Bartender thinking I'm a manwhore?

[Dragonetti]

I bring girls to the same two bars near me. Is there reputational danger to this?

 

[topcat]

I do the same. There are three bars within walking distance I rotate. Most i’ve gotten is male bartenders subtly trying to blow up my spot “nice to see you again” “red wine again right?” or the one female bartender that has an odd mother hen vibe and seems skeptical of me bordering on rude (can’t tell if she likes me or resents me..).

Regardless, they’re nonfactors. Hasn’t stopped me..

 

[Dragonetti]

Female bartenders can be a problem. Once one refused to serve me and im not sure why. Maybe because I was with a younger chick?

 

[topcat]

Female bartenders can be a problem. Once one refused to serve me and im not sure why. Maybe because I was with a younger chick?

ay who knows. i’ve never had it that bad, but it’s jealousy or mother hen busybody behaviour. It doesn’t bother me much yet so i haven’t devised any contingencies around it besides rotating bars.

 

[Karea Ricardus D.]

I try to preempt - befriend and overtip waiters at my day2 spots.

Haven't had an issue though to be honest even when I wasn't doing that. They may give strange looks or even make a weird comment here or there, but it's not a real threat. Even "wine again right?" just makes you a regular, doesn't necessarily imply womanizing - and even if it does, you can look at it as social proof.

Remember the frame, "yes I have many girls in my life... she's just a friend". Like in that song, Hotel California:

Her mind is Tiffany-twisted
She got the Mercedes-Benz, uh
She got a lot of pretty, pretty boys
That she calls friends

Be like that girl in that song. You have a lot of pretty, pretty girls, that you call friends.

 

[Michael Chief]

I try to preempt - befriend and overtip waiters at my day2 spots.

This is the way.

If you go to any bars regularly and plan to bring girls there, you must befriend the staff and the owners. They will be your best wingmen.

 

[POB]

Are you worried about a measly bartender?
You should see how my condo's gatekeepers look at me.
(I make sure to give them a nice xmas bonus though)
On a serious note, def befriend them like the other guys said.

 

[TomInHo]

This is the way.

If you go to any bars regularly and plan to bring girls there, you must befriend the staff and the owners. They will be your best wingmen.

I don’t think that necessary at all.

I’ve been to the same bar many times with dates multiple times per week without feeling the need to befriend the staff

Be nice and a good patron but there is zero need to befriend anyone if you don’t want to

I have had some of the servers be be chill about me bringing lots of girls there. And have also had some passive aggressive ones that try to blow up my spot by saying things like “You two are back ” when it’s clearly another girl

Even when I tipped well still the passive aggressive servers kept behaving badly so I stopped tipping them

Still don’t matter because I end up fucking the majority of my dates regardless

Because there are way more important things to focus on during the seduction that the opinions of a bartender