Best way to approach on campus?

[Sub-Zero]

What would be the best way to approach a lot of women on a college campus?

direct, indirect, or situational?

Not trying to have any type of reputation at all.

I wanna be low-key while approaching as many women as possible.

 

[Sub-Zero]

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[Mr.Rob]

Sub, my man

Youve asked this question before or similar in many ways (or at least we've talked bout it before).

In YOUR case whatever gets you approaching and meeting girls at this point. Do 10 approaches and come back and then ask this question.

Your biggest thing right now is to just go meet girls!! Forget direct/indirect/situational. Just do whatever is easiest to get you talking in the first place.

A year ago you were asking the same/similar question. How many girls did you cold approach in daygame last year?

If the answer is less than 20 then worrying about your reputation isnt the problem (because you dont have any risk of one).

Once you start actively approaching on a regular consistent basis then worry about rep.

At this point put your focus on whatever it takes to just say "Hi" reputation be damned.

I love you man, and I want to see you succeed but you've get out there and take action!

Otherwise another year is going to go by and its going to be 2021 and your still gonna be asking the same question without having done anything to improve your lot with girls.

Less thinking/theorizing, more action taking this 2020.

I want to see 1 solid daygame field report from you from this January. Think you can make it happen?

 

[The Emerald Archer]

Hey Sub,

Rob has a good point here. You tend to fixate on some of the same questions over and over again haha. No worries man.

If you go to the article "Will People Recognize You Are Out to Pick Up Girls?" there's a couple comments about this exact topic. Scroll down to these comments where Chase answers these questions. Here's the links so you can see the titles for those comments:

• Re: College Campuses
• Campus Cold Approach

Also, in the article "Being Happy with an Unconventional Life", Chase makes a comment about approaching on campus:

• Re: Competitive nature and college game

On chance of running into girls again - the smallest I've done lots of approaches in was a school of 40,000 in a town of 80,000 (including school students), and I don't recall ever once having a girl say, "This is the SECOND time you've approached me, you creep!" You'll certainly see girls you recognize from time to time, and if you're always taking the same path to the same classes at the same time of day, you're going to start seeing the same people again and again, but if you don't recognize a girl, it's probably safe to approach her. Worst case scenario, she maybe giggles and tells you you came up to her before, a few weeks ago - and maybe THIS time you get her number.

Hopefully those above comments can point you in the right direction.

I would also strongly suggest you read the above article Will People Recognize You Are Out to Pick Up Girls? and this one: Tactics Tuesdays: How to Approach Lots of Girls (Without Spam Approaching).

Good luck man.

 

[HumanWhoLearns]

I watched a video from a famous pick up artist that states you should do your cold approach game when it's a girl you're likely to never see again. If you are likely to see her again, then it becomes more like social circle game. In that case you would want to tone it down, while still implying interest and flirting, so you don't end up in the friend zone. Also it's probably a bad look if you approach every attractive girl who walks by, it makes you look desperate and low value and could really hurt your reputation if you're going to a small school.

 

[Sub-Zero]

Sub, my man

Youve asked this question before or similar in many ways (or at least we've talked bout it before).

In YOUR case whatever gets you approaching and meeting girls at this point. Do 10 approaches and come back and then ask this question.

Your biggest thing right now is to just go meet girls!! Forget direct/indirect/situational. Just do whatever is easiest to get you talking in the first place.

A year ago you were asking the same/similar question. How many girls did you cold approach in daygame last year?

If the answer is less than 20 then worrying about your reputation isnt the problem (because you dont have any risk of one).

Once you start actively approaching on a regular consistent basis then worry about rep.

At this point put your focus on whatever it takes to just say "Hi" reputation be damned.

I love you man, and I want to see you succeed but you've get out there and take action!

Otherwise another year is going to go by and its going to be 2021 and your still gonna be asking the same question without having done anything to improve your lot with girls.

Less thinking/theorizing, more action taking this 2020.

I want to see 1 solid daygame field report from you from this January. Think you can make it happen?

All I did was super indirect approaches for day game. Like asking where something was. This shit is super difficult for me man, idk, maybe it’s ego and I don’t want to get rejected. If I don’t get girls looking at me at all, I won’t approach, in my mind if a chick is not looking at me or in my eyes, I take it she doesn’t want me to approach her.

I feel like the least a chick can do is give you a look to approach. Let me know you want me to talk to you. If a chick is just walking with her eyes straight, to me, she doesn’t want to be talked to.


That’s what I’m used to with girls when I was growing up, they showed interest in me talking to them, basically they made the moves or implied that they wanted me to. It was in school though, so I guess they were more comfortable.

There’s times I tried to give off a smile when I did catch them looking, but my smile felt super awkward, I was practicing that in the mirror.

That’s basically my day game approach; if she looks at me she wants me to approach, if not I won’t.

But I guess that’s not how it is.

But I’m good for night game, with that it’s easier for me because it’s supposed to be where you talk to girls, I do talk to girls when I go out at night, even if they aren’t looking. To me I feel that it’s because the setting is built for that.

With day game, I feel that it’s not really built for approaching many women unless they show you a signal. But as it seems, maybe signals don’t matter right now. I actually look for signals too, I look for something, like them standing close to me, talking out loud.

With campus, they are just walking straight no eye contact

My biggest sticking point is consistency when not getting results, if I don’t see any results somewhat soon, I just say fuck it and wait then try again later, I do everything sparingly.

Imma work on that.

So yes, I’ll try to get a day game field report up. Does saying “hi” and only that count?

Thanks and I appreciate you bro.

 

[Sub-Zero]

Hey Sub,

Rob has a good point here. You tend to fixate on some of the same questions over and over again haha. No worries man.

If you go to the article "Will People Recognize You Are Out to Pick Up Girls?" there's a couple comments about this exact topic. Scroll down to these comments where Chase answers these questions. Here's the links so you can see the titles for those comments:

• Re: College Campuses
• Campus Cold Approach

Also, in the article "Being Happy with an Unconventional Life", Chase makes a comment about approaching on campus:

• Re: Competitive nature and college game

Hopefully those above comments can point you in the right direction.

I would also strongly suggest you read the above article Will People Recognize You Are Out to Pick Up Girls? and this one: Tactics Tuesdays: How to Approach Lots of Girls (Without Spam Approaching).

Good luck man.

Thanks man, Imma have to remind myself to keep reading these when I feel like this.

 

[Sub-Zero]

I watched a video from a famous pick up artist that states you should do your cold approach game when it's a girl you're likely to never see again. If you are likely to see her again, then it becomes more like social circle game. In that case you would want to tone it down, while still implying interest and flirting, so you don't end up in the friend zone. Also it's probably a bad look if you approach every attractive girl who walks by, it makes you look desperate and low value and could really hurt your reputation if you're going to a small school.

Yeah that’s what I worry about.

 

[Mr.Rob]

If I don’t get girls looking at me at all, I won’t approach, in my mind if a chick is not looking at me or in my eyes, I take it she doesn’t want me to approach her.

Most chicks aren't aware of pickup or street approaches in the daytime so its not something thats even on their radar. Most girls in the daytime are just going about their day. While the girls that make eye contact and smile are usually definite YES's you never really know how a girl will respond until you make the approach.

Tons of girls that have a blank look on their face and looking straight ahead light up the second you say "hi". You don't realize how many girls your missing out on until you just start approaching.

I feel like the least a chick can do is give you a look to approach.

The least you could do is be a man and take a risk and give her a compliment. (Coming from her perspective)

With day game, I feel that it’s not really built for approaching many women unless they show you a signal. But as it seems, maybe signals don’t matter right now. I actually look for signals too, I look for something, like them standing close to me, talking out loud.

But that happens maybe once or twice a day on any given outing. Leaving a LOT on the table this way.

My biggest sticking point is consistency when not getting results, if I don’t see any results somewhat soon, I just say fuck it and wait then try again later, I do everything sparingly.

This is a discipline habit like we've talked about. You have to build a habit of not quitting when things get a little bit tough. You have to build a habit of persistence.

So yes, I’ll try to get a day game field report up. Does saying “hi” and only that count?

No "hi" only and walk away. I think you can at least get into 1 good conversation, trade names, and then ask her out.

Just do this with ONE girl by the end of the month. It can be an easy approach such as a girl sitting down or waiting for a bus stop or shopping by herself in the grocery isle.

But you've got to get in conversation (direct, indirect, situation doesnt matter), trade names, and have a little conversation and then tell her that she;s pretty cool and that you too should get drinks sometime.

She doesn;t have to say yes but you have to ask her out.

Just ONE conversation like this. Just go out on campus and find a girl by herself with not too many people around and just say "hi", trade names, and ask her out.

You;re more than capable of doing that ONE time before the end of the month. I think you;ll even surprise yourself once you do it.

Thanks and I appreciate you bro.

Of course man I want to see you finally flip the script and start winning. PM me the link when you post that Field Report

 

[Mr.Rob]

I watched a video from a famous pick up artist that states you should do your cold approach game when it's a girl you're likely to never see again. If you are likely to see her again, then it becomes more like social circle game. In that case you would want to tone it down, while still implying interest and flirting, so you don't end up in the friend zone.

Sub Z, don't listen to this, its fearmongering.

Ive done 100's and 100's of approaches in a very small town and plenty approaches on a very small community college campus. I've approached quite a few girls twice and 1 girl I even approached 4 times (unknowingly) and she rejected me every time.

My reputation was never found out and it was never a problem if I ran back into that girl again or even if I had a class with her.

This is just an excuse not to take action. Follow the advice Chase lays out in the article/comment that Emerald Archer linked to and you'll be more than fine.

 

[Sub-Zero]

Most chicks aren't aware of pickup or street approaches in the daytime so its not something thats even on their radar. Most girls in the daytime are just going about their day. While the girls that make eye contact and smile are usually definite YES's you never really know how a girl will respond until you make the approach.

Tons of girls that have a blank look on their face and looking straight ahead light up the second you say "hi". You don't realize how many girls your missing out on until you just start approaching.



The least you could do is be a man and take a risk and give her a compliment. (Coming from her perspective)



But that happens maybe once or twice a day on any given outing. Leaving a LOT on the table this way.



This is a discipline habit like we've talked about. You have to build a habit of not quitting when things get a little bit tough. You have to build a habit of persistence.



No "hi" only and walk away. I think you can at least get into 1 good conversation, trade names, and then ask her out.

Just do this with ONE girl by the end of the month. It can be an easy approach such as a girl sitting down or waiting for a bus stop or shopping by herself in the grocery isle.

But you've got to get in conversation (direct, indirect, situation doesnt matter), trade names, and have a little conversation and then tell her that she;s pretty cool and that you too should get drinks sometime.

She doesn;t have to say yes but you have to ask her out.

Just ONE conversation like this. Just go out on campus and find a girl by herself with not too many people around and just say "hi", trade names, and ask her out.

You;re more than capable of doing that ONE time before the end of the month. I think you;ll even surprise yourself once you do it.



Of course man I want to see you finally flip the script and start winning. PM me the link when you post that Field Report

Reading and thinking about that just gave me hella anxiety lol. I’m like I don’t think I can get that far without messing up my words and putting myself out there like that.

Imma try it though bro.

I also noticed this, when I think about approaching a girl at a store or mall, they always have a boyfriend somewhere with them.

Like clockwork, they’re always coming around the corner or they are leaving together.

They are always the attractive girls too, all the time, so I don’t even want to imagine with awkwardness of me approaching some dudes chick.

But yeah, imma try it out and hope everything works well.

 

[Sub-Zero]

Sub Z, don't listen to this, its fearmongering.

Ive done 100's and 100's of approaches in a very small town and plenty approaches on a very small community college campus. I've approached quite a few girls twice and 1 girl I even approached 4 times (unknowingly) and she rejected me every time.

My reputation was never found out and it was never a problem if I ran back into that girl again or even if I had a class with her.

This is just an excuse not to take action. Follow the advice Chase lays out in the article/comment that Emerald Archer linked to and you'll be more than fine.

Did you go to that college or were you just approaching?

Another thing is that I’m also older than these students so that also makes me feel out of place causing more anxiety. I’m not some super old dude, but you get what I’m saying. I look really young, but I feel with my age it might be off when they find out.

Another thing with fear mongering is that people or girls are trying to embarrass men on social media when guys approach them or other girls.

This also makes others against approaching because they don’t want to be recorded by the world to see getting rejected or looking like a creep.

I’ve heard many guys go against approaching because of this and saying they don’t want to look like a creep or get some report on them for harassment or anything. So the social media and people’s negative thoughts multiple the fear mongering.

Also,

Do you have field reports about the girls you approach in college? If not could you just say how you approached most and how they went? Nothing too long, but I’m just curious.

 

[Rain]

Sub Z, don't listen to this, its fearmongering.

Ive done 100's and 100's of approaches in a very small town and plenty approaches on a very small community college campus. I've approached quite a few girls twice and 1 girl I even approached 4 times (unknowingly) and she rejected me every time.

My reputation was never found out and it was never a problem if I ran back into that girl again or even if I had a class with her.

This is just an excuse not to take action. Follow the advice Chase lays out in the article/comment that Emerald Archer linked to and you'll be more than fine.

Hi Rob,

Do you go on campus if you're not working/studying there? What if security asks why are you here? Is Sub Z in his late 30s? Incase someones age affects how you should reply if you got asked this question and you don't study/work on the campus.

 

[Sub-Zero]

Hi Rob,

Do you go on campus if you're not working/studying there? What if security asks why are you here? Is Sub Z in his late 30s? Incase someones age affects how you should reply if you got asked this question and you don't study/work on the campus.

Lmao not that old. I’ll be a Pick Up Pro by then.

 

[naturalmikey]

why doing you just used a proven direct opener like “hey i thought you look cute and would’ve regretted it had i not said hello”

sometimes just taking action is the best bet. it doesn’t really matter what works for anyone else. find what works for you. for me, when i was new direct worked a lot better. if your experience with indirect wasn’t good try the opposite.

i think it’s important to show some form of intent. if you’re not able to currently show non verbal intent then verbalizing may be helpful. it’s really important to get reference experiences. try a lot of different stuff. i wouldn’t be too worried about getting a reputation on your campus. that would take time and you would see it coming. it’s not like a couple days of cold approach and you’re gonna be in the newspaper. nothing ever plays out as bad in real life as it does in our heads.

also if you’re normal looking and well put together you shouldn’t really be creeping chciks out. maybe here and there but it would be uncommon. most who aren’t interested will still be flattered.

 

[naturalmikey]

Hi Rob,

Do you go on campus if you're not working/studying there? What if security asks why are you here? Is Sub Z in his late 30s? Incase someones age affects how you should reply if you got asked this question and you don't study/work on the campus.

i wouldn’t go to a college campus to approach and i’m in my late thirties. but i’ve approached in nearby off campus areas, like westwood village by ucla. you don’t have to go on campus to find a large population of college chicks.

 

[Sub-Zero]

why doing you just used a proven direct opener like “hey i thought you look cute and would’ve regretted it had i not said hello”

sometimes just taking action is the best bet. it doesn’t really matter what works for anyone else. find what works for you. for me, when i was new direct worked a lot better. if your experience with indirect wasn’t good try the opposite.

i think it’s important to show some form of intent. if you’re not able to currently show non verbal intent then verbalizing may be helpful. it’s really important to get reference experiences. try a lot of different stuff. i wouldn’t be too worried about getting a reputation on your campus. that would take time and you would see it coming. it’s not like a couple days of cold approach and you’re gonna be in the newspaper. nothing ever plays out as bad in real life as it does in our heads.

also if you’re normal looking and well put together you shouldn’t really be creeping chciks out. maybe here and there but it would be uncommon. most who aren’t interested will still be flattered.

I feel u bro, idk why but it gives me a lot of anxiety.

 

[Sub-Zero]

i wouldn’t go to a college campus to approach and i’m in my late thirties. but i’ve approached in nearby off campus areas, like westwood village by ucla. you don’t have to go on campus to find a large population of college chicks.

Yeah I was thinking that too. Sometimes I go on campus and walk around and feel like it’s a waste of time if I don’t see any attractive girls.

With going around campus I don’t have to walk all over campus and it feels a lot more normal because you’re shopping, not on campus.

 

[naturalmikey]

I feel u bro, idk why but it gives me a lot of anxiety.

it gives everyone anxiety. you just do it. after doing it a couple times it becomes really easy. it’s your brain forcing you into being beta to ensure survival within the tribe. but we don’t live in tribes anymore. you tell your brain it’s okay to approach directly by approaching directly.

 

[Mr.Rob]

Dude Sub,

You've been reading and wishing and weighing your odds to get "the perfect approach" since you joined this forum 6 years ago in 2014. Its 2020 now man! Your in nearly the same exact spot as you've been for years!

You have ALL the answers. You know exactly what to say. Reading my field reports or asking 20 more questions isnt going to get you any closer.

All you need to do is just go find ONE girl in whatever situation is easiest to approach whether it be on campus, off campus, in the mall, at a morgue, or wherever and just have the following conversation saying these exact things:

SZ: "hey i thought you look cute and would’ve regretted it had i not said hello"
Girl: "Oh.. Hey"
SZ: "My name is SZ. What is your name?"
Girl: "Hi SZ, my name is [Name]"
SZ: "Cool, we should grab a coffee sometime together and get to know each other. Would you want to do that?"
Girl: "Eh I have a boyfriend but thanks!" OR "Ok sure"

It doesn't matter if your trip over your words or are nervous. as soon as you say those 3 lines your free to leave the conversation.

I know you're 100% capable of doing that SZ. You can TOTALLY do that little conversation with just ONE (1!) girl by the end of the month.

Practice saying those lines a 100 times if you have to memorize it.

But dude its time to take action.

All this "someday I'll be good with women and have sweet pimp skills and sleep with 100 women... someday in the future"

Lmao not that old. I’ll be a Pick Up Pro by then.

No you wont.

Someday in the future is NEVER going to happen.

Until you take action and suck it up and just go give a simple sweet compliment to a harmless girl TODAY... You are NEVER going to get good with girls.

Im sorry to be so blunt but you have got to see this is the truth man.

You arent going to be alive forever! If you haven't taken action on this stuff after reading it for 6 years when is the time ever going to come that you'll have this stroke of courageous inspiration and start taking action?

When is that moment going to hit unless you take matters into yoru own hands and MAKE that moment happen?

No more asking questions. You have ALL the answers. You know EXACTLY what to do.

Go DO it.