM - Atlas: nah I'm going to a friends dinner party soon
10/31/24, 7:25 PM - Summer: Ahh I see
10/31/24, 7:26 PM - Summer: My friends still not here hahaha
10/31/24, 7:34 PM - Atlas: oh yeah (punctual) was one of the first words I learned
10/31/24, 7:35 PM - Atlas: it's a little different here, gotta just be (chill) haha
10/31/24, 7:36 PM - Summer: Hahahaha I get used to that (chill) it’s just not for me
10/31/24, 7:55 PM - Summer: Are you (punctual)? Hahaha
10/31/24, 8:21 PM - Atlas: usually yeah
10/31/24, 8:21 PM - Atlas: unless I'm playing guitar and forget the time or something haha
10/31/24, 8:21 PM - Summer: You also playing guitar? Me too but just acoustic one hahaha
10/31/24, 8:23 PM - Atlas: Oh nice! what sort of music?
10/31/24, 8:23 PM - Atlas: I play flamenco mainly
10/31/24, 8:25 PM - Summer: Just normal pop song. I’m not that good tbh I just like it
10/31/24, 8:29 PM - Atlas: that's cool, yea it's fun to just express yourself through music
10/31/24, 8:29 PM - Atlas: a creative outlet, even though I'm not that creative
10/31/24, 8:30 PM - Summer: Exactly hahahaa
(drunk booty call text)
11/1/24, 1:43 AM - Summer: How are you? Hahaha
11/1/24, 1:43 AM - Summer: Stilll fine?
11/1/24, 1:44 AM - Summer: I’m so drunk but still have to send my friend bak home
(my next day response)
11/1/24, 9:30 AM - Atlas: Morning
11/1/24, 9:30 AM - Atlas: oh I literally went to sleep just before you texted haha
11/1/24, 9:30 AM - Atlas: did you get home alright last night?
11/1/24, 9:32 AM - Summer: Morning
11/1/24, 9:32 AM - Summer: Yes yes I went home around 3am I think lol
11/1/24, 9:43 AM - Atlas: Sounds like you had a fun night
dinner party was meh, but we went to (bar) after which had a good DJ11/1/24, 9:43 AM - Atlas: What are you up to for the weekend?
11/1/24, 10:21 AM - Summer: I heard of that club! Is it really good? I think there are a lot of people last night right?
11/1/24, 10:21 AM - Summer: Just spend more time with my parent
11/1/24, 11:10 AM - Atlas: Yeah it's not bad, a small place with chill ambience
11/1/24, 11:12 AM - Atlas: but for that price I think sky bars in (city) are cooler, I like having an awesome view of the city
11/1/24, 11:15 AM - Atlas: That sounds nice. family is the one thing I feel kinda guilty about living so far away from home haha
11/1/24, 11:15 AM - Summer: I feel the same hahaha
11/1/24, 11:15 AM - Atlas: my dad is coming here next month, might take him to (island)
11/1/24, 11:16 AM - Summer: Wow that’s nice! I never been there lol but I would love to
11/1/24, 11:16 AM - Summer: I love beach
11/1/24, 11:20 AM - Atlas: Yeah its the best for snorkeling, tho gets a little crowded with tourists lol
11/1/24, 11:20 AM - Atlas: are there nice beaches in Doha?
11/1/24, 11:21 AM - Summer: Yes there is, but it too hot to chill is summer
11/1/24, 11:21 AM - Summer: In*
11/1/24, 11:29 AM - Atlas: true I bet summer there is hot enough already ;')
11/1/24, 11:58 AM - Atlas: Oh that just reminded me of the movie I mentioned haha
11/1/24, 11:58 AM - Atlas: it's called 500 Days of Summer
11/1/24, 11:58 AM - Summer: Ahhhhhh
11/1/24, 11:58 AM - Atlas: ever heard of it? it's actually pretty good
11/1/24, 11:59 AM - Summer: I was thinking about this one
11/1/24, 11:59 AM - Summer: But I’m not sure hahaha
11/1/24, 12:02 PM - Atlas: that actor always reminds me of this movie
11/1/24, 12:02 PM - Atlas: more than Inception lol
11/1/24, 4:31 PM - Summer: Really I kinda like Inception tho lol
11/1/24, 6:10 PM - Atlas: haha fair
11/1/24, 6:10 PM -Atlas: what's your favorite movie?
No response from her (half a day later).
The drunk booty call was a delicate situation, and I think I handled it well by asking if she got home okay. Where I think I messed up is with the intended pun joke on her name which I think didn't come off the way I intended it - "true I bet summer there is hot enough already ;')"
I hummed and harred about this one before sending it. When I came up with it, I thought it would be ambiguous enough to not come off as weird. Of course, I forgot one of the key things Hector talks about in his texting guide, which is that you never know in what state of mind the girl is when she READS your message, thus you should avoid risky jokes that can be misinterpreted. I should have just gone with something short and safe like "Good point" and ended the thread.
Instead, I sensed immediately from her lack of response that it wasn't good, so I made things worse with my damage-control reaction about 500 Days of Summer (I'd mentioned during our interaction that her name reminded me of a movie, but I couldn't think of it). It probably came off as a little creepy as, again, I can't control how she interpreted the message. If I was going to bring it up, I should have saved it for in-person.
Then her delayed response "Really I kinda like Inception tho lol" - is intentionally creating dissimilarity. This feels like something girls do when they're losing interest and trying to back out.
So yeah, I'm expecting her to flake now.
Aside from the badly-calibrated joke though, is my texting here way overboard? Usually I keep texting strictly to logistics, but she was texting me very quickly, so I thought I needed to match the investment level. She definitely wanted to meet up the same night. My thinking was that, since she wasn't free till Monday (and it was Friday), there was a good chance she was going to flake if I kept texting too minimal. Hence I decided to bend the rules a little. I think I should have dialed it back though, and especially not taken the risk with a stupid joke.
@Skills can I ask your opinion?
