Socializing Comprehensive guide on growing your social life after college.

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Given how this is something a lot of us struggle with and even I struggled with, I found this gem on a blog. The guy talks about the truths of social life such as how a lot of Co-Ed sports are a waste of time since it is just guys out there trying to get laid. Even mentions how sports are a waste of time for the most part since as soon as they end, people forget about each other.

I have also found that friendships never happen from bars and nightclubs because people are too busy drinking and socializing with the group they are already there with. Never had any luck making friends through bars and going out, only getting laid and maybe social life through the girls if we hit it off well enough. Nightlife IMO is a waste of time if you are there for anything other than getting laid and getting thrashed.

Definitely agree on Meetup lol, bunch of old dudes preying on the very few women already there who get creeped out by them.

Without further delay though, here is the guide:

How to actually grow your social life.

In my previous post, I talked about why having some sort of a social life is actually a key part of having the results you want with women. Given the name of the site, this is more geared towards g…

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I have also found that friendships never happen from bars and nightclubs because people are too busy drinking and socializing with the group they are already there with. Never had any luck making friends through bars and going out, only getting laid and maybe social life through the girls if we hit it off well enough. Nightlife IMO is a waste of time if you are there for anything other than getting laid and getting thrashed.

Nonsense. Total.

 

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Nonsense. Total.

Any tips then? I'd love to learn how people make friends in those venues. I have hit it off well with a lot of people while having drinks with them and meeting them that night only to find that the next day, it is a "who's this?" type of a number. Could be an American thing too, people here get very tight knit with their groups when they are out and don't go out to party with outsiders. They come to party with their groups and stay stuck tightly in there. Women can be more social if they are into the guy but the guys seem very defensive.

 

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Could be an American thing too

No. I'm american and I agree with Carousel. I've meet all my wings (who went on to become good friends) through nightlife.

 

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Any tips then? I'd love to learn how people make friends in those venues. I have hit it off well with a lot of people while having drinks with them and meeting them that night only to find that the next day, it is a "who's this?" type of a number. Could be an American thing too, people here get very tight knit with their groups when they are out and don't go out to party with outsiders. They come to party with their groups and stay stuck tightly in there. Women can be more social if they are into the guy but the guys seem very defensive.

I dunno what to say because the problem description is totally absurd to me.

Here in Norway we had several social circles around the pickup forum and even after it went defunct, I have entered several new social circles around various venues. Probably the majority of people on my Facebook have at some time been nightlife regulars.

What is true thought is that people you high five in night life may not generally fit very well with you in everyday activities. A lot of them certainly don't because you are exposing yourself to randoms, not people who you have some commonality with. But the sheer number of interactions will ensure some lasting friends and a shitload of more superficial connections.

Also your description of nightlife where you live sound limiting - I refuse to believe that this is generally true in the US.