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[RedNeck]

What do you think of Chase's latest article? Have you ever tried this approach and worked? It has never worked for me. I'd like to know your thoughts. Please

Dogged Follow Up with Girls: The Whats & Whys

Doggedly following up with girls can get you girls. But why? Isn’t it try-hard? Doesn’t it make you look bad? Dogged yet CALIBRATED follow up is neither – and here is why. Commenting on my article about following up doggedly with girls, Alejandro says: Chase, I'd love more articles on this...

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[Skills]

why? if did not worked for you, that is your answer...

 

[RedNeck]

Not really; maybe I was doing it wrong. If it works for other people, I can adjust my approach and learn from theirs.

 

[James D]

Follow up is powerful but you've gotta go about it the right way.

In a business mastermind I was in, the coach used to emphasize "the money is in the follow-ups" but he also emphasized not to bombard prospects with "hey! did you get my email?" follow ups. It's gotta come from a different angle and add value.

I imagine it's the same with girls.

Accounting for the fact that women's states are ever changing and the way she feels about you is never static, it makes sense to have calibrated followups.

 

[Atlas IV]

I thought it was a great article.

Here's what I took away from it:
1. There's an ego component that's gets in the way of efficiency.
2. It takes little effort to ping a cold lead and the potential payoff is outsized.
3. Girls emotional states are constantly shifting, so ping enough girls and you'll eventually hit a window.
4. Pinging a cold lead doesn't violate the law of least effort, because the only way to gain respect from a girl is to either fuck her or become an authority figure, neither of which you'll achieve by not being persistent.

I can say I've definitely been guilty of not following up with enough girls. The ego thing is one I wasn't really cognizant of, but now I see why it pays to make persistence a habit.

 

[average_daygamer]

I wouldn't say it's an ego thing for me not following up. It's a fear of the unknown. I don't know why she hasn't replied. I fear trying to following up after 3,4,5 messages then getting a message like "stop harassing me you creep, if you send one more message, I'll send this chat to the police". Or something similar. If the girl simply doesn't reply, you have no information. Why isn't she replying? Has she already written you off as a creep? Or maybe spoken to her friends and they have warned her of a weird approach guy? What?

I think with this latest number I may try texting her a 3rd and final time with a picture message and story of some sort. I am planning another London session this week just to collect some aggregate data and I may snap a picture of a landmark and a story whilst I am there.

Also, the common wisdom says to never double text, so there is that. Triple texting is certainly a no no as well. But I may need to break that rule as I am fed up of getting a number to a no reply, they are not made of glass, I am sure being texted more than once isn't going to be too traumatic for them, hehe.

 

[ChrisXKiss]

I’ve surely gotten girls out by following up again and again, so it can work, although it still needs some solid first interaction and the more time it passes after that the more difficult it gets.

And of course to not care about the ones who go nowhere. I won’t lie if you keep reaching out to different girls a few times and you get nothing back it starts feeling bad, but it is still higher odds than not doing it.

I’d say I personally stop following up if they don’t respond at all to three different types of messages, or they tell me to stop contacting them.

The worst thing is when you get a girl like that agree to come out with you eventually, but then you are not available the day she is free.

It’s part of the game though, other times you also have girls perfectly fitting all your free spots of the week like they made their schedules together.

All in all, I really believe the only reason to not do it is if you are so full that you could not fit more women in your life.

 

[D. Gately]

Yeah, low effort pings can be surprisingly useful, as said above by others her state may be totally different and now she is receptive to your attention. Perhaps even desperate herself to meet a new guy.

I can also say my ego has gotten in the way before and I have lost girls by not continuing to follow-up just because they didn't respond for a week, or ghosted me, or couldn't meet the first few nights I suggested, etc.