- Joined
- Jan 26, 2020
- Messages
- 12
Hey everyone!
So, something just happened which made me want to write this, as it's been on my mind for a long time now because it's happened many times.
Once again, I feel unwanted.
My roommate and friend received a message from our mutual female friend to hang out (it's past midnight, but it is NOT a booty call, as he "plays for the other team", if you catch my meaning). It's happened many times that he receives an invitation to hang out, whereas I don't, and neither does he invite me. This also happens too often (imo) with invitations from our other friends.
Perhaps the times I feel worst are the times when the aforementioned friend comes over for lunch or something after which the two of them leave together without even offering an invitation.
There are two solutions which I can see.
1. Stop being so insecure.
2. Be more socially likeable / fun.
There is another thing bothering me about the whole thing. I keep being told how I'm so intelligent, so cool, so awesome... but then they don't want to spend much time with me, it seems.
Honestly, I feel as if everyone is playing some cruel game on me -- telling me that I'm awesome while doing precious little to actually back up their words with action.
And doesn't this statement just scream VICTIM MENTALITY !!!?
One thing I know they all think (and which I agree with because I know it to be true) is that I'm too serious. Oh sure, I crack a few hilarious jokes occasionally. They are usually witty -- as I've said, I've been told that I'm intelligent and, without any false modesty, I would agree. (And I believe (and hope ?) that my vocabulary may have given you the same impression). But nevertheless, I am just too serious and too stiff. Not at all spontaneous.
So people, how could I overcome this?
How do I overcome my insecurities, or better yet, how do I become a more engaging, entertaining and spontaneous man?
So, something just happened which made me want to write this, as it's been on my mind for a long time now because it's happened many times.
Once again, I feel unwanted.
My roommate and friend received a message from our mutual female friend to hang out (it's past midnight, but it is NOT a booty call, as he "plays for the other team", if you catch my meaning). It's happened many times that he receives an invitation to hang out, whereas I don't, and neither does he invite me. This also happens too often (imo) with invitations from our other friends.
Perhaps the times I feel worst are the times when the aforementioned friend comes over for lunch or something after which the two of them leave together without even offering an invitation.
There are two solutions which I can see.
1. Stop being so insecure.
2. Be more socially likeable / fun.
There is another thing bothering me about the whole thing. I keep being told how I'm so intelligent, so cool, so awesome... but then they don't want to spend much time with me, it seems.
Honestly, I feel as if everyone is playing some cruel game on me -- telling me that I'm awesome while doing precious little to actually back up their words with action.
And doesn't this statement just scream VICTIM MENTALITY !!!?
One thing I know they all think (and which I agree with because I know it to be true) is that I'm too serious. Oh sure, I crack a few hilarious jokes occasionally. They are usually witty -- as I've said, I've been told that I'm intelligent and, without any false modesty, I would agree. (And I believe (and hope ?) that my vocabulary may have given you the same impression). But nevertheless, I am just too serious and too stiff. Not at all spontaneous.
So people, how could I overcome this?
How do I overcome my insecurities, or better yet, how do I become a more engaging, entertaining and spontaneous man?