ASD Seeking basic advice on social skills and dating skills

CasanovaWannabe

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Hello,

I am a new member to the forums. I became interested in this forum because I noticed Chase was excellent at describing social situations in a way I can understand.

A summary about me:

I am a twenty-seven year old male. I have high functioning Asperger's syndrome with some alexithmyia (cannot naturally read social cues. I've gotten partially past this barrier with hard work.). I am 6'5, 260 lbs and a former football/wrestling athlete. Women occasionally describe me as handsome, or bear-like. They always comment on my size, and intelligence, so I know I have some positive qualities to start with.

I am currently starting a new career and am a student. (I was a currency trader who went bust) so I don't have much money, a car or responsibility yet. That makes this the perfect time to spend a year learning game.

I am physically fit, though a little overweight. (23 % bodyfat, max compound lifts over 1000, squat, bench deadlift.). I am cutting down to 12% slowly over this year. There's about 30 lbs left.

I used to be 40% bodyfat after I quit my sports. So I haven't dated in a long time. Years. I had some lovers in my early twenties, but mostly they were after my resources. I never cold approached, or ever used online dating. I have had no LTRs over 3 months.

My main goal is to get a girlfriend, not hook-ups. Had enough of those, though I won't turn them down given opportunity.

Last week I made an online dating account and collected eight women's numbers. This surprised me, but it meant it's time to take it to the next level. I have arranged dates with two of them so far.

I would like advice on articles to read or threads of note, or just general user feedback on how to start. My autism means I have to work very hard at seduction. This does not bother me. I am going to put in the time to find love and sexual satisfaction. So I'm asking for your advice.

Thanks for reading and please consider a response.


"I am not lesser, just different." - Temple Grandin.
 

Toby2030

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- Fundamentals -
* https://www.skilledseducer.com/thre...mentals-the-one-skill-to-rule-them-all.22502/
* https://www.girlschase.com/content/fundamentals-great-approach-interaction-outline-pt-1
- Opening - pre-opening, openers, lock-ins
* https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-hook-girls-pt1-pre-opener
- Setting a sexual frame
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* https://www.girlschase.com/content/sexual-framing-more-using-get-girls
- Qualification/making her chase
* https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-qualify-girl-and-ramp-attraction
- Building a connection - deep diving
* https://www.girlschase.com/content/secrets-getting-girls-art-deep-dive
- Escalation
* Verbal - I/you/we. Work towards a "us against the world frame" -
* Physical/non-verbal - Focus on creating sexual tension. Incidental touching. Strong sexual state projection, adding longer pauses with EC, closer proximity, more touching in intimite places. Whispering in her ear where she can feel your breath. - https://www.girlschase.com/content/take-women-bed-successful-physical-escalation
* Convo topics - from platonic to sexual conversation topics. Sprinkle in sex talk and sexual prizing -
https://www.girlschase.com/content/make-yourself-sexual-prize-showing-her-your-sexual-standards
* Logistical - Where you meet her, to isolation, to a drink, to a new bar, to where you can have sex with her.
- Condition vs objections - https://www.toddvdating.com/i-have-a-boyfriend-excuse/
 
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