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It's a dilemma if you think it is. My advice is to change your frame. It's not a race thing if your frame is strong enough. If you're cool, people will see you as a cool guy, not "that Asian guy." If someone doesn't, either your fundamentals need more improvement and/or the person is genuinely racist but now you know you can weed that person out of your life.
It seems like you still have limiting beliefs that weaken your frame with a hint a victim mentality. Very common with Asian guys. The fix won't happen overnight, as you need to make real changes in your beliefs that require taking 1 step at a time.
P.S. I'm Asian myself as well. My identity is NOT tied to race. It's tied to my values and beliefs. My style (clothes and hair) has nothing to do with my race, but what I think flatters my appearance most. I'm in excellent shape as well, which is tremendously helpful for any guy, regardless of race. Make it a goal to achieve a 1.62 shoulder-to-waist (measured at the navel) ratio. This is accomplished by lifting weights (mixing it up is key to avoid plateaus) and losing body fat (anybody who says it's not calories in vs. calories out doesn't know what they're talking about--there's a gross amount of misinformation on the internet). Use the gym to build muscle and use diet to lose body fat (most people mix this up). Progressively increase the weight you lift, but don't ever sacrifice form. Figure out your BMR by taking the average of 5 online BMR calculators and use that as a starting point. Count your calories (but add 20% more for packaged foods) and if your waistline (measured at the navel) maintains at the end of several weeks (measuring daily is silly due to daily fluctuations), you've probably figured out how much calories you need to eat to maintain. Eat below this to lose body fat. To optimize muscle growth, eat between 80-120 grams of complete protein (anyone who thinks you need to eat more than this is a victim of marketing; also note that incomplete protein is not the same as complete protein) depending on your height. Oh, and don't think you have to work your legs if they're already in good proportions (physical body attractiveness is not bigger at all costs--it's about proportions), and it's certainly false that doing squats or whatever leg workouts has any significant benefit to testosterone production.
It seems like you still have limiting beliefs that weaken your frame with a hint a victim mentality. Very common with Asian guys. The fix won't happen overnight, as you need to make real changes in your beliefs that require taking 1 step at a time.
P.S. I'm Asian myself as well. My identity is NOT tied to race. It's tied to my values and beliefs. My style (clothes and hair) has nothing to do with my race, but what I think flatters my appearance most. I'm in excellent shape as well, which is tremendously helpful for any guy, regardless of race. Make it a goal to achieve a 1.62 shoulder-to-waist (measured at the navel) ratio. This is accomplished by lifting weights (mixing it up is key to avoid plateaus) and losing body fat (anybody who says it's not calories in vs. calories out doesn't know what they're talking about--there's a gross amount of misinformation on the internet). Use the gym to build muscle and use diet to lose body fat (most people mix this up). Progressively increase the weight you lift, but don't ever sacrifice form. Figure out your BMR by taking the average of 5 online BMR calculators and use that as a starting point. Count your calories (but add 20% more for packaged foods) and if your waistline (measured at the navel) maintains at the end of several weeks (measuring daily is silly due to daily fluctuations), you've probably figured out how much calories you need to eat to maintain. Eat below this to lose body fat. To optimize muscle growth, eat between 80-120 grams of complete protein (anyone who thinks you need to eat more than this is a victim of marketing; also note that incomplete protein is not the same as complete protein) depending on your height. Oh, and don't think you have to work your legs if they're already in good proportions (physical body attractiveness is not bigger at all costs--it's about proportions), and it's certainly false that doing squats or whatever leg workouts has any significant benefit to testosterone production.
