I asked this in another thread which was locked for different reasons. I'll quote some of whats already been posted
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I remember a few years ago at work, all guys in a group and they talked a bit before work and one bloke said "Fat chicks need loving too" and another bloke said "Don't admit to that". So that marginalizing even happens among men who date fat chicks it seems?
Example of parallel. Take motor sports where multiple teams compete all on the same day. You watch sports, team A wins most of the time. So next year comes, you keep watching on tv, they're the best, team A keeps winning a lot of their competitions, most of the races but not all. You have an expectation for that. The year after that, suddenly team C beats team A. The commentators go crazy. They beat team A in most of the events. Now your expectation has changed due to what you saw on televison/youtube. So, is that a parallel where what you're seeing, is deciding who you thinks winning. But that's because they are winning, not just a photo on a board that says "winner"... but notice how you're trained to expect Team A to be xyz but then that shifted to team C. eg so now you associate winning or the best with team C?
Some guys claim they can't get it up if shes unattractive. Perhaps that depends on the guy. If you don't like fat chicks for example, but can still get it up, then that means maybe you like them but don't want to identify with them, coming back to culture? Or maybe you were horny? But then what about the guys that say can't get it up.
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Richard said:"Yeah, this is true even historically. In feudal Europe, for example, fatter women were more desired because they had enough access to resources to even become fat so women who were pale pale white and fat were most sought after.
The second point - lots of complexities in there but I'd argue that a large portion of that is society programming ideas of attraction into people. But, this isn't really a black and white answer, either. Keep in mind that if a woman is fat then she's very likely to be marginalized (already) which affects her social interactions with people or her personal attitude which means she's marginalizing herself and those combinations of things make her a little less desirable for a relationship."
I remember a few years ago at work, all guys in a group and they talked a bit before work and one bloke said "Fat chicks need loving too" and another bloke said "Don't admit to that". So that marginalizing even happens among men who date fat chicks it seems?
Example of parallel. Take motor sports where multiple teams compete all on the same day. You watch sports, team A wins most of the time. So next year comes, you keep watching on tv, they're the best, team A keeps winning a lot of their competitions, most of the races but not all. You have an expectation for that. The year after that, suddenly team C beats team A. The commentators go crazy. They beat team A in most of the events. Now your expectation has changed due to what you saw on televison/youtube. So, is that a parallel where what you're seeing, is deciding who you thinks winning. But that's because they are winning, not just a photo on a board that says "winner"... but notice how you're trained to expect Team A to be xyz but then that shifted to team C. eg so now you associate winning or the best with team C?
Some guys claim they can't get it up if shes unattractive. Perhaps that depends on the guy. If you don't like fat chicks for example, but can still get it up, then that means maybe you like them but don't want to identify with them, coming back to culture? Or maybe you were horny? But then what about the guys that say can't get it up.

