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I’ve been being more social and “loud” lately and it’s been helping me level up my social skills pretty fast. My clothes have been tight fitting and attention getting. I’ve been loud, opinionated, and shown strong emotions to counteract my previously very bad social anxiety.
With dudes, I’ve become significantly more charismatic. Guys are respecting me way more and I’m making guy friends easier.
Girls are somewhat more socially open to me than they were, however, my recent behavior seems be detrimental to my sexiness. Observation might be a lil biased tho idk.
Before this, when I was quiet, I was kind of blending into the background and my sexiness was more of an unknown mystery which intrigued women. Now I’m more like a Jester from the law of least effort quadrant
Now I’ve gotten comments like “i cant see you getting a girlfriend” from a girl friend jokingly and comments from a female friend about how a man from a tv show is so sexy (“the things i’d do that that man!”) - which i could sense was a lil weird.
(In the first few days I noticed some obvious attraction from girls, but my new personality may have turned them off a lil.)
I dont want to instill bad habits that will be hard to overcome down the road. I plan to focus more on other aspects of my image after I do this confidence leveling for another month or so (I’m like 20 days into doing this so far). I tend to overthink when I’m trying to work on too many things like my sexiness at once.
Is the way I’m “leveling up” my social confidence detrimental to my goal of being a lover later?
With dudes, I’ve become significantly more charismatic. Guys are respecting me way more and I’m making guy friends easier.
I still get shit tested a lot, but one thing I learned is “a shitty comeback is infinitely better than no comeback”. I used to just not say anything because I had no good comback. It made me look weak.
they might call your comeback lame and laugh at you, but you still maintain most of your respect because they now know you’re not just going to take the disrespect like a punching bag.
they might call your comeback lame and laugh at you, but you still maintain most of your respect because they now know you’re not just going to take the disrespect like a punching bag.
Girls are somewhat more socially open to me than they were, however, my recent behavior seems be detrimental to my sexiness. Observation might be a lil biased tho idk.
Before this, when I was quiet, I was kind of blending into the background and my sexiness was more of an unknown mystery which intrigued women. Now I’m more like a Jester from the law of least effort quadrant
Now I’ve gotten comments like “i cant see you getting a girlfriend” from a girl friend jokingly and comments from a female friend about how a man from a tv show is so sexy (“the things i’d do that that man!”) - which i could sense was a lil weird.
(In the first few days I noticed some obvious attraction from girls, but my new personality may have turned them off a lil.)
I dont want to instill bad habits that will be hard to overcome down the road. I plan to focus more on other aspects of my image after I do this confidence leveling for another month or so (I’m like 20 days into doing this so far). I tend to overthink when I’m trying to work on too many things like my sexiness at once.
Is the way I’m “leveling up” my social confidence detrimental to my goal of being a lover later?
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