- Joined
- Oct 9, 2012
- Messages
- 6,238
Originally posted in the first Girls Chase Forum on Wednesday, 21 April 2010
This is something I've been working on more recently; I'd appreciate your thoughts and experiences, gents; really just ironing this out.
One of the toughest parts of interacting with women is when they say something or ask you something you don't like. If a guy confronts them directly, it hurts his attainability. If he bows to them, it hurts his value. Damned if you do, damned if you don't, right?
So more and more I've been addressing objections in really cool, socially savvy ways that actually turn the advantage to the guy's side. Examples:
So basically, I'm seeing this trend where the traditional answers guys give (either qualifying or confronting) aren't really the most productive, and some less conventional choices are the more attractive options. In most cases when you're encountering resistance, you can address this with either self-deprecation or an invitational response, with the latter being ideal as it's a VAC triple threat.
What are your thoughts, fellas? Do you employ any of these methods? Any different methods? Or if you've been traditionally falling back on qualifying or confrontational responses, have you tried either of the others out lately and noticed a difference? Since I've been using more of self-deprecation and invitations, I've noticed some pretty markedly different (and much warmer and sexier) responses from women. It's a very basic and essential habit (how you respond to objections), so definitely something of some importance.
Chase
This is something I've been working on more recently; I'd appreciate your thoughts and experiences, gents; really just ironing this out.
One of the toughest parts of interacting with women is when they say something or ask you something you don't like. If a guy confronts them directly, it hurts his attainability. If he bows to them, it hurts his value. Damned if you do, damned if you don't, right?
So more and more I've been addressing objections in really cool, socially savvy ways that actually turn the advantage to the guy's side. Examples:
- WRONG
Girl: Are you any good at cooking?
Guy: Yes, I'm actually pretty talented. [qualifying; V-]
Girl: Are you any good at cooking?
Guy: Who wants to know? [confronting; A-]
RIGHT
Girl: Are you any good at cooking?
Guy: Let's just say when it comes to frozen dinners, they want me on Iron Chef. [self-deprecating; V+A+]
Girl: Are you any good at cooking?
Guy: Tell you what. Let's make a meal together, and you can tell me. [invitational; triple-threat V+A+C+]
WRONG
Girl: What do you want with me?
Guy: I think you seem really cool and I want to get to know you better. [qualifying; V-]
Girl: What do you want with me?
Guy: Nothing; I'm just here for the drinks. [confrontational; A-]
RIGHT
Girl: What do you want with me?
Guy: I'm looking for women tonight who don't hate men like me. [self-deprecating; V+A+]
Girl: What do you want with me?
Guy: Haven't quite figured that out just yet. But I'm having fun and I think you are too. So let's just keep hanging out and we'll see what we can figure out together. [invitational; V+A+C+]
So basically, I'm seeing this trend where the traditional answers guys give (either qualifying or confronting) aren't really the most productive, and some less conventional choices are the more attractive options. In most cases when you're encountering resistance, you can address this with either self-deprecation or an invitational response, with the latter being ideal as it's a VAC triple threat.
What are your thoughts, fellas? Do you employ any of these methods? Any different methods? Or if you've been traditionally falling back on qualifying or confrontational responses, have you tried either of the others out lately and noticed a difference? Since I've been using more of self-deprecation and invitations, I've noticed some pretty markedly different (and much warmer and sexier) responses from women. It's a very basic and essential habit (how you respond to objections), so definitely something of some importance.
Chase
