FR Cringy gym infield

[Ratata]

I have read advice to the exact contrary. Yo get comfortable with approaching, stay in the set until the girl leaves.

Sorry if this is confusing. Beginners should definitively stay in the set longer to push boundaries, and not least get used to the social pressure it creates to be in there, until you're able to relax. Cuz that's how you learn. You learn where the boundaries are. You learn where they are pliable, i.e. where you can push them further. And you learn how to relax into it, so you can have fun. And when you're able to have fun with it, that's when your success will explode.

But once you've gotten "there" and understand the process, and recognize all the signs, then you already know when it's time to wrap it up, cuz you've learned and you already know how the set will go seconds into it. So why waste time?

Moreover, if you leave earlier (once you know because you have learned), you also save your dignity. In turn, she will respect you more, and there's even a chance she - or her friend - might start chasing you.

Btw. this is the idea behind the false time constraint from such places as MM, and the rocking back and forth; that's to elicit the chase through manipulation. But imho you don't even need that if you simply adopt a higher value system.

Instinctually, in my psyche, I want to run a brief, smooth interaction. And also attempt a close as well, due to going to all the trouble of opening.

Absolutely! And this is the bread and butter of it. Just keep it chill. Go through the motions. Then pull the trigger and get some deets or an insta-date. Then escalate from there, or the next meet.

Bearing in mind what you said, I will allow myself to cut it short in the future when I can feel myself beginning to draw blanks when it comes to what to say next and end on a high note.

IMHO there is no harm in it. You'll save your dignity. They will respect you more. And there's another set around the corner. Remember to forgive yourself. With that said, while you're learning, it's probably better to stay a few seconds longer, just to find out. For science!

 

[Maverick2.0]

Hmm, do you think. I saw it more of a soft rejection. So I elaborated that am wouldn't be there often, to make it less awkward incase she was worried I might hassle her.

Unless it's a definite "yeah here's my number" I prefer to err on the side of cautious and back off.

Gym approaches have been some of my favorite recently. This is anecdotal evidence I'm going on from my own experiences: It's pretty rare that a girl offers to train with you. It's pretty rare for a girl to offer anything period. She's a PT, which I assume is 'personal trainer', did that psyche you out that it turned into something too formal? Even then I think it's a fumble to not take the offer.

The gym can turn into a sort of social circle that you can leeway into meeting more girls or at least help you build a reputation that your not just some nobody. My reputation at the gym has actually gotten better since I started approaching there, respect from guys, and more girls knowing who I am.

Every gym is different and it shouldn't be the only place you approach, but I think it's great.