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- Aug 18, 2013
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Hello everybody. I've been checking in and out of the boards for quite some time now, and it seems that everytime I come back with a new low... and a new opportunity to start doing something about it.
Every time before this I've tended to hit a new low, then went on to improve myself until I saw a noted difference. As soon as I noticed and felt improvement, I would become complacent. Got the attention of a girl? Great! I would dwell on that for a month without results, hit a new low, come back, then work on something else. It was a nasty cycle that lead to little progress.
This time is different. I want to make it to the top. Not just form a social circle or get a girls number. I want to go all the way, build social skills, and seduce women.
Even though I've been reading this material over the past 2 years, I have shoddy results to show for it. I'm still the lonely boy I was when I started. I never really took on any direction before, only ever reading and applying information in my head then spitting it back out to anyone who would listen. Now is the time where I see results.
First, a little about me,
I'm 20 years old. No girlfriends, no lays. I've significantly improved my fundamentals over these past couple years, and I can reliably say that women are attracted to me, or at least interested in me. I've just never done anything about it.
Therefore, I'm going to start with the newbie assignment. I need direction, and hopefully this will set me on the right path until I can decide how to structure my own path through things. 2 years of reading and not applying has left me feeling like I have so much to do, so for once I just need to sit down and follow a process.
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Outside of the newbie assignment, which focuses on skills with women, I want to build a social circle with friends. My last good social circle was during freshman year of college (2 years ago), and it seems I didn't have much to offer them because the instant I ceased being the roommate of one of the guys in the circle I was basically cut out. This time, I come at it from the perspective of this article on how to make friends.
Unfortunately, there's a lot to do on that list. It comes down to basically making myself better as a person to offer more value as a friend, because I'm faced with the fact that I offer very little value after being such a loner for 19 years of my life. Therefore, I wish to work on these three facets of value:
- Conversational value: I don't have much of a problem getting to know people, but I can certainly work on it. I believe that this skill will come to me as I spend more time trying to get to know people and meeting new people.
- Implied value: My implied value is currently extremely low. I'm extremely witty/funny, but that's about all that I have to offer people. My plan for this one is to become an interesting person. More specifically, I'm going to spend a lot more time becoming an expert in the following arenas: environmental science and weight-lifting/diet. Hopefully this list expands as I start doing more things and find out what to become an expert in.
In order to improve myself in environmental science, I will attend all of my classes as well as spend 2 hours in the library working on other assignments or doing my own research on things that interest me about the environment. I will keep track of this by ensuring perfect attendance, as well as keeping a timer on my phone that I must get to 2 hours of time spent in the library focusing on environmental science each day before I can leave the library.
In addition, I'm going to spend more time trying out new activities, generally just checking out and joining in on any of the clubs around campus (and I do mean any; the idea is to expand my worldviews and meet new people each time). My goal for this one is to try out one (1) new activity every week, to be determined on Sunday night.
- Offered value: Finally, I want to offer value to friends in a tangible form outside of conversation. I haven't asked someone to do something with me in years. Therefore, to tie everything together into actually creating my own social circle, I'm going to make an effort to invite people to do things with me after getting to know them.
If I talk to a guy and he mentions he likes to lift weights or would be interested in lifting weights, I'll invite him to lift with me. If I talk to another guy and he says that he enjoys playing video games, I'll hit him up to play some games. If someone else is a movie fanatic I'll check with them and see if they want to check out a movie. If someone else is interested in art, I'll check if they want to go see an art gallery. If someone really likes nature, I'll show them around the nature trail. Etc. etc. etc. It all starts with getting to know the person to know which value I can offer them.
The specific goal for all of this is to get to know people by engaging in new activities, then widening my world view by engaging in other activities with them. In addition, to get to know more people and build social value.
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Goals Short-List Reference
- Newbie Assignment
- Try out one (1) new activity each week (club, sport, etc.) to be determined on Sunday of that week.
- When out trying new activity, get to know people and make an effort to provide offered value by inviting them to do an activity that they are interested in.
- Perfect attendance in my classes, 2 hours spent in library each day.
- Follow German Volume Training Method for lifting weights.
Every time before this I've tended to hit a new low, then went on to improve myself until I saw a noted difference. As soon as I noticed and felt improvement, I would become complacent. Got the attention of a girl? Great! I would dwell on that for a month without results, hit a new low, come back, then work on something else. It was a nasty cycle that lead to little progress.
This time is different. I want to make it to the top. Not just form a social circle or get a girls number. I want to go all the way, build social skills, and seduce women.
Even though I've been reading this material over the past 2 years, I have shoddy results to show for it. I'm still the lonely boy I was when I started. I never really took on any direction before, only ever reading and applying information in my head then spitting it back out to anyone who would listen. Now is the time where I see results.
First, a little about me,
I'm 20 years old. No girlfriends, no lays. I've significantly improved my fundamentals over these past couple years, and I can reliably say that women are attracted to me, or at least interested in me. I've just never done anything about it.
Therefore, I'm going to start with the newbie assignment. I need direction, and hopefully this will set me on the right path until I can decide how to structure my own path through things. 2 years of reading and not applying has left me feeling like I have so much to do, so for once I just need to sit down and follow a process.
~~~~~~
Outside of the newbie assignment, which focuses on skills with women, I want to build a social circle with friends. My last good social circle was during freshman year of college (2 years ago), and it seems I didn't have much to offer them because the instant I ceased being the roommate of one of the guys in the circle I was basically cut out. This time, I come at it from the perspective of this article on how to make friends.
Unfortunately, there's a lot to do on that list. It comes down to basically making myself better as a person to offer more value as a friend, because I'm faced with the fact that I offer very little value after being such a loner for 19 years of my life. Therefore, I wish to work on these three facets of value:
- Conversational value: I don't have much of a problem getting to know people, but I can certainly work on it. I believe that this skill will come to me as I spend more time trying to get to know people and meeting new people.
- Implied value: My implied value is currently extremely low. I'm extremely witty/funny, but that's about all that I have to offer people. My plan for this one is to become an interesting person. More specifically, I'm going to spend a lot more time becoming an expert in the following arenas: environmental science and weight-lifting/diet. Hopefully this list expands as I start doing more things and find out what to become an expert in.
In order to improve myself in environmental science, I will attend all of my classes as well as spend 2 hours in the library working on other assignments or doing my own research on things that interest me about the environment. I will keep track of this by ensuring perfect attendance, as well as keeping a timer on my phone that I must get to 2 hours of time spent in the library focusing on environmental science each day before I can leave the library.
In addition, I'm going to spend more time trying out new activities, generally just checking out and joining in on any of the clubs around campus (and I do mean any; the idea is to expand my worldviews and meet new people each time). My goal for this one is to try out one (1) new activity every week, to be determined on Sunday night.
- Offered value: Finally, I want to offer value to friends in a tangible form outside of conversation. I haven't asked someone to do something with me in years. Therefore, to tie everything together into actually creating my own social circle, I'm going to make an effort to invite people to do things with me after getting to know them.
If I talk to a guy and he mentions he likes to lift weights or would be interested in lifting weights, I'll invite him to lift with me. If I talk to another guy and he says that he enjoys playing video games, I'll hit him up to play some games. If someone else is a movie fanatic I'll check with them and see if they want to check out a movie. If someone else is interested in art, I'll check if they want to go see an art gallery. If someone really likes nature, I'll show them around the nature trail. Etc. etc. etc. It all starts with getting to know the person to know which value I can offer them.
The specific goal for all of this is to get to know people by engaging in new activities, then widening my world view by engaging in other activities with them. In addition, to get to know more people and build social value.
~~~~~
Goals Short-List Reference
- Newbie Assignment
- Try out one (1) new activity each week (club, sport, etc.) to be determined on Sunday of that week.
- When out trying new activity, get to know people and make an effort to provide offered value by inviting them to do an activity that they are interested in.
- Perfect attendance in my classes, 2 hours spent in library each day.
- Follow German Volume Training Method for lifting weights.