So, I've recently broken up with a girl I dated for around 1-2 months.
She love-bombed me, would be super lovey dovey one moment and then do a complete 180 and be cold and indifferent.
She had a big ego and was narcissistic (even though she didnt show it)
There were many red flags but I sort of ignored them because of how real everything felt.
We had sex on the first date, she was actually the one that gave me crazy LMR.
Redflags:
- She was VERY attached, even before meeting talking about becoming serious and stuff like that. I know that would be a very large redflag for many here but in my mind since she seemed a bit dumb and inexperienced i assumed that it was just her anxiousness and over excitedness speaking.
- She went on vacations for 2 and a half weeks with her family only letting me know 2 weeks before. And also only telling me AFTER i told her to become my girlfriend.
- Justifying herself with "im just too logical" she would be very blunt and say hurtful stuff, even making fun how my body or whatever she can. She was actually pretty judgemental with my place, my phone, even stuff that I genuinely didnt have any insecurities about. She did this until I broke up with her after poking at an actual insecurity of mine.
- I gave her the gf title after 2 months approx of knowing her (and it was wrong, i know). She was unfortunately the best gf I had in terms of hotness, and having an understanding between us, she knew exactly what i liked and did it sometimes before i would even ask her to.
- Even after becoming a couple she still wouldnt trust me, she kept saying that she needed to get to know me better. Even though we talked about many different things and even revealed some personal stuff to her.
It was a painful experience, i lost my cool and ended up calling her back many times until she answered my messages. I even told her I didnt care if she hurt me, i just wanted to be with her. But after reading some articles on cluster b women, on love bombing, on why some girls lie so much I finally decided to get out of it.
It was something pretty unexpected tbh and it really caught me offguard. I got pretty far with her in sexual terms, and maybe at some points she actually told me the truth and was sincere with me (doubt it tho) but I wasnt taking into account too much all these extra shit about love bombing or cluster b women.
I should know better since i dated another highly depressed cluster b girl for around 2 years.
I think I did found out her real intentions relatively fast but damn. When do you get to just chill and love a girl? Its brutal out there.
My plans for the future are just focus on the initial seduction and getting a shitton of experience so that I have reference points to compare crazy or mentally ill women behaviours against "normal" people..
Ohh and another final thing that really threw me off is that she did actually came from a seamingly stable and nice family. She did mention their parents being overprotective and even doing her homework so that she didnt fail school. She would 90% of the time act like a dumb chick (i even had to explain certain words she didnt know like "inhibition", now im starting to question if even that was a lie). I do have a soft spot for dumb r*tarded chicks tho, i dont like smart snappy "strong" "independent" women but maybe im fucking up here myself.
I think the worst part is that some of the insecurities that I had she would argue are things that she loves about me and wouldnt change them. And while there are some articles talking about how its all about character and frame control in retrospect im highly doubting everything that she said.
It feels pretty fucked up for me because i never imagined that a girl would be so cruel, cunning and manipulative like this. And the worst part is that there aren't other options in my life that are as good looking as her and that arent batshit crazy (and not even able to hide it).
Im kinda weak and I feel that she could show up at my place and I would at least fuck her a couple of times. And my ego tells me that I wouldnt let her manipulate me anymore but I dont know.
this if more a venting off post and theres no real question or topic that I would like to discuss.
Just, if anybody has an advice about it or has gone through the same thing and wants to share it i welcome it.
PD: I started again to focus on my life purpose and I did feel that the need to see her or know what she's doing went away slightly. But after months of investing my weekends on her (and even some weekdays) I kinda drifted apart from friends and my purpose.
PD2: Also since I am still fresh out of this and allegedly all the cluster b women are very manipulative and know exactly what to do let me tell you a couple more things about her and you guys can figure out if she is or not cluster b:
- I remember this one time she got a message from her ex (she didnt have his number saved) and i though it was weird but she did tell me that her ex was crazy and that they would physically abuse eachother.
- after "reconciliating" a couple of days before, I asked her if shes free this weekend and told me shes going out with a male friend today and another one tomorrow. Next weekend she will get together with her cousin (female).
Also, is there a way that I could use her (just like she does) by fucking her until I get another one? I do think sometimes that im being too emotional and that I should be more pragmatic (shes sick but gives it up so why waste the effort i put into creating this?).
Like I could just "play dumb" and say that I actually want to get her back and will do anything and then things would go back to the way they were (which wasnt that bad tbh).
She love-bombed me, would be super lovey dovey one moment and then do a complete 180 and be cold and indifferent.
She had a big ego and was narcissistic (even though she didnt show it)
There were many red flags but I sort of ignored them because of how real everything felt.
We had sex on the first date, she was actually the one that gave me crazy LMR.
Redflags:
- She was VERY attached, even before meeting talking about becoming serious and stuff like that. I know that would be a very large redflag for many here but in my mind since she seemed a bit dumb and inexperienced i assumed that it was just her anxiousness and over excitedness speaking.
- She went on vacations for 2 and a half weeks with her family only letting me know 2 weeks before. And also only telling me AFTER i told her to become my girlfriend.
- Justifying herself with "im just too logical" she would be very blunt and say hurtful stuff, even making fun how my body or whatever she can. She was actually pretty judgemental with my place, my phone, even stuff that I genuinely didnt have any insecurities about. She did this until I broke up with her after poking at an actual insecurity of mine.
- I gave her the gf title after 2 months approx of knowing her (and it was wrong, i know). She was unfortunately the best gf I had in terms of hotness, and having an understanding between us, she knew exactly what i liked and did it sometimes before i would even ask her to.
- Even after becoming a couple she still wouldnt trust me, she kept saying that she needed to get to know me better. Even though we talked about many different things and even revealed some personal stuff to her.
It was a painful experience, i lost my cool and ended up calling her back many times until she answered my messages. I even told her I didnt care if she hurt me, i just wanted to be with her. But after reading some articles on cluster b women, on love bombing, on why some girls lie so much I finally decided to get out of it.
It was something pretty unexpected tbh and it really caught me offguard. I got pretty far with her in sexual terms, and maybe at some points she actually told me the truth and was sincere with me (doubt it tho) but I wasnt taking into account too much all these extra shit about love bombing or cluster b women.
I should know better since i dated another highly depressed cluster b girl for around 2 years.
I think I did found out her real intentions relatively fast but damn. When do you get to just chill and love a girl? Its brutal out there.
My plans for the future are just focus on the initial seduction and getting a shitton of experience so that I have reference points to compare crazy or mentally ill women behaviours against "normal" people..
Ohh and another final thing that really threw me off is that she did actually came from a seamingly stable and nice family. She did mention their parents being overprotective and even doing her homework so that she didnt fail school. She would 90% of the time act like a dumb chick (i even had to explain certain words she didnt know like "inhibition", now im starting to question if even that was a lie). I do have a soft spot for dumb r*tarded chicks tho, i dont like smart snappy "strong" "independent" women but maybe im fucking up here myself.
I think the worst part is that some of the insecurities that I had she would argue are things that she loves about me and wouldnt change them. And while there are some articles talking about how its all about character and frame control in retrospect im highly doubting everything that she said.
It feels pretty fucked up for me because i never imagined that a girl would be so cruel, cunning and manipulative like this. And the worst part is that there aren't other options in my life that are as good looking as her and that arent batshit crazy (and not even able to hide it).
Im kinda weak and I feel that she could show up at my place and I would at least fuck her a couple of times. And my ego tells me that I wouldnt let her manipulate me anymore but I dont know.
this if more a venting off post and theres no real question or topic that I would like to discuss.
Just, if anybody has an advice about it or has gone through the same thing and wants to share it i welcome it.
PD: I started again to focus on my life purpose and I did feel that the need to see her or know what she's doing went away slightly. But after months of investing my weekends on her (and even some weekdays) I kinda drifted apart from friends and my purpose.
PD2: Also since I am still fresh out of this and allegedly all the cluster b women are very manipulative and know exactly what to do let me tell you a couple more things about her and you guys can figure out if she is or not cluster b:
- I remember this one time she got a message from her ex (she didnt have his number saved) and i though it was weird but she did tell me that her ex was crazy and that they would physically abuse eachother.
- after "reconciliating" a couple of days before, I asked her if shes free this weekend and told me shes going out with a male friend today and another one tomorrow. Next weekend she will get together with her cousin (female).
Also, is there a way that I could use her (just like she does) by fucking her until I get another one? I do think sometimes that im being too emotional and that I should be more pragmatic (shes sick but gives it up so why waste the effort i put into creating this?).
Like I could just "play dumb" and say that I actually want to get her back and will do anything and then things would go back to the way they were (which wasnt that bad tbh).
